DH cuddling and kissing his DM

[Lellikelly26]

Yesterday my DH was sat on the sofa with his DM cuddling her and kissing her on the head. this has made me feel a bit sick and has put me off him. I’m all for affection but sitting on the sofa cuddling your mum all afternoon is surely a bit much.

Sounds fine to me, especially if either he hasn't seen her in a while or she hasn't been in great health.

I come from a huggy tactile family and have had people comment on it - I just think it's sad that other families don't have that closeness - do you have sons op? What age do you deem it appropriate to stop hugging and cuddling them ? 15/20/30 ?

Can't see the issue. Why shouldn't he cuddle his mum?

You're weird OP.

He is generally affectionate but I found it a bit much yesterday. When his DF passed away he drove along in the car holding hands with her, which I overlooked at the time. Yesterday she was making snide comments to me in the morning and the sitting on the sofa cuddling her made me feel really sick. My DF passed away years ago but I would never have sat on the sofa cuddling him. It’s weird.

I cuddle my Dad all the time because he's lovely and won't be here forever. If i had a DH who objected I'd think they were a weird dick.

When his DF passed away he drove along in the car holding hands with her

That is so lovely - what a comforting affectionate gesture (even though a bit suboptimal from a safety perspective).

Fucking hell he held his mum's hand when his dad died?

What the fuck is wrong with you?

You overlooked him holding his Mums hand when his father/her husband passed away!!!!!!

His poor mother. I only have boys and I dread a daughter in law who won’t let them treat me like a human being just because I’m their mother.

Wow

I would find this a bit strange but it is because my family is not tactile at all. But the issue is with me as affection is a nice thing. My DH did used to give his mum foot massages which I did feel uncomfortable with as we often use that as foreplay, but that stopped when she started asking every night and he got fed up

What has put you off him because of this? Is he affectionate with you?

I sat on the sofa cuddling my son yesterday, he is 19. He always kisses me on the head. When my dad died my son held my hand.

Do I make you feel sick?

I'd find it a bit weird, too, OP.

Unless he had his tongue in her ear then I don't see why or how you'd be upset by this. Surely if you have a son you'll want to cuddle them when they're grown men?

OP you say he is affectionate. Who do you think taught him to be affectionate?

Agree crispy. OP, live and let live and don't get in the middle of your husband's relationship with his mother. Shame on you.

was he asking for bitty?

Oh that's so nice Mousse I hope ds will be the same.
I had a really nice cuddle of my brother yesterday..in front of his girlfriend!
Hopefully now she will realise that it us I who is the alpha female.

some hatchet faced little tart

Trying to imagine what this looks like 😂

When my lovely dad died cuddles from my boys kept me going. When my eldest reached out and held my hand it was like my dad was still there.

The idea that some "hatchet faced little tart" (thankyou motherofdinasaurs) could ruin something as beautiful as that breaks my heart.

No idea where to start with this. What the hell's wrong with you OP? I used to snuggle up with my mum all the time

Nothing wrong with a cuddle or a kiss, but if it's prolonged, like you say they were cuddling up on the couch and he kept kissing her head, that doesn't sound right. That's behaviour you would do with a partner, not a parent.