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Fucking bitches

616 replies

LindaLa · 30/12/2018 11:39

Up until very recently (last night), I had a group of 4 very close friends.

I recently had an upset of a childhood (sexual) trauma that I've told no one about. One of my friends was here when this happened and I opened up to her, she was supportive and i felt great, lighter.

Last night we all meet for drinks and exchange gifts. We all exchange various supermarket vouchers and have done since our "babies" were babies.

She makes a comment about a paedofile arrest made near her and then says "surprised you don't know him Linda, you were paedofile fodder"
Other people laugh and start questioning me about what happened.

She has told them everything.

I being questioned in a bar. A crowded bar.

I have grabbed my things and left.

Took their things out of my car and left them on the kerb.
I have blocked them. Everywhere.

I have been to supermarkets and spent all the vouchers, put it all in the food bank.

Fuck them.

OP posts:
subspace · 31/12/2018 21:36

Any update Linda? X

MissionItsPossible · 31/12/2018 21:39

Hope you’re ok OP. I read this the first time round and tbh If I read it again I’d be more furious and shocked a second time round. Hope you have a good new year - with some new friends.

Original poster
LindaLa · 31/12/2018 21:40

@jadfiewahnds

Why?
Did you think I was lying?
I wish I was.

When I started this thread it was full of support and I started being ok.

Then it was gone.
No message from mumsnet (I've had an apology) and threads started about me ridiculing me.

This is why people don't talk

Not attacking you, just how I feel.

OP posts:
BeekyChitch · 31/12/2018 21:42

What fucking cows. I'm glad you acted the way you did! They will be fuming.

GrandmaSteglitszch · 31/12/2018 21:44

That's very poor of MN.
You're well shot of those "friends", Linda.

jadfiewahnds · 31/12/2018 21:45

@LindaLa I didn't think you were lying at all love! I'm really glad you got your thread back despite the snidey posts, seriously gets on my nerves. It's quite unusual to see threads come back though, HQ have a tough job and I'm glad they got it right this time.
Tbh this was one of the threads I really hoped wasn't real purely because of the terrible way your dickhead "friends" treated you. I'm so sorry it happened to you Flowers

Tjzmummabear · 31/12/2018 21:45

I'm sorry that you were hurt. She's a total cow. Have you had any counselling?

coppercolouredtop · 31/12/2018 21:47

not been on here and not seen anything of this but op i think you are an amazingly strong fantastic lady of epic suriviving brilliant proportions and i salute youre stance on this horrible horrible bunch of nasty witches!

i have no idea why anyone could or would feel it ok to ridicule you or comment.

i hope you have a wonderful new start in the new year. (without a bunch of nasty trolling gossipy bitches)
x

BarbaraRoyale · 31/12/2018 21:48

I believe you Lindala, glad this post has been reinstated
I was worried about you, you deserve support right now, not questioning

Tjzmummabear · 31/12/2018 21:49

Just seen counselling doesn't help huge hugs x can see why they were divorcees

scotmum1977 · 31/12/2018 21:50

@omg this is awful, what nasty horrid people. I hope you are ok xxx

Paradyning · 31/12/2018 21:53

💐 OP
& 🙌 for your awesome revenge. Glad your boys are looking after you well.

Original poster
LindaLa · 31/12/2018 21:53

@jadfiewahnds
Sorry if I feel I snapped at you.
It's been quite an emotional couple of days!

I swear I'm a lovely person, honest.

OP posts:
Otterseatpuffinsdontthey · 31/12/2018 21:53

Q

jadfiewahnds · 31/12/2018 21:56

@LindaLa I didn't feel snapped at at all, don't worry!
Please keep posting, there is so much support on here - and fuck the naysayers Grin

Ledehe · 31/12/2018 21:56

This is one of the worst things I have ever heard. Absolutely evil. You are better off without them all.

But please don't let this put you off confideing in a friend in the future. They won't all be so disgusting and why shouldn't you speak about it if you need to

mynameisMrG · 31/12/2018 21:58

So glad this thread has reappeared @LindaLa, I have been thinking about you a lot over the last day.
Hope you can enjoy New Years knowing you have done the right thing and those evil witches are left knowing what awful people they are.
Sending hugs xxx

BumbleBeee69 · 31/12/2018 22:01

OP ignore people who would prefer you to roll over and have dirt kicked in your face than DEFEND yourself against ignorant spiteful bitches.

You did the right thing, move onward and upward.

Happy New Year Linda Flowers

Redshoeblueshoe · 31/12/2018 22:01

Wow. You are amazing.
The food bank idea was inspired.
I wish you and your fabulous DS a great New Year 🍷

Original poster
LindaLa · 31/12/2018 22:08

Thank you all 💐

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Joysandsorrows · 31/12/2018 22:08

It’s this exact type of shit that makes women & men not talk about sexual abuse to anyone. My own mother made a vile comment to me about abuse knowing I had been a victim myself. My heart felt like it was going to explode when I heard her. So, so damaging. There are no words to make it better but respect to you for following your gut & ditching them. Hope you are ok today.

ZoSanDesu · 31/12/2018 22:09

Love that your first reaction after the incident was to spend the bitches money and donate donate donate! Awesome strength of character. Carry on, lady. Onwards!

MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig · 31/12/2018 22:11

Oh my god Linda. I too have read this thread with my jaw slack. I can’t believe anyone could be so utterly unaware and cruel as to do that to a so-called friend. How absolutely thick as mince are they? I really hope they’re bloody squirming now. Awful, awful people.

And very sorry for what you’ve been through and well done for coming through it. Flowers

Groovee · 31/12/2018 22:12

I'm glad this thread has been reinstated.

Hoping you are ok. What is your son doing for NY?

Upanddownandroundagain · 31/12/2018 22:13

I hate to say it... could she have mentioned it to the others thinking it would help if they knew, so they could all support you? Obviously that is still really wrong, and the things they said to you in the bar sound horrendous. But, just the first bit, she might not have been treating it as gossip and her original intention might have been good. I’m not saying this to excuse them because they acted like fucking twats, but it might make you feel a bit better?