I'm pissed off at my neighbours life.........................

[toomuchtodo]

and yes I know I am being unreasonable cos I wouldn't change with her, but Jesus, she's got it so easy

gets up at 10.30, bf takes kids to school
seems to do nowt with baby, only goes out if she wants maybe once a week

doesn't cook, gets takeaways most nights

has loads of family round to babysit every weekend so she can go out

doesn't want a job as she says her benefits pay for everything (doesn't tell ss she has a partner who works....)

never feeds her kids anything decent, they wander around these streets with crisps/coke/cake and come in to my house while I'm trying to get mine to eat something decent for once

is always relaxed, cos she gets plenty sleep/rest/time away from her kids and I BLOODY DON'T

am jealous I know, just pisses me off when we're struggling on £16k a year and she gets by and doesn't try just has a nice easy life

God I'm really tired today and a moany bitch, but where else can I moan?!

So on the basis of the OP's post you are all willing to report the woman for benefit fraud, have decided that she is an unfit mother and now some of you think she is on the game?

If someone isn't committing fraud, there's nothing to fear. If they are, then they are choosing to commit a crime. Personally I think the comments about being a prostitute were probably not entirely serious, and she may have a perfectly good reason for lying in till 10 o'clock and then getting dressed up to the nines.

I wouldn't report her myself (despite what I wrote below). I get a lot of help from my family so I'd hate for my neighbours to see that and assume that I was fiddling benefits. They wouldn't get very far if they did report me since I don't claim benefits anymore. The cost of investigating benefit fraud probably outweighs the overpayments anyway - if there is fraud involved.

I don't think her life sounds that great and definately wouldn't want to swap lives with her.

But, I do agree that you should report her if you are sure she is commiting benefit fraud.

Sounds like a horrible life to me. Poor children. Her life might be 'easy' but it clearly isn't 'nice'.

toomuch: Of course this sounds like a good life when you are having a bad week, and maybe you would enjoy having a week in her life, but then, as you sound like a 'normal' mother, you would miss taking your children to school, and you would hate someone else to be with them all weekend, and seriously how much day time TV could you watch before throwing the tv throught the window!!!

Also, fast forward a decade (or 2 or 3!!) and you are with gorgeous grandchildren while next door women is at hospital with her children who are all having heart attacks, diabetes (sp) etc!! She is all lonely because DP left her for being so damn lazy and she has no grandchildren because her children were to unhealthy to have children!!!

Put the kids to bed early, open a bottle of wine and have a bath with a whole bottle of bubbles and sit there untill you go wrinkly!!

My old boss was a fraudster and his defence in court was essentially "but I've got children". The judge was not impressed and responded along the lines of "you should have thought of the damage it could do to them before you committed the crime"

i bumped into my ex quite recently and he now has two children by different mothers (hes 21) and i was speaking to him and he told me that he had to sell drugs to support his children, it really pissed me off! i said to him that if he goes to prison what will his children do?, but personally i think its an excuse becasue i know he takes drugs and prob just taking the profit, i would report him if i didnt feel bad for his children

I don't think it does you any good at all to be bitter about other peoples lives - thats my honest opinion. There are always going to be people around you who have more than you - more money, more help etc. Ditto to people who lead a charmed life...and to those who lead lives you don't approve of (benefit fraudsters, criminals etc).

Of course you should come here and have a good moan (feel free!) but I wouldn't let some MN-ers wind you up even further. The best thing you can do is concentrate on your own life and find ways to improve your lot. Moan by all means, but don't let other people's business consume you.

feel better today-have had a sleep!!!

would never report her, its her business what she does and I don't agree with reporting someone

agree with last poster its better not to let someone else's life get you down, although we all know thats easier said than done, especially when you feel your back's to the wall the whole time and others are swanning around

also agree couldn't be the sort of mum she is, I'm too involved with my kids, she does her thing and they tag along (or get left with granny)

anyway thanks for all replies!

PS she's definately not on the game!