Aibu to want xmas our way

[supermommyof4]

My children are between 13-20 years old, 2 of them are working quite late tonight.
We usually have a very relaxed xmas day and get up when we are all ready, as we see no reason to rush the day.
Now without any discussions Dp has informed me Ex is dropping dss off at 10 am xmas morning, i am annoyed as my xmas day now has to run to her timetable.
Dss is 11 and more than capable of either waiting till later on in the day or boxing day.
Mine have waited before as their dad isnt always here over xmas.
Am i wrong to feel annoyed that i wasnt included or even asked about arrangements. My kids will not be awake at 10am i guarantee it. Dd1 is working till 7 tonight and ds1 is working till 10/11.
They have both worked all week and are both entitled to a lie in.

Actually looking at your username is this a pisstake? You don't sound very super.

It’s not her a schedule is it? It’s your DPs if he’s happy with the plan. I’m sure DSS isn’t expecting to be entertained so he and his dad can have a nice breakfast and your DC can get up when they’re ready then you all have a nice day. 10am is perfectly civilised.

It’s all relative I know but loads of separated parents are desperate to see their child on Xmas day and this plan sounds both fair and perfectly workable. Don’t create drama where there’s no need for any. You both get to see your DC at Xmas, that’s wonderful, make space for everyone and be thankful it’s not complicated!

Isn’t this just a case of your adult children’s needs trump that of an eleven year old boy? Because you want to lay in until after 10am? I could understand if the Mum was dropping him off at 5am but at 10am you just sound bitter he’s coming at all.

It's Christmas. Be happy for fucks sake.

YABU

only DP needs to get up and 10am isn’t even early (and I speak as someone who loves a long lie in!)

You’re being so selfish that I hope it’s actually a reverse and you’re the mum who is facilitating your child seeing his dad on Christmas Day rather than the bitchy step mum

I think it's more the principle that you haven't been included in the plans rather than the others getting a lie in, in reality, even 9am is a lie in and even if they slept til midday, no reason why you can't have someone over. Maybe they needed to be dropped off because of their other parents plans that day. It's not really a big deal, but heah I totally get you feel a little put out, but break put a different spin on it and honestly dont let it wind you up, you get to see your ss for longer, your kids and partner get to spend longer with him and that is hugely important to encourage! X

Fucking he'll. You are being a dick. Never mind unreasonable.

It's Christmas day. What's wrong with you? You really think an 11 year old should run to your schedule instead?

And what your kids are working until 7pm and 10/11pm. Even if they had to get up at 10am for was arriving, what's the big deal. They aren't working that late.

This is that ridiculous I am calling reverse.

My 17 year old is working until 8 tonight. He'll probably wake up for presents then go back to bed until lunch as he will have been up gaming which is his prerogative.

Just because dss arrives at 10, it doesn't mean that presents have to be then?

I don't understand why the adult children have to get up. Surely they have their lie in and get up when they are ready

Why would DSS being dropped off at 10am mean nobody else can sleep in. Will he be kicking his way through the door? Tell your DP to be up and waiting for him at 9.45 so that he can open the door for him and everyone else can have their lay in.

You sound vile. Poor kid

Not sure why your DP has to consult with you around his son turning up at 10am. He's the only one who has to be out of bed to see him, the rest of you can join them when you wake up.

I fail to see how this disrupts your 'relaxed' Christmas unless there's a drip feed on the way about the 11 year old having the lungs of Pavarotti and insisting on singing Christmas carols all morning, or your DP being lazy and expecting you to wake up and entertain his son whilst he sleeps in.

You really aren't living up to your user name...is it an ironic one?

"our way"? You do realise she is part of the family too right?
An in what world is 10am early anyway? YABSU. Get a grip.

You sound selfish and really bloody nasty actually OP.

Why are your adult children more important than an 11 year old?

I think your use of “our way” is very telling. You have a blended family, your children are all equally important and your DP wants to see his son as much as you want to have your own children with you. It’s his home too and tbh I’m amazed you haven’t made plans which include your DSS until now.

Don't be mean, she's a little girl! Probably the ex has plans for the day so 10 am is a suitable time. She can amuse herself while you get on with stuff. Poor little kid, I hope you don't show that you resent the timing, it isn't her fault.

Hmm or a reverse which is probably more annoying than a knuckle dragger...at least they are entertaining rather than being passive aggressively smug!

What will have to change Op?

Ah is this a reverse? I'm wondering if you're really the ex and DS's dad's girlfriend is kicking up a fuss. That would make sense, because I don't know how anyone would think this was reasonable.

I'm sorry - am i the only one that views 10am as already a massive lie in? i mean, altered sleeping habits aside (i.e. night feeds or shifts) what adults actually get up later than this?

This just seems like such a non-issue. Your DH gets up so he’s ready when his kid arrives. Your kids get up when they want. Seriously what is the problem?

I hope this is a reverse!!

If not, you are unbelievably selfish! I can’t believe you think your dss should wait to see his dad at Christmas because it inconveniences you! Most fathers are happy that their exdp are willing to share Christmas Day with them but you want to spoil it. That’s said coming from a Mother. Are you bitter and projecting?

I'm sorry - am i the only one that views 10am as already a massive lie in? i mean, altered sleeping habits aside (i.e. night feeds or shifts) what adults actually get up later than this?

People's energy levels, sleep needs and general health vary. Stop being so judgemental.

Christ, your username is cringeworthy and you are horrid.

This can't be real