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Aibu about parking & new neighbours

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Parkingshmarking · 29/12/2018 03:57

Nc for this. Newish neighbours in house opposite ours. The have a driveway with room for 2 cars, mine only has room for 1. Ds1 home from Uni for Christmas & his car is parked on the street outside our house, opposite theirs. Also Ds2 girlfriend here sometimes & her car also parked on the street outside. Notes were left on both cars last week by neighbours saying 'do not park outside our house'. Yesterday Ds1 had friends over so his car + 2 others parked on street. When I left hot work at 4pm neighbour was outside waiting for me, cue rant about cars & how I'm being 'disrespectful' not telling my son & any visitors not to park there. Felt very intimidated & was actually dreading coming home from work last night in case he was waiting for me. Having a tough time generally atm & feeling a bit emotional & vulnerable. Moved here a few years ago to escape a violent ex-p & just want to live a quiet life & not feel intimidated or worried to leave my home. Aibu?

OP posts:
lauramaywharton · 30/12/2018 19:46

The road is to drive on I don't get why people don't get that. And yes there is talk on more restrictions for on street parking and curb parking as its becoming an ever bigger problem with houses with multiple cars. The street where we live is 60s 70s and we have a special guest carpark and other streets do to for over flow(not that anyone uses it). I think people need to just stop and think of others sometimes that's all I'm saying. Be in there shoes for a moment see where there coming from do on to other that you would yourself and all that.
Op just because it's a man and it's dark and your a woman that's not a threating behaviour.

Jellicoe · 30/12/2018 19:50

@parkingshmarking - just go over and explain this is only for the holiday season. He should understand and if he doesn’t then it’s his issue. He is prob feeling frustrated as you are regarding this. I had a neighbour who was essentially blocking my drive with his son being home from uni and I explained that I need the drive clear as I a heavily pregnant then and had to have a lot of clearance to exit my drive at all times. People normally understand if they get the full picture. Good luck

Myimaginaryreindeerhasfleas · 30/12/2018 19:54

Actually I’ve just re-read your OP and with that number of extra cars generated by your household I can sort of see his point. I’m not condoning shouting, if that’s what happened, but you can see how he might be a bit put out, especially as you have said the way your DSs and their friends park makes reversing onto his drive difficult.

YANBU to object to his tone when approaching you about this, but YABU in not getting your DSs to park with more consideration.

Original poster
Parkingshmarking · 30/12/2018 19:59

Omg it was 1 day my son had friends here for a couple of hours!! When it's just my son it does not inconvenience the guy at all. Just like when 1 night they had a party that went on very loudly until 4am & there were about 20 cars parked all over the pavements etc. It was 1 night so I said nothing although it inconvenienced me

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Myimaginaryreindeerhasfleas · 30/12/2018 20:02

Well then it does sound like he’s unreasonable, OP, if he’s done the same thing himself. And the party might be good ammunition to bring out if he gets unpleasant. But as you have to live with him as your neighbour when your son goes back to Uni, couldn’t you ask your DSs to park a bit more carefully, just to give you a quiet life?

lauramaywharton · 30/12/2018 20:12

Well if he's done it to you say that to him. Remember women are strong use your voice and use the saying only do to others you don't mind being done to yourself pointing out he did it to you. If he did to you first he has no right to mouth off at you. I thought it was you only doing it but if he is to its not one rule for one another for another. Just remember as well us women can be scarier then men use your mum voice at him tends to get me respect round where I live lol 😂. And I'm a shy thing with anxiety problems but if I'm being bitched at for no reason I soon find my voice then torture myself after and take two days to stop shaking but its always done the trick.

notapizzaeater · 30/12/2018 20:16

He's being a bully8ng arse. Def involve the police

lauramaywharton · 30/12/2018 20:16

Don't do like the others said move the car for easier life if he's a pee taker you need to put him in his place ASAP or they will just walk all over you and load parties and cars everywhere will be happening all the time. And yet he's expecting you to keep quite with no cars on the street and all that. He's probly testing you to see if he can control you and make sure you give him an easy ride living there taking over.

Catsinthecupboard · 30/12/2018 20:59

I am sorry that a bully moved across from you, OP, try to be strong bc he will become more aggressive. Call police if you feel threatened. Do not listen to anyone who doesn't understand how frightening this type of individual can be.
HE should be a little afraid as young adults at uni can be persnick and rude.

SoupDragon · 30/12/2018 21:20

They are bringing in a new law...

Do you have a link to this?

DameBaggySmith · 30/12/2018 21:48

There isn’t a link because it’s not happening for definite, however the DfT are considering making pavement parking illegal outside London (it’s been illegal inside London for decades).

