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Original poster

Absolutely Raging at DSis

619 replies

DroningOn · 23/12/2018 10:45

DSis and her DH were at a wedding yesterday, we had their DD1 and DS3 overnight. We've got a panto today at 1:30 for me, DH and our 2 kids.

DSis knows of our plans and has just text to say that both her and DH had too much to drink last night and can't drive until at least mid afternoon. They're 90 mins away so that's today's plans fucked up. Obvs not an AIBU but I am incandescent with rage at the moment.

AAAARGH! Angry

OP posts:
AWishForWingsThatWork · 23/12/2018 14:48

"So I did you a massive favour, and as a thank you, you ruined my planned day out so you can enjoy yours. Never again. Find another sucker."

Please make it clear you won't ever watch her kids for her again.

smackbangwhollop · 23/12/2018 14:53

After showing their true selfish colours, I'd burn that reliable babysitting bridge. If its.possible to get 2 extra tickets this would probably be the easiest solution.

Cheby · 23/12/2018 14:53

OP I’m so angry for you! This is outrageous. I wouldn’t be speaking to her for a long time. And I’d be telling the whole family what a dickhead she is.

Ilikeknitting · 23/12/2018 14:53

Anyone who would fake contacting social services is a total dick.

Anyone too hung over to fetch their own children from the free babysitter is an even BIGGER dick!

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 23/12/2018 14:56

”Definitely buy the three year old a whistle.”

I agree, @Chrimbobimbo! Or a drum kit and a trumpet.

Ingurr · 23/12/2018 14:57

I am assuming that the wedding venue is 90 minutes away and OP's sister is still there unable to drive.

BottleOfJameson · 23/12/2018 15:00

Anyone who would fake contacting social services is a total dick.
Anyone too hung over to fetch their own children from the free babysitter is an even BIGGER dick!

It would be one thing if this just inconvenienced the sister which after this stunt I would be more than happy to do but this wastes the time of social services and potentially delays them from investigating a case of a genuinely abused or neglected child so it would be completely unreasonable to do it.

DorisDances · 23/12/2018 15:01

This one has really got under my skin. So angry for you OP. Hope the rest of your Christmas is lovely

BottleOfJameson · 23/12/2018 15:01

Better solution would be definitely the whistle for the three year old - perhaps see if there are any drum kits going on freecycle to go along with it.

Original poster
DroningOn · 23/12/2018 15:02

Just got a text, they're leaving in the next 15 mins. Asked what they've been doing since they'd have had to check out by 11am latest.

They apparently paid for an extended check out and have been "using the facilities" to recover from a heavy night.

It's a spa hotel place I can only imagine they've been using the pool, hot tub, sauna etc.

DH text too, kids loving the panto, he says it's nice that the kids are enjoying it but it's a bit crap, not sure if he's telling the truth or just trying to make me feel better, either way better than hearing it was amazing!

I've unwrapped his and her Xmas pressies and DH and I are keeping them, going to tell her too.

OP posts:
SacharissaCrisplock · 23/12/2018 15:05

Umm can you book an extended checkout on the morning of departure or do you have to book it when you check in?

It's fucking out of order either way but if they booked it in advance then I'd be even more angry as it was pre-planned.

Applesandpears23 · 23/12/2018 15:06

I would ask for the cost of your panto ticet back plus a days childcare so you and your DH can go to a spa.

Waffles80 · 23/12/2018 15:06

I sincerely hope they arrive weighed down with bottles of wine / chocolates / tickets for another show for your family. Bloody outrageous!

CurlyWurlyTwirly · 23/12/2018 15:06

Talk about CF with Bells on.
I bet this was all planned. She probably packed a swimsuit and they’ve basically had an entire weekend away with friends.
I would get your DH to keep the kids away until you’ve given her a piece of your mind, otherwise she’ll just scoop her kids up and leave.

Original poster
DroningOn · 23/12/2018 15:12

Hadn't actually thought about it being pre-planned. Don't think my DSis would do that. What's more upsetting is that we get on really well and this isn't at all (with a few minor exceptions) like her or her DH.

Her text was full of apologies and her two haven't been a problem this afternoon.

OP posts:
onalongsabbatical · 23/12/2018 15:12

I've unwrapped his and her Xmas pressies and DH and I are keeping them, going to tell her too.
Excellent. Keep us well posted on the bollocking you give them when they turn up, too.

Waddsup12 · 23/12/2018 15:13

Are they normally this cheeky?

BoneyBackJefferson · 23/12/2018 15:14

They apparently paid for an extended check out and have been "using the facilities" to recover from a heavy night.

Convenient, sounds like this was planned from the get go.

Knittedfairies · 23/12/2018 15:16

The extended checkout takes this to another level; they never had any intention of collecting their children so you could go to the pantomime.🤬🤬🤬

WilburforceRaven · 23/12/2018 15:19

They apparently paid for an extended check out and have been "using the facilities" to recover from a heavy night.

They planned it. Fucking dropped you in it whilst they had a soak in the hot tub. I'd be livid and would Never sit for her again no matter how much she apologises.

Letshopeitsallok · 23/12/2018 15:22

Yup planned. I'd be demanding that she shows me the receipt that they paid for the extended checkout today and not at the time of booking.

SleepingStandingUp · 23/12/2018 15:23

*Just buy 2 more panto tickets and take the kids. No drama where are all these pantos that amazingly have all these empty seats an hour or so before the show starts? And at 3 mine wouldn't sit through a panto. OP said baby and toddler

Handsfull13 · 23/12/2018 15:24

I'd say if they can afford to pay for extended check out they can afford to pay for your lost ticket to the panto and a nice bottle of wine to make up for their shitness.

Glad your keeping the presents though

PipGoesPop · 23/12/2018 15:24

I'd be giving her and the husband a thick ear and I'm against any use of violence ordinarily. Fucking outraged for you.

countrygirl99 · 23/12/2018 15:27

If there isn't still time to get some VERY noisy toys for presents there are always birthdays