Fucking bitches

[LindaLa]

Up until very recently (last night), I had a group of 4 very close friends.

I recently had an upset of a childhood (sexual) trauma that I've told no one about. One of my friends was here when this happened and I opened up to her, she was supportive and i felt great, lighter.

Last night we all meet for drinks and exchange gifts. We all exchange various supermarket vouchers and have done since our "babies" were babies.

She makes a comment about a paedofile arrest made near her and then says "surprised you don't know him Linda, you were paedofile fodder"
Other people laugh and start questioning me about what happened.

She has told them everything.

I being questioned in a bar. A crowded bar.

I have grabbed my things and left.

Took their things out of my car and left them on the kerb.
I have blocked them. Everywhere.

I have been to supermarkets and spent all the vouchers, put it all in the food bank.

Fuck them.

You haven’t been harsh at all, and your text reply is perfectly fine. So they should be upset, they should also be knocking on your door offering their deepest apologies

I'm now about to make original friend hated (even more) by mumsnet.

The only part that is making me giggle is that I donated everything to the food bank. Original friend is anti food bank. Thinks they should go and get a job that pays better and stop having children!

This from a woman who thinks that the film "crazy, rich Asians" was about the middle class scrimping.

I'm not joking.

Sorry, I misunderstood. Had she told them all about it before you all met up?

In that case no possible mitigation for any of them.

It really gob smacks me how in this day and age women can be so stupid about sexual abuse. Such internalised misogyny.

OP you are magnificent. Those “friends” have lost an incredible person from their lives (and deservedly so).

So glad your son is there, take care of your lovely self

Yes, her Hate-o-Meter level just hit Mars, I think, zooming right of the scale.

The only part that is making me giggle is that I donated everything to the food bank. Original friend is anti food bank. Thinks they should go and get a job that pays better and stop having children!

Yet you were really good friends with her? She doesn’t sound very nice.

Whose vouchers did you spend? Vouchers that had given to you, or vouchers that had been given to the others as presents?

Fuck them op. Well done for donating their gift to the food bank and leaving their shit on the kerb.

@Linda that is funny! And karma - pity there's no way she'll find out she donated by proxy!

PS hope I didn't make you feel worse

How fucking dare they??

Definitely fuck them. You did the right thing sweetheart. Sending hugs

That is one seriously nasty mind to even think that phrase, let alone verbalise it. I hope they feel extreme guilt for a very long time.

Vouchers that were given to me and a couple I hadn't given yet.

Oh well.

The food bank comment is, usually, the only nasty thing I've heard from her. Although now I'm thinking what else does she say behind my back.

I used to think she was joking but now...

Wow. Not only a total lack of confidence from your friend but also how odd the way the others have reacted to it. Is this all totally out of character for them ?

@posthistoricmonsters your post moved me to tears. So sorry you had to survive such a betrayal

@DanielRicciardosSmile

Of course not.

I'm actually laughing about it now.

I have to.
Know they are feeling like shit whilst I'm getting this support is doing me no end of good!

My son has had messages from their kids and he has replied with "when your mothers want to explain their actions to me, we can talk. I only want to hear from your mothers"
On a group chat thing.

He says we have nothing to hide.

I could burst.

OP you are better off without those hateful witches! Your lads sound amazing

To get more support from strangers than from anyone real is making me cry. You're all cunts, I love you.
I hope your ex-friends have a lightbulb moment and realise the disgusting nature of their behaviour...and the shame burns their souls for eternity...they are abusers themselves to belittle and laughs at another’s awful experience.
I think you’re brilliant...(and your boy and the lads)...

I'm speechless and angry on your behalf.

What kind of women are they and to think they are mothers also😣 complete and utter bitches is right. They really dont have a clue and lets hope they never do. Idiot's

Your son and his friends sound lovely.

@QwertyLou thanks. Don't let tears happen though. I shed enough at the time. I've got my happily ever after now. Nothing is perfect but I've moved on so far from those cows.

OP it's good to be able to have a laugh and it's part of processing it. You're obviously lovely and I do think it would be perfect if your ex friends could read this thread.

What dreadful people.

This is possibly one of the worst example of 'friends' I have ever read about! What absolute awful cunting bastards they are! Who jokes about stuff like that?!
Paedophile fodder? I worry for their children I really do. Sick sick fuckers.
Hope you are okay OP you are dealing with this really well. I would have gone apoplectic and punched every one of them in the mouth

Big hugs.
I also lost friends in a moment through deceit. You know what? It got better and I have better friends. They mean nothing to me now. You got this x

Good for your son. He sounds as amazing as his mum.

And so glad you've found yourself able to laugh now. You have all our support here, and your ex-friends will find they get their just desserts I'm certain. And not anything like either!

for you.

I've had a text from a couple of their adult children asking why their mum is so upset.

They know way more than they’re letting on. Adult children don’t just start texting their mothers’ friends to find out why their mother is upset - they’ll have pushed her for info first and she’ll have had to say something, even if it’s a long way from the truth. Surely they would have asked ‘Why don’t you just ring Linda?’ They must know she’s been blocked. They’re putting out the feelers to see how much you’ll say.