Fucking bitches

[LindaLa]

Up until very recently (last night), I had a group of 4 very close friends.

I recently had an upset of a childhood (sexual) trauma that I've told no one about. One of my friends was here when this happened and I opened up to her, she was supportive and i felt great, lighter.

Last night we all meet for drinks and exchange gifts. We all exchange various supermarket vouchers and have done since our "babies" were babies.

She makes a comment about a paedofile arrest made near her and then says "surprised you don't know him Linda, you were paedofile fodder"
Other people laugh and start questioning me about what happened.

She has told them everything.

I being questioned in a bar. A crowded bar.

I have grabbed my things and left.

Took their things out of my car and left them on the kerb.
I have blocked them. Everywhere.

I have been to supermarkets and spent all the vouchers, put it all in the food bank.

Fuck them.

How extraordinary

Quite. I'm interested to see what happens over the new year. How will they react next, I wonder.

Right.

I unblocked long enough to receive any messages. None.

Checked my email. Nothing.

My phone line hasn't been rung by them.

I'm obviously not of any concern to them at all.

There are nicer ways to end a friendship though.

I have posted a status/picture of:
I will no longer be anyones fodder.

Bitches can sort themselves.

Maybe their embarrassed, maybe they really don't care. Regardless same result.

I didn't there was anything that people could do that would shock me, but this has. It beggars belief that people can think that this is an acceptable thing to do on any level.

I can not imagine being in a group where someone spoke about such a horrific experience in such a way, if it was in my friendship group I would absolutely have said something, and it would have left them in no doubt what I thought of them trivialising something so awful.

OP you have been very dignified and strong, your son and his friends sound amazing

Maybe it would be better to get it all out there and have an almighty explosion
You know, get all of the drama out of the way in one go so to speak.
It would be a shame to drag it all out.
I mean it would spoil the rest of the holidays and it’s caused enough nonsense already
Xx

Ugh can you troll hunters seriously fuck off with your sly little digs?

If in doubt report. Nobody thinks you're clever

I'm absolutely gobsmacked that none of them have tried to get in touch. So all that going through their children and your son was not because they had tried to sort it out with you first? If you are certain that your various forms of communication will tell you if a message bounced while blocked, then... wow. I'm speechless. It's hard to come to any conclusion other than they think you're in the wrong...?!

I was with you 100% until you mentioned posting that comment on social media (I assume).

When people read those statuses, we tend to think "attention seeking much" and it's just really silly. Either confront them or do nothing, but don't post cryptic rubbish on social media. If people start commenting and asking what's wrong, are you going to be comfortable posting a public reply telling all about the abuse you suffered in order to explain why you are angry with your friends?

And what if one of them, or something they know, comments underneath with their side of the things and in that comment the reveal intimate details about the abuse you suffered?

Unless those details are details you want to become public, then keep your comments out of the public eye on social media.

It's not unbelievable, sadly, people do very vile things to each other. You only need to read a lot of the threads on Mumsnet to know that

I'm not sure MN threads are a reliable source of evidence for human behaviour more generally. You only need to look at how many threads get deleted on a daily basis to realise that there's a huge amount of rubbish posted on here.

How awful

Nasty bitches and yes,New Year’s Eve is still on....without them!Can’t believe how shitty some people can be. for you OP

im disgusted at them your better off without them op x

SheCameFromGreece yes ...

Hmmmm not sure what the cryptic social media post will achieve tbh other than make you look bad and them the victims

There's a lot of people getting involved and affected already, your son, their adult children, probably the friend who throws the nye bash, and cryptic clues on social media will just add unnecessary fuel.

Why dont you send them a sensible message saying how shocked and hurt you were by knowing they'd discussed your past and were making it laughing matter. If they reply with an apology then graciously say thanks for the apology and leave it at that . You already know the friendships over

Oh I'm so very sorry - what a horrendous betrayal of your trust by this so-called friend.

@ChrisjenAvasarala

They've only said to others that we've had a disagreement.
At the moment I don't care what they tell others.

I'll just say " I shouldn't have opened up about my horrific childhood to a gossip and paedofile sympathiser"

Actions speak louder than words. It hurts when people you thought were friends aren't but mix in CSA and their minimizing makes it clear they never were. It sucks but in dumping them you have made an upgrade.

I wouldn't bother with a group chat. They know what they did and have already justified in their own minds that you've 'blown it out of proportion" (you certainly have NOT). I usually find that dignified silence works best. That and cutting them out of your life with laser precision. You sound like a truly lovely person and I have no doubt that you'll make new friends, better friends, friends who deserve you, quite easily!

I'm sure they've already told their kids something. I doubt if it's the truth and it's not likely they'll tell them the truth at any point. How on earth could they without coming off looking like total cunts. More likely they said just that "Linda stormed off upset the other night and we have no idea why!!".

I'm absolutely gobsmacked that none of them have tried to get in touch. So all that going through their children and your son was not because they had tried to sort it out with you first?

I wonder what they've told their children, for them to start messaging the OP, then messaging her son to see if a mutual friend has cancelled the NYE party too?

They can't have told them the truth, surely?

And who has reported back about the rumours of a 'spat'?

Just wanted to say thank you for the support that was offered on here.

So what happens now?

Appaling. They are appalling. Fodder- makes me shudder, the word. Let new year bring better friends than them bitches.

Hey OP, hope you're ok - surprised to see your thread back, hopefully it will stop the troll hunters and their boring digs!

Wow. Just wow. What a bunch of witches!

Jesus!!  my jaw literally dropped.

Mine too. Literally , dropped open

What
The
Actual
Fuck

There is no word bad enough to describe those people

I hope this gets picked up by the print papers and they are plastered across page 1

That's evil on some scale