Personally I think it’s very unlikely to pass due to stupid planning laws which mean not enough car parking for new properties and narrow roads. On new build estates it would make parking very tricky for all residents/visitors

EffOrf · 30/12/2018 21:53

Pavement parking is not what the OP was doing though, she was on the road.

SoupDragon · 30/12/2018 22:17

The poster claimed there was going to be a law "so people carnt park like you are on the street or up a curb" so, banning on street parking not just pavement parking.

GrumbleBumble · 30/12/2018 22:28

Some people are just rude, entitled and selfish. My boyfriend when I was a teenager lived in close of about a dozen large houses each with a large drive and stretches of road between each house with space for two or three cars. Homeowners parked on their drives and depending on the circumstances some houses guest did, other visitors parked (legally, safely and without in anyway impeding anyone's drive) on the road. If my bf, his sister and both their parents were home and I drove over there wasn't space on the drive for me - this situation probably arose about once a month and I would park directly outside my bf's parents house which didn't block either end of the house opposites semicircular drive. Every time this happened the bloke from the house opposite would approach me when I left and tell me not to park there as they could see my "cheap little car" every time they looked out of their living room window. I told the to close his curtains if he found the sight of a fiesta so offensive.

Yabbers · 30/12/2018 22:29

I still disagree that I'm in the wrong
In that case, why post asking AIBU?

EffOrf · 30/12/2018 22:35

lauramaywharton

Could you link to the new law on street parking please that you stated in your post as it will affect a lot of people as we don’t all have overflow car parks on our streets

SoupDragon · 30/12/2018 22:50

why post asking AIBU?

To get other opinions? Posting in AIBU doesn't mean they have to change their mind to agree with those who think she's being unreasonable. Especially as those posters seem to be a minority.

TheRealJoseph · 30/12/2018 22:50

Send the CF details of "parking refresher courses". Grin

lauramaywharton · 30/12/2018 23:34

Sorry I did get it wrong parking on the road is not becoming illegal but many people may be in for fines if they don't know what the law on parking on the road is

Do not park facing against the traffic flow
Stop as close as possible to the roadside
Do not park too close to a vehicle displaying a Blue Badge
The engine, headlights and fog lights must be switched off
The handbrake must be applied before leaving the car
You must look out for other road users when you open your door
Passengers should exit the vehicle on the side next to the kerb
Valuables should be out of sight and the car locked
Near a school entrance (see specific section)
Anywhere that would prevent access for emergency vehicles
On a bus or tram stop, or a taxi rank
On the approach to a level crossing
Opposite or within 32 feet of a junction, except in an authorised parking bay
Near the brow of a hill or humpback bridge
Opposite a traffic island or another parked vehicle (if it causes an obstruction)
Where you would force another vehicle to enter a tram lane
Where the kerb has been lowered to help wheelchair and mobility vehicle users
In front of an entrance to a property
On a bend
Where you would obstruct a cycle lane
A tram or cycle lane during its period of operation
A cycle track
A pedestrian crossing, including the area marked by the zig-zag lines
On the carriageway or the hard shoulder of a motorway (except in an emergency)
Taxi bays (as directed by the upright signs and road markings)
A road marked with central double white lines, even if a broken white line is on your side of the road, except for dropping off, picking up, loading or unloading

All these can get you a £50-£70 fine plus points on your licence

sevensatsumas · 30/12/2018 23:38

'It all depends whether your DS/friends are making it difficult for him to get into his drive. If so, then legal or not, it’s a bit inconsiderate.'

If he can't get on his drive because of two legally parked cars then he shouldn't be driving.

manicmij · 31/12/2018 00:37

As long as none of the cars are encroaching on their driveway access, no problem. With parking opposite a driveway though a vehicle could cause a problem for a vehicle to enter or exit a driveway especially in new housing estates where roads are narrow, no idea if this applies in your case. As long as those parking are considerate then no problem.

SoupDragon · 31/12/2018 10:10

All these can get you a £50-£70 fine plus points on your licence

You'll get a fine or points on your licence for not doing these? Where is this information from?

The handbrake must be applied before leaving the car
You must look out for other road users when you open your door
Passengers should exit the vehicle on the side next to the kerb
Valuables should be out of sight and the car locked

Therealjudgejudy · 31/12/2018 10:20

@lauramaywharton I'd also like a link as to where you are getting this info from.

fieldsgrowingdark · 31/12/2018 10:22

It's annoying when one household are constantly taking up several parking spaces on the road, but it's not illegal so your neighbour is out of order.

lauramaywharton · 31/12/2018 11:32

The Rac site I dB where I got them from but some of it should of been learn when taking your test though :S it should be common knowledge I've known this since I was like 10 when my dad would point out cars doing things wrong lol 😂

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