To consider kicking my MIL out for this 'joke'

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MIL arrived to spend Xmas with me, DH and DCs. DS 6 months has recently started babbling, 'dada' being a regular noise he makes (much to my chagrin ). Five minutes into stay, DH is saying to DS, 'who's your dada?' as DS has also started pointing/reaching for people he likes the look of. MIL looks on fondly. So far so cute. DH asks DS again, 'who's your dada?' To which MIL pipes up, 'we may never know.' WTAF? DH assures me this was meant as a joke, but I find it coarse and off-colour. We don't make jokes like that in my family and I don't understand the humour - 'haha, DIL, your child is probably illegitimate as you are clearly shagging around'. I feel like it was just an excuse to be bitchy (me and MIL don't get exactly see eye to eye). AIBU to be fuming?

It's just a joke! My family would laugh at this. Are you a bit posher than your DP OP?

Unless there's some particular sensitivity around the paternity, I'd personally find this hilarious!

I think it was one of those thoughtless responses.
You can't take back words, I would have apologised if I made a thoughtless joke if it hurt the person.

Bit weird of her. How come you don't get on?

I see your point OP especially when you don’t see eye to eye it convinces you more it’s meant with bitchy intent. Hate when people are invited to your home then feel the need to crack little digs. If you got along then I would say she feels comfortable enough with you to make a joke of this style but hmm I would possibly be thinking of some quick wit to fire back for the next one, with a nice little laugh at the end because of course, your only joking as well :)

Glad I'm not the only one who didn't find it funny! To be honest her comic delivery could use some work. Many of her 'jokes' seem to bypass my sense of humour.

In my family there were plenty of smart ass comments about the postman or milkman but they were all taken in the context that they were jokingly said.

It’s a very standard joke OP. An oldy but a goody some might say. Not original. Certainly not offensive.

Can you get her a gift such as the visit to the Comedy Store, etc. to help with her one liners, as they clearly need some work .............For example www.activitysuperstore.com/days-out/comedy-night-experience-for-two/product-index-plcd?gclid=Cj0KCQiApILhBRD1ARIsAOXWTzvp7NPD1rrc1_5Q_g_sRsTcTkrksn0TGXxlpP0pKYyotPl_Qv9yc8IaAg0QEALw_wcB

Send her over to my house! She sounds hilarious. OP you seem very VERY over sensitive. Do you honestly think she was saying your DH is not the father?

Unless there's some particular sensitivity around the paternity, I'd personally find this hilarious!

Is there?

I would have found it funny.

It's a joke, ffs.

If OP and MIL have a good relationship, it could be considered a joke - although in poor taste. As they don't "exactly see eye to eye" then yes it's an uncalled for bitchy comment and I'd be pissed off too.

Not funny, it's the kind of comment people in my extended family would use as an intended insult.

I also have a version of 'The Look', I also have no problem with stating that such comments are not acceptable in my house - DH has the same view.

WOW you want to kick her out for a stupid joke.

YABVU

This happened to me once (SIL) - I didn't think it was appropriate either.

I said (smiling like a crocodile) - "Here - don't judge everyone's morals by your own, HAHAHAHAHA!"

She didn't say anything like it again.

You do need to chill the fuck out if that’s what you get annoyed about
It’s clearly a shit joke.

Well it depends on the context but often when mine were very young we used to joke like this, however it’s all in the context of your wider relationship

What's funny about it?

I think you need to lighten up op. It's a joke!

And it might be a bitchy comment. Might be PA.
Might be all kinds of things. But you just shrug it off. And get on with life

Say something like 'our generation doesn't sleep around like yours did during the 2nd world war'

Wtf where is your sense of humour you weirdo. Chill the fuck out