To feel bad about presents I gave dd1?

[Marg0tt]

Yawn- another Christmas thread I know. But I’m just thinking about whether I’m wrong to feel guilty about the presents I gave my 16 year old dd. She got some nice shampoo, a weekly wall planner whiteboard thing, some highlight drops (make up) and two items of clothing (a jumper and dress) which although she acted thankful for, I can tell she wasn’t keen on. She’s been very grateful and I cannot fault her but I feel like the gifts were a let down- especially as her younger sister got more

Not butting in at all passmethecrisps. Open thread and all opinions welcome, especially when they’re against punto’s nastiness 😂

ozil dd loves depop too! Half her wardrobe is from there but I’d never have thought to look on it for gifts, although I’d have probably got the wrong things on there :). Fun online shopping platform as it is littered with lots of funny stuff and strange captions

Well we see who like's ganging up now don't we.
God, I commented on this thread because I care about a poor teen who got shampoo for Christmas.
But you clearly have all the fucking answers, so, you were not looking for help.

I work with teenagers and to be honest I do worry a little when I see all the posts saying “teenagers just want cash to go and spend with their pals”. Some do that’s for sure but I hate that that’s all the thought that goes into it. So many of the young people I know would really value more time spent with them.

marg0tt bought gifts then thought about it and rectified it. There was time spent.

Rather that cushion our children with things we think will stop people laughing at them, arm them with character and values that will help them cope

Some posters need to calm the fuck down.

I don’t mean to come over as ganging up, honestly punto but your last comment was so unkind.

I also thought he initial gift sounded underwhelming. I am not sure that many people disagreed. But op spent time with her child and feels more comfortable with it all.

Stuff doesn’t stop them being picked on. I hope you have had a nice Christmas too.

punto at no point did I mention you ever ‘ganging up’ on me so don’t really get that comment. My daughter is fine thank you although I really appreciate the concern, she recognises there are worse things in the world (I hope) and although it would have been nice to get it right at the start it’s done now.
I was looking for help and then I got help, I sorted it. What I’m not looking for is (let’s go for the fourth time) aggression.

Punto, season of goodwill. Get a grip and stop being so rude, it's pathetic.

Just tell her whats true- that you didnt know what to get her and that you can have a girly day at the weekend to exchange the other clothes if she doesnt like them and buy some others as well. Or accessories etc. If she doesnt like them they will end up at the back of the wardrobe anyway. Teens are hard to buy for and dont often know what they want thenselves! Dont beat yrself up. Too much emphasis is put on the perfect christmas. Its one day in the year. Enjoy a day with yr dd. She will beable to get more in the sales and if you put it to her like that saying that you also thought she might like to choose for herself she might appreciate that. Next year ask her to write a list early on! Yr doing ok if shes been lovely rather than a brat thats stamped her foot so remember that.

Punto for crying out loud back off

punto my child was happy, disappointment with gifts doesn’t equal unhappiness as rest of day was filled with fun. Glad your child was happy! Hopefully you become a little happier.

Oh so you had to actually buy her something she wanted?

What do you mean? I bought her something else because I sensed disappointment, not unhappiness

I didn’t have to buy her something else. I wanted to.

This is what I hate about Christmas. Nobody is ever thankful for anything they get! There's so many people who are far worse off and many years ago, presents was not given at all! It was merely about having a family get together and a roast dinner. That's why I don't buy anything for anyone anymore except my DS.

Nothing says Christmas like a bun fight 🎄

Punto Are you on the Christmas sherry?! Let it go, all is well.

Wow, someone has a (bag of) chip(s) on their shoulder.

I found it much harder to buy for dd than for ds and I did buy him more when I saw things he’d love but I saved something for his birthday and took dd on a concert trip before Xmas to even it out.

She got

Morphe make up brushes
Tickets for an show she likes
Fluffy sleep jumper
Moleskin notebook (for something called bullet journaling)
Calendar depicting one of her interests
Book token

Ds got a smart watch
A calendar
A book
Tickets for a much cheaper event he wants to go to.

So what is the 'something else' then?
I'm curious.

AlexanderHamilton Careful, or you'll be accused of trying to buy your child.…...….

@ AGHHHH You're not even remotely funny. Irritating? Yes. Funny? Epic fail.

It sounds to me like you know she got a bad deal.

Christmas is the same time every year - so that's no excuse. And it sounds like you had enough time to get stuff for her sister.

She should be commended on her reaction to the situation. That she was disappointed but did her best to hide it is admirable for someone of that age.

punto I already said in a previous post hat we went on depop together and I insisted I bought an item she’d liked on there. She ended up choosing a velour tracksuit which she’d apparently been admiring (I had no clue, it’s not like I go through her phone).