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anyone else having a really rather bollocks xmas?!

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artisantastemaker321 · 25/12/2018 19:36

god knows I am.

'd'H and inlaw related...has ruined the whole day. trying to hold it together for our lovely kids but so sick and tired of it all. don't want to bore you with details...but am so tired of looking after everyone and no-one really looking after me.

first world problems blah blah i know, but to all of those struggling with 'perfect' christmases and families - you ain't alone. just want a handhold in return i guess!

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artisantastemaker321 · 25/12/2018 20:11

apoundinhand - yes trying to focus on the good things (lovely kids, warm house, health etc!)....

don't blame you for not wanting to watch the soaps though! Grin

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MorganKitten · 25/12/2018 20:12

My mum is in a coma in ICU

arranbubonicplague · 25/12/2018 20:12

Mini Elbows 2 got a text from his best friend to say they'd been taken in to care last night. Mr Elbows has just returned from taking Mini Elbows to visit

What a good friend Mini Elbows 2 is and very thoughtful of Mr Elbows and you all to take the disruption into your stride on this day.

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artisantastemaker321 · 25/12/2018 20:13

sorry Morgankitten - that's awful. thinking of you.

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swimmerforlife · 25/12/2018 20:14

Me.

I have a had a bloody cold all week, there has been a total of 10 kids here today at PIL and I now have a banging headache from all the screaming.

This morning after presents DS1 had a minor seizure (he's an epileptic) so that pretty much ruined Christmas Day from then on, thankfully he was ok come lunch time. Then SIL and MIL had a blazing row over what dinner was being served, limited vegetarian options so she was pissed off even though she was told to bring her own. So for some godforsaken reason I ended up making a veggie dish as SIL can't cook.

MIL and FIL have been fine this large family dinner has been so stressful. DH and his brother this evening have had a blazing row over the past because they both had one too many.

Top it all off, my mum lives in NZ and because of the dramas here today never got a chance to call her this morning :(

Now tomorrow before we leave we have to tell everyone we are moving abroad in a month, and that's going to go down like a cup of cold soup.

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HebeMumsnet · 25/12/2018 20:14

Am sympathising heavily and sending much strength and honour to you all, but TBH, still struggling to get over the poster with a turkey crown in the oven OVERNIGHT! Wine for you (and maybe some tooth floss!)

Mum2jenny · 25/12/2018 20:15

I think the issue is for most ppl is the lack of appreciation for what they've done. I know it annoys the fuck out of me!!

Cattus · 25/12/2018 20:16

Yes, overnight turkey crown stuck out for me too. There’s nowt so weird as people.

Lovelydovey · 25/12/2018 20:20

Have mostly had a good day but fed up with DH’s jibes about my family and his constant undermining of me and the children, and his attempts to assert authority and bring in new rules on xmas day. The children have been remarkably well behaved given how excited and now tired they are - but DH has just screamed at them about how they have ruined his day and banned the Xbox for the rest of the holiday - most of which he is working for and I will be expected to enforce the punishment even though it is OTT (and I bet he will let them have it when I am working).

Bunbunbunny · 25/12/2018 20:21

Had a non Christmas Day, DH is in a strop so no dinner and he didn’t buy any presents again. Has been quite a lonely day but we do have our health & I’ve just been watching box sets of the flash

@morgankitten I hope you’re mum gets well soon

NikiFree · 25/12/2018 20:21

Spending it with family who don't really want to be here. They feel like they drew the short straw. I paid though.

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PaintingOwls · 25/12/2018 20:22

Yep, I've spent most of the day crying and the food was a disaster.

Immewhothefuckareyou · 25/12/2018 20:23

Dh has spent all day on his pc only coming down to eat his dinner then straight back on it leaving all the prep and tidying to me as per normal

aPoundInTheHand · 25/12/2018 20:24

Right effing Eastenders over & now blinkin Coronation St. How do people who watch these have lives away from the tele??

Prosecco is my friend (hoping killer migraine from 23rd can be banished forever). Daughters electronic voice changer is NOT my friend!

So sorry to anyone with family in ICU or otherwise having a difficult time. It is just a day but when you're focused on something shite in your life it can seem to last forever. Hang in there!!!!

