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to think piercing of childrens ears should be banned

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lucyellensmum · 26/06/2007 18:57

why why why would anyone want to do this to a three year old????? I went to a childrens party at the weekend, there was a lovely little girl there with the most awful blingy "diamond" earings pulling her ears down - ear piercing hurts, it is tantamount to child abuse IMO.

OP posts:
funkimummy · 27/06/2007 15:05

Yeah that was me. I'm English by the way.

toy23 · 27/06/2007 15:10

I have never heard of an english culture thats gets a childs ears pierced

funkimummy · 27/06/2007 15:10

My ancestry is not.

HappyDaddy · 27/06/2007 15:13

I know there are lots of racist people around. I don't speak to them. I won't be speaking to you anymore either, I'm sure you wont care though. You can carry on in your bigotted bubble.

toy23 · 27/06/2007 15:14

Well wouldent you be best to raise youre child with english culture,after all you and youre child are english.Let youre child decide when they are older if they whant to get there ears done why submit youre child to needless pain just for some culture that dont originate from the country they live in.

funkimummy · 27/06/2007 15:16

Toy.....You like being racist. That's up to you. I chose to get my child's ears pierced. That's up to me. I'm with HappyDaddy. You're boring me now.

toy23 · 27/06/2007 15:19

i was only saying what i though about the subject.I was raised with my ancestors culture in mind buy my mother now i hope she dies slowely and will never forgive her for it.

dal21 · 27/06/2007 15:21

Toy - you cannot be for real! Am very seriously hoping that you are on here to wind people up!

lazyemma · 27/06/2007 15:23

cathcart - "I seem to remember the earrings i used had very sharp points - hence the need to use safety butterfies whilst wearing them."

They might have felt sharp, but they wouldn't have been nearly as sharp as a surgical piercing needle, which is also hollow, so that it slices through the skin - rather than ripping/forcing its way through, which is how the stud gun works. Stud guns are also impossible to sterilise properly, leading to a higher risk of infection. Piercings from stud guns generally take longer to heal than piercings done by a properly trained body piercer, partly because of the higher risk of infection and partly because of the tissue damage a stud gun causes.

soz for tangent everyone.

Soph73 · 27/06/2007 15:24

Steady on now toy - maybe you need to start a different thread as there are clearly more deep seated issues you´re battling with.

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lucyellensmum · 27/06/2007 15:25

WHY THE FUCK HAS MY BLOODY THREAD BEEN HIJACKED - I AM POSTING THIS TO DISTANCE MYSELF FROM ANY RACIST COMMENTS THAT HAVE BEEN MADE.

Some posts suggest that we shouldnt judge other parents based on things like ear peircing, i don't , i just think that the actual peircing of a childs ear is cruel and uneccesary, now eat your bloody pop corn and go and talk about something else.
[steam coming out of my ears]

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toy23 · 27/06/2007 15:26

dal21 why would i wind people up i have no reason to i just voice my opinion.Thanks to my mother raising me in her culture my childhoopd was misrable and will neer forgive her for it.

toy23 · 27/06/2007 15:28

retyped last post gue to mistypes

dal21 why would i wind people up i have no reason to i just voice my opinion.Thanks to my mother raising me in her culture my childhood was misrable and will never forgive her for it.

theUrbanDryad · 27/06/2007 15:28

i think you have ishoos toy...

toy23 · 27/06/2007 15:30

lucyellensmum sorry i dident mean to get youre thread hijaked just tryed to defend my views.

toy23 · 27/06/2007 15:31

theUrbanDryad why do you say that?Im happy with who i am

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lucyellensmum · 27/06/2007 15:31

By toy23 on Wed 27-Jun-07 14:59:43
HappyDaddy so be it you think im rasist there are a lot more people that are rasist around than you think.I know many of people who have same views as me.

Sadly this is true it makes me ashamed to be british.

I do think that people should learn about the cultures etc in adopted countries etc, however i think that everyone has alot to gain by other cultures coming into the country and that people should be proud of where they come from.

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Desiderata · 27/06/2007 15:32

This thread is unedifying, to say the least.

I've no comment to make on ear piercing, but to the OP, the thread was bound to be contentious. It's not so much been hijacked, as following its sad and inevitable course.

I do think everyone should leave it alone now.

theUrbanDryad · 27/06/2007 15:33

By toy23 on Wed 27-Jun-07 15:26:47
dal21 why would i wind people up i have no reason to i just voice my opinion.Thanks to my mother raising me in her culture my childhoopd was misrable and will neer forgive her for it.

nuff said i feel a bit sorry for you, to be honest...

anyway, enough about that. lucyellen's right, we shouldn't've hijacked her thread. my apologies.

MamaD · 27/06/2007 15:33

To go back to OP. I really dislike earrings on babies. I wouldn't say it was child abuse, but I do think it is wrong to do that to a baby that cannot ask for them.

My dd is currently asking (she is 2) because she likes her Nana's sparkly earrings. I'm fending her off for now with "You have to grown the holes when you are older" and she has accepted this completely lol.

My sister took me to get my ears pierced when I was 8. My mum went ballistic when we got home (sis 12 yrs older than me), but let me keep them in. Cue 2 weeks later our excitable collie jumped up and ripped one out of my ear, tearing the lobe. Now that bloody well hurt! I didn't get them done again until I was 14 (and the dog wasn't so energetic).

My ancestors were of gypsy origin. To them it was normal to pierce a childs ears, and many families still do but I am glad that my mum let me make my own mind up and not do what her mum did.

My dd at 2 or 6 or 8 is not, as far as I am, concerned, able to make an informed decision about having 'minor cosmetic surgery' on her ears and I will not give in to her at that age, over 10 maybe but more like 12 or 13.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 27/06/2007 15:34

Have we had posts about female genital mutilation yet or has it not reached that pitch yet?

Original poster
lucyellensmum · 27/06/2007 15:34

well i do wish i didnt start it now yes. My apologies to anyone i have offended. LEM makes mental note to self to only start threads regarding knitting/cooking and sex - that way i can't offend anyone (yeah right )

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 27/06/2007 15:36

actually, i am highly offended by knitting...so you'd best cross that off your list too

toy23 · 27/06/2007 15:37

theUrbanDryad well you know nothing about me just because some1 hates there other does not mean they have issues. But back to OT.If some1 whants to get there childs ears pierced at an age ware they cant ask for themselfs that in my eyes is crulty and causeing unessassary pain.If you truely loved youre child you would whant them never to be in pain so why inflict it?

flightattendant · 27/06/2007 15:37

My neighbours have done their 18month girl's ears. I think it's mean because the baby can't make a choice, and it bloody hurts.

Can you imagine cleaning and sterilising those little earlobes for weeks, it was bad enough when I was 11, but a baby? And knowing you were the one that wanted them to 'look pretty'? Ooh I hate it.

I think if a kid asks, I mean really really wants them done and goes on at you for ages, then fine. Probably unlikely before the age of about 5 I'd imagine.

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