DH cuddling and kissing his DM

[Lellikelly26]

Yesterday my DH was sat on the sofa with his DM cuddling her and kissing her on the head. this has made me feel a bit sick and has put me off him. I’m all for affection but sitting on the sofa cuddling your mum all afternoon is surely a bit much.

I'll admit I'm not the 'touchiest' of people (although I'm getting slightly more relaxed as I'm getting older), but I love seeing people being affectionate to each other, even if it's not my thing.

One of the first 'ding, ding, we have a winner!' moments I experienced after meeting my OH was when he took a call from his mother in my presence and, before hanging up (bear in mind we had been seeing each for about ten minutes at this point), said 'bye, Mum, love you!'.

If we expect men and boys to be open, affectionate, compassionate and able and unafraid to express emotion, then they have to learn this from somewhere: hopefully, this will be within their formative family units.

Also, my male and female adult siblings, cousins and I (eldest early 50s, youngest late 30s) all very much enjoy our 'annual Christmas cuddle puddle', when we flop on the sofa together in a tangle of limbs and duvets and read books, drink and eat whatever's to hand for the afternoon.

No doubt the OP would find that extremely odd.

Op he does those lovely things because she is his mother and he is her son. She will always be his mum and nothing will ever break that, whereas you may not always be his wife. My sons will always be my sons, even when they marry and if anyone found it offensive in me showing my sons how much they are loved by me I would not take kindly, neither would they quite frankly. You are projecting your own family interactions and I wonder if perhaps you wish you had had that too? What would you rather he do, ignore the woman that dedicated her life to raising him?

Suck it up buttercup !

Ew, nasty. That's you OP, not him.