Kids in bed soon & cheese & biscuits imminent - things are looking up! Xmas Grin

N0rdicStar · 25/12/2018 20:27

Lost my dad very recently and will be losing fil soon. Knew it would be crap but did my absolute best to make it special. Unfortunately didn’t get the remit that nobody else would be doing the same.

Stuck in doors all day with teens cooking a meal nobody really ate much of. Nobody wanted to watch anything on TV( pretty shirt offerings to be fair), play a game or do anything. Teens sat on phones as fuck all else to do( had no energy to stick to screen rules ) ended up watching Xmas editions of their fav tv US shows whilst they ate their body weight in crap. Odd minor selfish strop from dd. Mum went home early before tea, wish I could have escaped too. Next year we’ll be going out for a walk regardless.

Starting to realise I don’t like Christmas and when you lose somebody it’s simply the shitiest day in the whole year.

One spark of joy was ds. We haven’t connected much recently and he has been lovely. Gave me the most thoughtful little present out of his own money which I’ll treasure forever.

Off to bed to read, don’t want to be near anybody.Hoping the kids won’t remember this Christmas as adults.Sad

TornFromTheInside · 25/12/2018 20:28

Blimey, some poor days on here today.

Christmas really is a mixed bag isn't it? people often forcing the 'cheer' and peace on Earth feels like a pipe-dream.

I'm a bit grumpy at Xmas, with no good reason to be - (and not really that grumpy, I just don't do the OTT super happiness that some people seem to expect). Some of the days you lot are describing are absolutely worthy of a moan though.

DerelictWreck · 25/12/2018 20:30

@swimmerforlife where are you moving too?

Have you left it till now to tell them as you know it will go down badly?

FireUnderpants · 25/12/2018 20:31

DS is poorly and I’ve caught it too. He is type 1 diabetic which complicates things when he is ill. Christmas Eve morning was spent at the GP after discovering we have the wrong strips for his ketone meter. GP managed to fax the wrong prescription twice to the chemist even though he had it written down, and then a phone call from the pharmacist.

We missed our panto.
DS needed blood checks every 2 hours through out the night. DH forgot to put presents under the tree or Santa presents in stockings. House is a messy tip and I’m trying not to look.

DDs and mil took over the cooking thank god.

Am currently aching all over and it hurts to breathe. DS and I have been sat on sofa all day.

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artisantastemaker321 · 25/12/2018 20:32

Me too nordicstar - two of our kids heard us having a blazing row this morning (after presents, before lunch) and got upset. Hoping they won’t remember either, but have a terrible feeling they will 😓

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WoodlandOaks · 25/12/2018 20:33

Me.

I work long hours in a stressful job (surgeon). I’m the breadwinner, but have had to do everything (presents etc). I am exhausted. I’ve put on a stone in the last year and feel constantly unwell.

DH and I have had a bad year (lots of things main one he got into debt and didn’t tell me). Gave him an ultimatum in July that he had to ship up or ship out. I thought he was trying, but the last few weeks he’s reverted back to his old grumpy self.

Culminating today with him getting up like a bear with a sore head making our eldest cry, because a piece of a toy had gone missing (ended up fil chucked in bin (and yes it was me that went through it...). He apologies a few hours later, but he does this all the time and doesn’t understand when I say he’s put a dampener on whole day.

I’ve then cooked dinner for his parents - who in fairness did washing up.

He’s spent most of the afternoon on the sofa, played a few games with kids.

I’m in bed at 8pm wondering what to do. He’s part-time. He would get more custody and the thought of that breaks my heart.

I have to keep going for the kids, but if they weren’t here I would be packing my bags and walking out of door.

Dlpdep · 25/12/2018 20:34

I’ve just puked up my Christmas dinner. DH was puking last night. Think we have a bug of done sorts

Mum2jenny · 25/12/2018 20:34

Yep, still crying and wanting the day to end But I'm really pissed off that no one helped me with the dinner

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artisantastemaker321 · 25/12/2018 20:34

Fireunderpants - lots of sympathy. A very hard time for you xxx

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abbsisspartacus · 25/12/2018 20:35

I'm reconsidering my future with my partner and my job heavy times