Am I the only one who thinks this assault is not ok

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I am absolutely fuming.

DS 17 was on a night out and returned with a bruise on his face, when I questioned it he said he was messing around with his friends and he went to bed.

I have since had a phone call from his girlfriends mother who informed me that her daughter is pregnant and her husband punched my DS and she told me that he's lucky thats all he got

I woke DS up and he told me that everything's ok and I have to stay out of it.

I am obviously shocked if his gf is pregnant but i'm more worried about the assault that has occurred

What should I do

I know it's not the point of the thread, but where on earth do pp live that the police would be coming out for a punch??

It's the girlfriend I am worried about!!

She is pregnant. She's financially dependent on (and living with) a violent father. Who's to say he hasn't beaten her too and that he won't do so? What's more, her mum thinks this level of violence is okay.

Do you know her at all? Can you (or your son if you don't know her) assure her that she always has a safe place at your house?

@jock it's assault on a minor, they'd come out here.

Does anyone get the feeling the op isn't going to update?

Ahem. You quoted my quote to the OP.

I would never and have never 'Booted anyone in the face'.

Don't quote me as a mad person.

I didn't quote it to the OP, I just quoted it.

If you don't want to be seen as a mad person who'd boot someone in the face, don't post saying that you'd boot people in the face.

What the actual fuck am I reading here? WHY does it follow that the male has done more wrong than the female?

The boy has had sex. With that comes responsibility. Let's see if he's willing to take up that responsibility before condemning him.

Amazing the way the OP's concern is all about her son, not a care in the world for the disaster that's befallen the gf's family. And it is a disaster.

They would come out here too,there was an altercation at my neighbours ,during the xmas period I heard some shouting but didn't see anything ,the police can round the next day to ask if I had seen something

I think the punch is absolutely the thing to be focusing on, what happens with the pregnancy can be discussed and decided Later but having someone uncontrollably violent around a young girl and her future baby is not a good situation.

I think you should talk to your ds about the assault. Then you just need to follow his lead and be there to help him if necessary.

Just a thought,I know nothing about these things but If he goes to the police would that be a potential flag for SS in the future if she chooses to have the baby and is living in that environment?

Amazing the way the OP's concern is all about her son

You people have lost it.

A boy has been assaulted!

Stop project Juells the Op has just found out I imagine it a all a bit of a shock.

Projecting*

Amazing the way the OP's concern is all about her son

Mother concerned about own child.

Stop the press. This is big news.

I’m shocked at the responses here. Yes, you report the assault and threats against your son to the police. Also ask the police to check that your son’s girlfriend is safe. Right now nothing matters more than the safety of the two 17 year olds.

Amazing the way the OP's concern is all about her son, not a care in the world for the disaster that's befallen the gf's family

Jesus Christ.

God whaf andituation! And i honestly was shocked someone suggested arranging a termination for the girl .

Of course your son didn’t deserve to be assaulted but I do think the father had a knee jerk reaction to his 17 year old
Being pregnant. Old fashioned view point as it takes two to tango however I think you can let this slide. Think how
You would feel if it was your daughter. They have got themselves in a mess hopefully her family will calm down and if not your son needs you to be calm involving the police will not help this situation.

As for people in my opinion dramatising this if it was uncontrollably violent it wouldn’t have been one punch. If it occurs again then time for police involvement. Sorry these kids have got themselves in this mess so young.

A reactive punch in a difficult and upsetting and shocking situation from the father, does not make him a 'violent' man, or a threat to his own family's safety.

Omg can't believe this thread! Lucky he only got punched!!! Wtf

So if the situation was changed and it was her daughter and not her son, that got punched that would be ok then?

They're both 17 they both knew the consequences. I don't don't know if you can report it third party but I def would. What a disgraceful violent family your son has got involved with.

Amazing the way the OP's concern is all about her son

Of course she is!

The girl has her own parents who are quite clearly concerned about her given that her father punched a 17 year old boy who had done nothing his own 17 daughter hadn't.

Adults don't respond like that to teenagers. Not decent adults anyway.

A reactive punch in a difficult and upsetting and shocking situation from the father, does not make him a 'violent' man

of course it does. It's the very definition of violence...

I would absolutely report him for assault. That’s unacceptable.

Don't worry @ILikeyourHairyHands I understood your post, and rolled my eyes at the subsequent quoting of your first paragraph, completely out of context!

Think how you would feel if it was your daughter.

Tbh, if this were my daughter, I'd be wondering how I let her down. I'd be kicking myself for not checking she was using contraception and just assuming she was. I'd be frustated that she'd ignored all the good advice I'd given her...

I wouldn't be punching anyone.