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Fucking bitches

616 replies

LindaLa · 30/12/2018 11:39

Up until very recently (last night), I had a group of 4 very close friends.

I recently had an upset of a childhood (sexual) trauma that I've told no one about. One of my friends was here when this happened and I opened up to her, she was supportive and i felt great, lighter.

Last night we all meet for drinks and exchange gifts. We all exchange various supermarket vouchers and have done since our "babies" were babies.

She makes a comment about a paedofile arrest made near her and then says "surprised you don't know him Linda, you were paedofile fodder"
Other people laugh and start questioning me about what happened.

She has told them everything.

I being questioned in a bar. A crowded bar.

I have grabbed my things and left.

Took their things out of my car and left them on the kerb.
I have blocked them. Everywhere.

I have been to supermarkets and spent all the vouchers, put it all in the food bank.

Fuck them.

OP posts:
Squirrelslostnut · 30/12/2018 13:17

Both you and your son are awesome. I hope 2019 brings you new friendships which truly appreciate your strength and qualities

MrsChollySawcutt · 30/12/2018 13:18

Just gobsmacked at the behaviour of these 'friends' to you OP. Cut them out and make sure everyone knows they have done something very wrong. You can do that without having to give away your private information.

I'd be tempted to texted something like this back to the 'friends' children: 'Your mother and the others are upset because they have said things that no right thinking person would ever say and now they are worried and anxious that I will tell everyone just how low they are'.

MissionItsPossible · 30/12/2018 13:19

FUCKING HELL that is AWFUL. Who the fuck would say something like that and who the fuck would laugh? So sorry for you

Lana1234 · 30/12/2018 13:19

Your son sounds like a top lad and a credit to you. God I can’t believe they are trying to play victim now, you are so much better off without them Flowers

GlitterStick · 30/12/2018 13:21

@willow2017 missed that the friends already knew, you're right - no excuses at all if so. Not one.

thebear1 · 30/12/2018 13:22

They are horrible people op. Good on you for making a stand.

SandunesAndRainclouds · 30/12/2018 13:24

Oh. My. Fucking. God.

I’ve heard of some dispicable stuff before, but that is the lowest of the low. And not one of them stepped in to defend or support you? That’s cruel. Unforgivable.

You’re right. They don’t deserve you.

NatashaRomanov · 30/12/2018 13:25

Oh wow.
@LindaLa, I have no words. Those women are despicable.

But it sounds like you have a fantastic son. You must have done a good job with him. Smile

OhDearGodLookAtThisMess · 30/12/2018 13:25

Bloody hell!
This is one of the worst things I've ever read on here (and I've been here a LONG time!)

So sorry. BlushThanks

OhDearGodLookAtThisMess · 30/12/2018 13:25

Oops sorry about the Blush

Bertiebitch32 · 30/12/2018 13:28

I'm assuming your twatish ex friends hav'nt told the offspring the truth and possibly even alterd it to come out looking like victims. I'm so sorry you've been put through this but personally I would tell the kids the real truth and anyone else that pokes there noses in and let people see what dicks they are Flowers

Ginkythefangedhellpigofdoom · 30/12/2018 13:28

Your son is brilliant!

thegingeningeclansmum · 30/12/2018 13:29

Your son is amazing because he has an amazing mum. I'm so sorry your friends turned out to be anything but, you hold your head up high 😘

IvyChime · 30/12/2018 13:29

Fuck them! Good on you for getting rid of them. Honestly not heard anything so shocking before, amazed people could be that shameless and headless in one go.

MrsDannyRicc · 30/12/2018 13:30

Your son is fantastic.

You are fantastic.

I can't begin to understand these so called 'friends' - your childhood trauma is not gossip, and it's certainly nothing to make light of. For various reasons many people have confided in me over the years ( in part it's the nature of the job I do, and I think that makes people feel safe to speak) - and never have I passed that information on to others that don't know - no matter how close the person that confided in me is to whoever else I am speaking to. It's not anyone else's story to tell.

You have dealt with it beautifully. I'm so glad your son is there to deal with the shit.

Can't believe that they have their children messaging him! I'm assuming HE hasn't blocked them and they could message him direct.

So not only have they betrayed you, they are cowards. They have well and truly shown their true colours.

Holidayshopping · 30/12/2018 13:31

You’ve had more than one texts from different friends’ adult children asking what’s happened. Of course they know exactly what’s gone on.

slappinthebass · 30/12/2018 13:31

I actually find the 'pedophile fodder' comment far worse than telling your story. Was it the friend you'd spoken to about it that made that comment? What a truly disgusting person.

Sarcelle · 30/12/2018 13:32

When I saw the title I thought it was a reference to a bad family Christmas. I did not expect to read, or even imagine, what your post was actually about. So shocking.

Were they drunk? That must surely be the answer? That does not excuse them at all, not funny under any circumstances. It's just such a totally bizarre thing to find funny. And about a friend!

Was the one who betrayed your trust one of the ones who has tried to get in contact by proxy? They will be having a shit New Year for sure. As they deserve.

So sorry for you. Your son sounds fab.
Thanks

Greenkit · 30/12/2018 13:33

Terrible behaviour from them

MadeForThis · 30/12/2018 13:33

One of the worst things I have ever heard on here. So sorry. Stay strong x

PotteryLady · 30/12/2018 13:34

I'm truly shocked and think you have had good grace. All of them are vile.

Mummysharkdoodoodoo · 30/12/2018 13:35

God I wish I could be your friend! You sound perfect ❤️ Bloody love someone who loves the word Cunt too! 😂

acatcalledjohn · 30/12/2018 13:36

Your friends, who officially didn't know about your abuse, started questioning you in a public place about said abuse?

I won't even go in to the one who did know and referred to you as "prime paedophile fodder".

Wow.

You'd have to be seriously fucking impaired to think that questioning a victim in such a light hearted manner is ok. No amount of apologising will ever make that any better.

You sound bloody fab, as does your DS.

Have the most wonderful new year, @LindaLa! May karma hit the bitches where it hurts them the most.

MagentaRocks · 30/12/2018 13:37

I'm disgusted by this but glad you have the support of your wonderful son and the responses on here have made you feel you are not alone.

Life is too short to have toxic people in your life. You will be much happier knowing you only have supportive people in your life now.

And always remember this incident tells you all you need to know about them and how you have handled it says so much about your strength.

Branleuse · 30/12/2018 13:38

oh my god, wow. thats awful