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Fucking bitches

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LindaLa · 30/12/2018 11:39

Up until very recently (last night), I had a group of 4 very close friends.

I recently had an upset of a childhood (sexual) trauma that I've told no one about. One of my friends was here when this happened and I opened up to her, she was supportive and i felt great, lighter.

Last night we all meet for drinks and exchange gifts. We all exchange various supermarket vouchers and have done since our "babies" were babies.

She makes a comment about a paedofile arrest made near her and then says "surprised you don't know him Linda, you were paedofile fodder"
Other people laugh and start questioning me about what happened.

She has told them everything.

I being questioned in a bar. A crowded bar.

I have grabbed my things and left.

Took their things out of my car and left them on the kerb.
I have blocked them. Everywhere.

I have been to supermarkets and spent all the vouchers, put it all in the food bank.

Fuck them.

OP posts:
PattiStanger · 30/12/2018 15:30

Rather than messages via third parties might it be an idea to explain in your own words via a group message so there can be no misunderstandings and your friends are in no doubt about how bad thier behaviour was.

Original poster
LindaLa · 30/12/2018 15:30

@Dogsmellssobadbob

I'm upset with all of them as it was a busy bar, they knew what they were doing.

She'd obviously told them before the bar.

The sad thing is, thinking on it, they don't do much for me at all.

I'm very much a pleaser.

So I can walk away and stop caring.

OP posts:
Holidayshopping · 30/12/2018 15:31

What is supposed to be happening at New Year?

Holidayshopping · 30/12/2018 15:32

I'm upset with all of them as it was a busy bar, they knew what they were doing.

What do you mean by ‘they knew what they were doing’?

LordProfFekkoThePenguinPhD · 30/12/2018 15:32

No contact?

Therealjudgejudy · 30/12/2018 15:32

Yes they are vile bitches.

You however OP are a dignified superstar. And you raised a gent in your son. I'm full of admiration for how you reacted to this situation. That takes courage and class Flowers

subspace · 30/12/2018 15:35

@Dogsmellssobadbob

Maybe because they laughed. Ha ha, somebody just outed our mate as a childhood sexual abuse survivor, that's really fucking funny merry christmas. If they'd have demonstrated empathy don't you think op would have reacted differently?

I'd love to be a fly on the wall in the bitches houses right now.

Also (op) I am loving the casual way your rock solid (still a God in my eyes - is he single?!) son is casually returning all of the bucks back to the adult children who are (stupidly) texting him.

MinorRSole · 30/12/2018 15:35

This is horrific, I'm of the age where not a lot shocks me but this really has. Not for the first time I find myself wondering wtf is wrong with people.
I'm glad you left their stuff on the kerb op, I hope a dog pissed on the lot.
The food bank idea was brilliant - shows exactly what kind of person you are Thanks

Original poster
LindaLa · 30/12/2018 15:35

@Holidayshopping

A party.

My son and his mates were going to go to.

A group of handsome, polite service men improve any party.

OP posts:
subspace · 30/12/2018 15:37

@PattiStanger

Rather than messages via third parties might it be an idea to explain in your own words via a group message so there can be no misunderstandings and your friends are in no doubt about how bad thier behaviour was.

I mean if they have to have it explained to them they're pretty fucking beyond redemption don't you think Xmas Hmm

QuizzlyBear · 30/12/2018 15:39

What an utter, utter bitch! I'm so sorry OP Thanks

TidyDancer · 30/12/2018 15:39

Sending lots of love OP. You've handled this admirably and with more dignity than those bitches will ever have - and although I wish none of this had happened to you I'm glad you've been able to find support here. Your DS sounds fab too!

PeroniZuchini · 30/12/2018 15:39

Op just want to check in my support here. What a remarkable woman you sound. Here’s to a wonderful 2019 free from such cow bags Flowers Wine Gin

Original poster
LindaLa · 30/12/2018 15:40

I'm thinking about unblocking whatsapp and making a group chat between them and me.

Pretty much so I can say "what happened in my past is not your story and whatever you think of me, I will no longer be Bitch fodder.

Do not contact or speak of me again."

OP posts:
SheCameFromGreeceSheHadaThirst · 30/12/2018 15:40

A party.
My son and his mates were going to go to.
A group of handsome, polite service men improve any party.

Were you meant to be hosting the NYE party? I'm not clear why their children are asking your son if the party is still on unless it was your/his party. Or have I misunderstood?

Bertiebitch32 · 30/12/2018 15:40

@lindaLa I'm so proud of you! You are awesome, to help with the coven of bitches they've done you a big favour. I'd also like to Thank you for what you did with the vouchers as I'm definitely sure the food banks will be in need Flowers

trojanpony · 30/12/2018 15:41

I read this whole thread slack jawed

What an absolutely horrid phrase - I have never heard it before but it’s appalling!?

Is it bitchfaces kids that are messaging you and your son??? Or one of the others ones?
It is SUCH a weird thing for them to message you Confused
I can only imagine she is doing this because she is going to try and play the victim

Ps. Please pick this up dailymail!!!

Bertiebitch32 · 30/12/2018 15:41

To hell * with the coven of bitches

fluffiphlox · 30/12/2018 15:42

They are thick and cruel.

Otterseatpuffinsdontthey · 30/12/2018 15:43

Q

CoughLaughFart · 30/12/2018 15:45

I wouldn’t bother unblocking them, even briefly. They’ll see it as a way back in - i.e. any contact is better than no contact.

WeCameToDance · 30/12/2018 15:46

I have been lurking on this thread as I dont really have the words to describe how horrifically your so called friends have treated you. I do want to say how brilliantly you have handled it. I hope this results in the slow kind of karma where they realise bit by bit how much they miss you. And they will miss you. Not only for all the practical things you have done for them but because none of them seem to have the emotional inteligence to be there for each other through lifes downfalls. Its easy to be the best of friends when lifes all glitzy parties and bitchy comments, not so much when its marriage problems and health scares (not that im wishing those on anyone, more there part and parcel with living). They will realise what an amazing person they have lost. Im so very sorry at how you have been treated and I hope this new year is a good one for you.

elaine26 · 30/12/2018 15:49

They're awful, how insensitive
Sorry this happened to you OP and you are totally justified in your actions. They all owe you a grovelling apology. Sending hugs

Littlechocola · 30/12/2018 15:50

You are fabulous op

PattiStanger · 30/12/2018 15:51

@subspace - who knows what the larger group of friends were told, I'm not making excuses for them but as everyone on this thread is incredulous at their behaviour it would be sensible to make sure that there aren't any misunderstandings. As it's so unlikely that multiple friends would all behave so badly imo there's a possibility that they don't fully understand the situation.

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