Aibu to want xmas our way

[supermommyof4]

My children are between 13-20 years old, 2 of them are working quite late tonight.
We usually have a very relaxed xmas day and get up when we are all ready, as we see no reason to rush the day.
Now without any discussions Dp has informed me Ex is dropping dss off at 10 am xmas morning, i am annoyed as my xmas day now has to run to her timetable.
Dss is 11 and more than capable of either waiting till later on in the day or boxing day.
Mine have waited before as their dad isnt always here over xmas.
Am i wrong to feel annoyed that i wasnt included or even asked about arrangements. My kids will not be awake at 10am i guarantee it. Dd1 is working till 7 tonight and ds1 is working till 10/11.
They have both worked all week and are both entitled to a lie in.

@MaiaRindell I agree! No one is this selfish surely!

Unlikely to affect your day at all.
Mellow out.

I also agree that you’re taking the piss calling yourself ‘supermommy’ and at the same time saying your DSS should wait til Boxing Day to see his dad because having him come on Christmas Day might marginally inconvenience your biological kids.

Fuck you are mean.

And fuck, I can’t believe you are for real.

You can all lie in, DH gets up for his DD. No schedule change needed.

Wow OP you sound utterly selfish

This does come across as rather self-centred. maybe you can tell us more about why you resent your ss being part of your Christmas, even at short notice. Surely he’s an established and integral part of your family and he’s just a child. I can’t imagine he got much say in it...and to come in to a frosty, can’t-be-arsed, wish-you-weren’t-here atmosphere on Christmas Day would be terrible.

I understand you feel left out of the plans but it’s probably better to simply make your ss welcome whenever. Your kids are catered for after all...to the point where there’s a silver bubble being drawn around their hallowed preferences. Your dh has an 11 year old son. He probably loves him.

OP you have yourself away when you said the child could wait til boxing day. Huge giveaway, that this is bollocks.

Possibly a reverse?

Your kids can sleep in when they want. Not that this impacts your kids at all. If you kids are bothered, since they are adults, they need to grow the fuck up.

Really?

That poor child.

Of course YABVU. There's no reason why your partner can't get out of bed and open the door to his own kid! Mine had their own key by that age. No reason why everyone else has to get up.

I'm sorry - am i the only one that views 10am as already a massive lie in? i mean, altered sleeping habits aside (i.e. night feeds or shifts) what adults actually get up later than this? shock

Yep, plenty of adults get up later than this. Getting up early isn't an award-winning virtue and doesn't make you morally superior. Some people are naturally night owls and do a lot more in the evening and night as they function better then and consequently they sleep later during the day.

Heavens, I hope this isn't true. That poor child.

If this is real (I'm struggling to believe that anyone could possibly be this self-absorbed) then YABVVU.

You honestly think a child should be told they have to "wait until Boxing day" to see their DF so that you and your adult children can lie in bed until lunchtime?? 10am is a perfectly reasonable time and your DSS is perfectly reasonable to want to see his DF on Christmas morning. If your DC don't want to get up in time for his arrival then they don't have to so I really don't see the problem, unless you just resent your DSS being there at all.

Why on earth did you choose to be with a man who has a child from a previous relationship if you're not willing to be even the tiniest bit flexible in order to include them?

I don't see the problem here.

Your DP gets up to greet his son and they have a nice morning together then the rest of you get up when you want and carry on as planned.

At 11, he should be able to understand that his step-siblings are having a lie in.

Unless your DP is expecting you all to get up in time for his son's arrival?

Don’t you just think you are lucky to be able to spend so much time with him on Christmas Day? There are loads of parents who are really sad because they’d love to be in your shoes.

I really hope this is a reverse. Otherwise you are absolutely vile OP.

I have adult DC and they will be up and about by 8am without a doubt. What about your 13 year old? Surely they will want to be opening presents and enjoying Christmas before 10am?

TBH I agree with PP, it would be better for DSS if you stayed in bed as you obviously find their presence a burden.

If I was your DH I would be buggering off somewhere nice with my son and leaving you for your leisurely lie in. I have worked well over 50 hours a week for the last few weeks. DP has been ill including a stay in ITU. I have been backwards and forwards from hospital done all the shopping ect and I will still manage to get up before 10 am. If this is genuine you are horrid.

OP this is really mean, and posts like this are why stepmothers get a bad rep. You have a blended family which includes your DSS and he’s more than entitled to see his dad on Xmas day, and 10am is a perfectly reasonable time. You and the other children can have a lie in still - or just let DSS open one present and play with it with DH until the others get up and you do all the presents.

Don’t give step mums a bad name!

I'm failing to see what the problem is. The older ones get up when they want to and your husband will be up to see his son when he arrives. Why should the older ones be up for him? If he lived with you they would still have a lie in wouldn't they?

I don't get what the problem is. So his dad will get up earlier. Why does anyone else have to change plans? Why haven't you considered your step child when making plans?

Blimey have the goady fuckers got no sprouts to peel

This is exactly how my sil acts around my bil’s kids. It’s all about her kids, what they want and she doesn’t give a shit about bil’s kids. Come on, you are being very selfish, the poor kid is only 11. You know you sound a bit like the wicked step-mother!!

I'm with you op

Whilst I feel for the DSS being a human pass the parcel I would be really annoyed to have arrangements made that involved me but without my input , and for all of you Goady fuckers the DSS surely will have had one part of Christmas already with his mother ,

OP is also entitled to Christmas how she wants for the rest of the family to enjoy as they wish

You dss is only 11 and being juggled between two families on Xmas day is definitely not their choice of Christmas either I think! Christmas is for children, your dh's job (and the step family's job) is to make that child feel as welcome as possible and to have a brilliant Xmas morning in their dad's home whatever time they show up!!!!

Yikes your lovely. Hope this is a reverse. Why can't dss come. Open his stocking bits then wait for everyone else. He can spend bit 1:1 time with his dad - they could make everyone breakfast