To try and persuade DD to not get a tattoo?

[TurquoiseSeal]

DD plays a video game (a lot) and is almost 19. She wants her first tattoo and has had a design done which is literally a character from the game. As she's so young, it might seem cool now, but I really think it's the type you're going to regret, she won't play this game forever. She plans on using the birthday money from us (she is a uni student so doesn't have another way to fund it really) so I'm slightly reluctant to now give money on her birthday. AIBU to have these feelings and persuade her or?

Do tattoos always have to mean something to be valid or taken seriously?

Mine dont,i got them because i liked them.I have about 17 tattoos and theres only 2 i would genuinely change.
A dolphin( so 90s) and woodstock.But hes fading and will be easily covered up.

And is if North London Teens actually know anything

Are the trendy teens actually judging the tattooed people, as lots of posters are accusing then of doing?

They're judging the tattoos and think they are uncool. Doesn't necessarily follow that they think the people who have them are to be scorned and judged.

I think Instagram is very dull. Doesn't mean I hold anything against the people who like it or think they themselves are dull. Different strokes for different folks and all that. I think calling the teens judgemental a*sewipes for having an opinion is rather unfair.

If my parents had paid me not to have any tattoos I'd have loads where they couldn't be seen and take the cash anyway. Unless you're checking? Ew.

@dustarr73 you forgot 'trendy'.
Norf Lahndan Trendy Teens, init.

@BishopBrennansArse forgive me as im not a Norf Lahndan Trendy Teens so dont know the lingo.

Touchy much, tatt people?

No lass, just experiencing secondhand embarrassment for you, your teens and their mates.

Incidentally, Trendy North London Teens is my new band name I have decided.

I have no problems with tattoos at all.
The only proviso/agreement that I have asked my daughter if she decides ever to go ahead with one is to think seriously about the design, put it in a drawer and come back to it six months later. I just want her to know that what she puts on her body us permanent.

#i fully expect her not to take the advice but it sounds reasonable in principle 😂

Lady Honorina, we did tell DD that it's in our Will that both she and DS need to submit to a complete skin examination before they can inherit. If one has a tattoo the other inherits all; if both have tattoos the dogs home gets it! We actually explained that we think it's a mistake to do anything permanent like that. Things change and it's nice to be able to ring the changes. Not be stuck with a childish impulse. Do what you want with hair and clothes. They can be changed easily. Tattoos and piercings leave permanent damage.

I don't get MN sometimes. Why on earth wouldn't a loving parent want to help their DC to avoid making huge mistakes? Potentially abusive relationships, debt, drugs, self mutilation? You can't STOP an adult from doing something they're set on but you can advise against it and explain why. I think a good parent wouldn't sit idly by while their child does stupid things. Don't interfere isn't always the best policy.

"Lady Honorina, we did tell DD that it's in our Will that both she and DS need to submit to a complete skin examination before they can inherit."

😂😂😂

Lady Honorina, we did tell DD that it's in our Will that both she and DS need to submit to a complete skin examination before they can inherit

That is some funny shit right there man.

Do find it hilarious when people say how bad tattoos will look when you're old. As though your average 80 year old gets their skin out and looks fabulous. Actually, I've seen a photo of a pensioner in a bikini who was tattooed from neck to ankle and they looked pretty amazing. Preferable I would say. I think it's no longer related to class, profession or attractiveness anyway. Unless, reiterating my previous post, they are badly done. Then it reflects badly on the person's judgment.

... and on another thread, posters are berating others who would allow their young pre-teen daughter to buy non-permanent eye make-up to muck about with yet on this thread, a permanent body marking is given the thumbs up? I don't understand it myself.

For me - yes to pointless non-permanent eye make up for a kid,
No to paying for a tattoo. If any of my children want one, they can pay for it themselves.

Lady Honorina, we did tell DD that it's in our Will that both she and DS need to submit to a complete skin examination before they can inherit. If one has a tattoo the other inherits all; if both have tattoos the dogs home gets it!

Well that is controlling as fuck! It's more important to me that my children have a secure future, than not have a "permanent mistake" on their body.

If I was your child, I would be holding off on the tattoo plans for now, claiming the inheritance, and then spend a sizeable chunk of it on some really nice, expensive ink.

I think calling the teens judgemental asewipes for having an opinion is rather unfair.*

It’s not because they have an opinion - how ridiculous. It’s the fact that their opinion shows them to be judgemental and snooty, and their fool of a mother boasts about that on Mumsnet.

FGS, teens are discussed as holding all sorts of opinions - lots of them ridiculous. And plenty of MNers describe their DC as ‘trendy’ or similar.

This particular one hit a nerve and posters have particularly tried to send up the parent and DC much more so than other opinions.

And plenty of MNers describe their DC as ‘trendy’ or similar.

I totally disagree - I’ve not seen any parent describe their teenager as “trendy” and I spend a LOT of time on here

Maybe if the poster in question had used the expression in an ironic way - no, scrap that, there’s no way the description “trendy North London teens” could ever be viewed as anything but ridiculous.

@whiteroseredrose

That’s just not true though is it hun.

It’s the fact that their opinion shows them to be judgemental and snooty

Why, because they think something is unfashionable/uncool?

Yep I'd go with the inherit and tattoo my entire body with the proceeds.

With a parent being that controlling to an adult child who needs enemies?

I’d tell them to take their will, roll it up and go and fuck the selves with it.

Why, because they think something is unfashionable/uncool?

No, because they think all tattoos are “unspeakably naff and middle-aged”.

Slight difference.

Would a will like that even be enforceable?

I'd rather be covered head to toe in 'naff' tattoos than be a judgemental, snooty, stuck-up knob. Any day.

Some of the tattoos I have seen recently are beautiful. My tattoo artist is just that, an artist.
He is an absolute genius and so, so talented. The pieces he does are so delicate and the detailing is something else.

I don't understand the mentality that tattoos are dying out either; bearing in mind that I've just booked my 7th (don't all keel over in shock) tattoo with him and have to wait 7 months before he's free.

I don't get MN sometimes. Why on earth wouldn't a loving parent want to help their DC to avoid making huge mistakes? Potentially abusive relationships, debt, drugs, self mutilation

Yes, you would be right to help your DC avoidthose problems.

But tattoos are not any of those things.

I don't personally like tattoos as to me they are a mutilation . This seems particularly true when they are chosen by the young with their beautiful skin and bodies. I realise that this is my personal view and at variance with that of my DC . I am sure that they know my feelings as I am even queasy about ear piercings. I don't think Unrequested advice is often heeded. Your DD is an adult and able to make this choice for herself.you might feel that your conscience dictates that you should let her know that you have mis givings about tattoos but 'telling' her what to do or manipulating in some way isn't ethical imho.
My DD acquired a tiny , hidden tattoo at 18 and I hate it but it is her body and life and money for that matter I have just had to 'get over myself'.
My impression is that the tattoo fashion for the young is waning now that every 50+ has or is planning one.