To consider kicking my MIL out for this 'joke'

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MIL arrived to spend Xmas with me, DH and DCs. DS 6 months has recently started babbling, 'dada' being a regular noise he makes (much to my chagrin ). Five minutes into stay, DH is saying to DS, 'who's your dada?' as DS has also started pointing/reaching for people he likes the look of. MIL looks on fondly. So far so cute. DH asks DS again, 'who's your dada?' To which MIL pipes up, 'we may never know.' WTAF? DH assures me this was meant as a joke, but I find it coarse and off-colour. We don't make jokes like that in my family and I don't understand the humour - 'haha, DIL, your child is probably illegitimate as you are clearly shagging around'. I feel like it was just an excuse to be bitchy (me and MIL don't get exactly see eye to eye). AIBU to be fuming?

Personally id just laugh it off.

TBH it's probably the kind of joke that would be made in my family....that's if the MIL is generally ok.

I reckon it's down to context to be honest, it would be laughed off in our family too.

YABU

It's a joke ffs

I hope your DH told her to get out and never return.

It does just sound like a joke.

That's horrible did you call her up on it ?

I’d have called her a cheeky bitch and cracked on.

She would get the AF Death Stare (trademark) but I wouldn't kick her out

Isn’t the joke that he’s not answering, or as you say pointing at random people, so you may never find out?

If you have a close and caring relationship with mutual trust this kind of joke MAY be acceptable... Barely. But sounds as if MIL and FIL are ignoring and crossing the boundaries of both interpersonal relationships and good taste! I'd nip it in the bud - make it clear to your H that this is not acceptable to you and your individual feelings do matter - you are allowed to have feelings and have them respected! If he ignores your feelings then you have a H problem!!

It was an ill judged joke. I would try to forget it to be honest.

I think she's been thoughtless and it isn't a nice comment unless you absolutely KNOW the other person will find it funny. However, I think you are also over thinking it a bit. Deep breath, grit your teeth and smile..... it's Christmas!

It's the kind of joke we'd make in our family, when you started to write I thought of all the similar come backs I'd have as I saw it a mile off, it's too easy, your DH asked for it with that question ha. Youre over thinking it. Yes you'd be very unreasonable to kick her out, you just have a different sense of humour (unless there's some history regarding the paternity of your child that you're over sensitive to?!)

Christ almighty it’s a joke!! Most people truly wouldn’t be offended at that OP it’s just a laugh.

I’d have found that funny..... as in, the question was asked of a 6 mo....

I’d be annoyed. It isn’t funny and clearly not nice.

Exactly boringlyboring he is pointing at anyone and saying dada. It’s a standard joke.

I'd think that was a joke, if not a very funny one.

I’m not sure I’d kick her out. I’d certainly bite back though.

I think its funny. I would have and I don't get on with my MIL.

In my family someone would have said “well the milkman might have a few questions to answer”. It’s a joke. Unless you really think she believes you cheated and have lied about the father?

That would have been such an obvious joke in my family that we would have Bern unable to 5ake offence.

I would have laughed and said, "bit like you then, DH". See if she can take a joke herself

It’s a joke!!