To be pissed off with DPs self inflicted health related sickness

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DP (Age 50+) has a life long condition managed successfully with daily medication.
We have been together for 3 years & live together.
In the 3 years he has had about 15 ‘episodes ‘ which result in 4-5 days of recovery
Day 1 : cannot move except to use the loo
Day 2 : able to shower but can’t form sentences or move beyond moving to the settee
Day 3 : headachy & slow movements
Until back to normal day 5-6

I have absolute sympathy for this condition.
My issue is that every single episode has been caused by partying which he knows is the cause.
So since 6am on NYD I have been attending to his every whim. Under normal circumstances I would have absolutely no problem doing so but he has basically been drunk for the entire holiday period & now I’m walking on egg shells so he can recover .
He says I’m being unsympathetic

Sorry if I’ve missed this information OP, but presumably he doesn’t work due to his appalling sick record that is self-inflicted. Presumably he is also unable to drive due to uncontrolled epilepsy incidents (also self-inflicted) and has reported all this to DVLA.

It seems to me that it is not his epilepsy that is uncontrolled, but his drinking.

My adult DD is epileptic and will have the occasional alcoholic drink but monitors herself really carefully because she is responsible about her epilepsy and her medication. She intends to learn to drive once she’s graduated and knows it is imperative to keep herself seizure free.

What you have there, OP, sounds like an irresponsible child.

Many years ago epileptics were incarcerated in asylums away from society. Today we have wonderful medications and knowledge to help manage seizures in many cases so that epileptics can live as normal lives as possible. Your DP sounds very selfish, I’m afraid.

Why exactly is he so badly incapacitated for so many days - does he have a TC seizure each time? It must be a very bad one to have such a severe after effects (and I can totally understand how it could be so severe).

this is my confusion, why is he literally incapacitated for 5 full days. OP really hasn’t explained.