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Fucking bitches

616 replies

LindaLa · 30/12/2018 11:39

Up until very recently (last night), I had a group of 4 very close friends.

I recently had an upset of a childhood (sexual) trauma that I've told no one about. One of my friends was here when this happened and I opened up to her, she was supportive and i felt great, lighter.

Last night we all meet for drinks and exchange gifts. We all exchange various supermarket vouchers and have done since our "babies" were babies.

She makes a comment about a paedofile arrest made near her and then says "surprised you don't know him Linda, you were paedofile fodder"
Other people laugh and start questioning me about what happened.

She has told them everything.

I being questioned in a bar. A crowded bar.

I have grabbed my things and left.

Took their things out of my car and left them on the kerb.
I have blocked them. Everywhere.

I have been to supermarkets and spent all the vouchers, put it all in the food bank.

Fuck them.

OP posts:
Justaboutawake · 30/12/2018 14:47

You can just imagine the group chat they’re probably having to try and justify/ excuse their behaviours with each other . It will start out guiltily and then they will become full of righteous indignation and result in the end of the friendship being your fault for “over reacting”

TooManyPaws · 30/12/2018 14:48

OP, I am sorry that you had to go through all that, the original abuse, the triggering, and then the betrayal by those thundercunts.

However, I am in awe of your strength of character and your self-possession with their things, the food bank, etc, at such an awful time. You are an amazing person and have brought up a strong and good man in your son. (And as a former Jenny, Bravo Zulu to him for having your back so well.)

They didn't deserve you as a friend. ❤️

Justaboutawake · 30/12/2018 14:49

PS not saying you did overreact... I would’ve done much worse in the same situation.... maybe post some dog shit through their doors

Bertiebitch32 · 30/12/2018 14:49

Im wondering what carol 020 said to get deleted?

SeaViewBliss · 30/12/2018 14:49

LindaLa you are kick ass awesome and so is your DS.

I’m sorry you had to go through all that in the past and then have so called friends betray you and laugh about it.

Sending you FlowersGinCakeBrew whichever you prefer!

GTrules · 30/12/2018 14:50

That is the most shocking thing I have bet heard! What possess people to be so horrible and make light of what must have been a horrible thing to happen to anyone. Hope you got them told!

SymphonyofShadows · 30/12/2018 14:50

Bertie she was troll hunting

Lizzie48 · 30/12/2018 14:51

@Bertiebitch32

It was a very unkind troll hunting post, I'm very glad it was deleted so quickly, MNHQ. The OP shou

Stressedout10 · 30/12/2018 14:52

@Bertie she was troll hunting in a rather unpleasant way

Lizzie48 · 30/12/2018 14:52

Oops! The post should have finished, the OP shouldn't have to put up with posts like that. Hmm

AlwaysSomethingThere · 30/12/2018 14:53

I read what Carol wrote but didn't really get it 🤔

ChasedByBees · 30/12/2018 14:54

Wow, that was beyond disgusting. You’re better off without them.

LindaLa · 30/12/2018 14:56

Aw didn't see carols thread.

Shame, I now have backbone of steel. (Made up of mumsnetters!)

Loving all this support.

😁

OP posts:
mywigwamneedsnewflaps · 30/12/2018 14:56

Bitches , not worthy of your friendship , glad you have deleted them from your life ThanksThanks

mimibunz · 30/12/2018 15:01

So sorry, OP. The term ‘thundercunt’ comes to mind.

Luvey · 30/12/2018 15:11

OP I'm in awe of your strength of character and your gutsy actions setting their stuff on the kerb! Swear I'm gonna take inspiration from you and stop taking people's shit!

Glad you're finding this thread supportive.

Your ex friends are a pack of witches

whassupmissus · 30/12/2018 15:13

They are total bitches. You poor thing Thanks

AnnieOnAMapleLeaf · 30/12/2018 15:15

I had to re-read your post twice to make sure I read it right as I couldn't wrap my head around someone acting like that. Utter cunts...the lot of them.

Well done to you for removing yourself from the situation and removing them from your life. You sound amazing and strong and you deserve so much more from people you class as friends. Thanks

LindaLa · 30/12/2018 15:15

@TooManyPaws

I told my son what you said, his reply "why, my turn to care"

I often look at both of my kids (one at uni abroad) and wonder how they happened.

My son had a text from mutual kids friends asking if New Years is still on.

He asked why what've you heard?

No response yet.

OP posts:
The80sweregreat · 30/12/2018 15:18

Sorry to read this.
Head up high and I hope you make new and better friends soon.
Take care.

Thatsalovelycuppatea · 30/12/2018 15:20

Wtf she is a bitch. I agree it's not until you open up to people, that you realise who your real friends are!!! You did the right thing walking out on them

Dogsmellssobadbob · 30/12/2018 15:20

Why are you cross with them all?
Wasn’t it the one who broke your trust by telling everyone and also used that revolting fodder term that is to be cast off?

I get the others asked questions but could it be they were asking out of concern?

yawning801 · 30/12/2018 15:20

Bloody hell, well done you OP. You can now wash your hands of them. They've showed you their true colours and you have listened, and well done for doing that!

Maelstrop · 30/12/2018 15:26

You seem to be taking this really well, OP. Are you OK?

JammyGem · 30/12/2018 15:28

OP, you are absolutely amazing. So glad your son has got your back. Bunch of cunts.