DP and i have been together a few years, one child and a second on the way.
We'd spoken about marriage after being together for about 12 months and we were getting serious. I was lead to believe it was on the cards and was something he wanted too, so I had no concerns about starting a family about a year later. He's a good provider, supportive and a good father.
He's been engaged twice before but never made it up the isle. His first engagement was in his very early twenties but she left him for somebody else.
His second engagement was to an ex he was with for six years and has a child to, who he later told me he'd only proposed to because her family were putting on the pressure to "make an honest woman out of her" so he did it to make her and them happy. They eventually broke up but he continues to pay child maintenance and sees his DD regularly so he hasn't been evading his responsibilities.
He's not a serial romancer and has only had three significant relationships in his adult life, the two I've mentioned then me.
With our DC2 on the way I began to press the subject of marriage and he now tells me he really doesn't want to get married, never has, and that it's not "me" he doesn't want to marry, it's anybody.
This is when he tells me about his heart not being in it when he proposed to his ex, and says he doesn't think he'd have gone through with a wedding because it's not something he ever wanted, but felt pushed into by her and her parents.
I'm understandably upset because I was lead to believe it was something he wanted, only to be told it's definitely not.
What's going on here, is it me or is it him? Is he spinning me a line about not wanting to marry 'anyone'
FTR I'm not remotely concerned about being left in the lurch with DC and no support, house is in my name and I have my own money. I can see he's somebody who provides for his DC regardless of whether he's with the mum. It was about love for me and not money 