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Absolutely Raging at DSis

619 replies

DroningOn · 23/12/2018 10:45

DSis and her DH were at a wedding yesterday, we had their DD1 and DS3 overnight. We've got a panto today at 1:30 for me, DH and our 2 kids.

DSis knows of our plans and has just text to say that both her and DH had too much to drink last night and can't drive until at least mid afternoon. They're 90 mins away so that's today's plans fucked up. Obvs not an AIBU but I am incandescent with rage at the moment.

AAAARGH! Angry

OP posts:
rabbitfoodadvocate · 23/12/2018 15:28

It's nice that they waited until their blood alcohol was the legal limit to drive and collect their kids. Oh wait, it won't be.

Pair of idiots.

AWishForWingsThatWork · 23/12/2018 15:29

An extended check out?

Sounds like they planned to stay and relax and let you deal with their children, and to hell with your own holiday plans.

Definitely keep the presents. They've had it ... you had their children on your day out.

Dreamscomingtrue · 23/12/2018 15:31

Also Panto tickets aren’t cheap! Mine cost £30+each even for a 3 year old who couldn’t see, even with a booster seat, as people in row in front of us were all tall. So ended up on our lap anyway, wasting a seat, that wasn’t even the most expensive inthe stalls. Most pantos would have sold out today anyway.

BottleOfJameson · 23/12/2018 15:33

It's easy for her to apologise. If I had pulled a stunt like that I'd be buying you family theatre tickets and a meal out for you all to make up for it.

cowfacemonkey · 23/12/2018 15:33

God I wouldn't be able to be civil when they finally rock up. I'd have the kids in coats and shoes and hand them over and shut the door in the fuckers faces.

bbcessex · 23/12/2018 15:34

Your update is even worse, OP.

Surely she can’t think that’s ok?

yourma555 · 23/12/2018 15:36

Feel for you this happened to me! Had my dd friend over for the night & told her mum & dad to pick her up at a certain time as I had plans. Was getting nearer & nearer tried calling them, texting them half an hour later mum rang me back as though she didn't have a clue what was happening and was in fact in bed! I had to drop her daughter off and was an hour late! She didn't even come down to the door to say sorry thank you kiss my arse nothing! Never again !!!!

Letshopeitsallok · 23/12/2018 15:36

If that was me I'd feel too guilty to relax and use the facilities knowing I'd ruined my sister's day out. Your sister has the hide of a rhino.

aaaaargghhhhelpme · 23/12/2018 15:36

Another one for the bollocks they just extended their stay oooh how fortune. This was planned. She knew it would fuck up your familys day out but she didn’t care.

Glad they’re getting no presents. Do any other family members do babysitting? It’s something I’d want to know about.

Babyroobs · 23/12/2018 15:38

Get one of those emergency childminder/ nanny services in and make them pay the bill. I would be fuming too !

Handprints2018 · 23/12/2018 15:38

They planned this definitely. If they were too ill and still over the limit to drive then they wouldn't be enjoying the facilities, they would have just got the room longer to sleep.

Cheeky fuckers to say the least. If I'd gone over and genuinely felt i couldn't drive i would have asked to stay at yours the afternoon while dh slept it off and then drove and got a train so you made your panto.

MaraScottie · 23/12/2018 15:40

I'd be livid OP. Talk about taking advantage of your good nature.

I hope you tell them like it is!

Strawberry2017 · 23/12/2018 15:40

That's horrendous behaviour. I'd be never speaking to them again after ruining my kids Christmas treat.

TechnicalSergeantGarp · 23/12/2018 15:41

What did you say to her making full use of the facilities? What time were the DC dropped off yesterday.

Lunde · 23/12/2018 15:42

Wow - they are totally CFs

They must have planned to extend their stay and packed swimwear etc - but didn't care about the consequences for your family

PersonaNonGarter · 23/12/2018 15:42

I cannot imagine how upset I would be about this. Really unforgivable.

Alwaystired122 · 23/12/2018 15:43

I would be absolutely fuming! CF’s

diddl · 23/12/2018 15:44

"Her text was full of apologies and her two haven't been a problem this afternoon."

That's really beside the point though isn't it?

Cheesycheesytwist · 23/12/2018 15:45

*insomniac" you misunderstood my post, of course I'm not suggesting they drive over the limit Hmm What I meant was I doubt they are over the limit, it was just an excuse to have a nice leisurely lunch, and if threatened with paying for a taxi they would have suddenly realised they actually didn't drink that much

Dirtygirtyisthirty · 23/12/2018 15:45

So they paid for extended facilities instead of paying to get their arses in a taxi back to your house to look after their own children?

I'm staggered

OP I know you said you have a good relationship with her and that she isn't like this usually, but I would find it very very difficult to let this go if my sibling did it to me

sashh · 23/12/2018 15:45

That's crap OP

Sorry I didn't see your message earlier, I'd have suggested they found someone to drive their car with them in to yours.

If they have been spending time i the pool / spa - well they must have packed their swimming things which suggests it wasn't spontaneous.

RandomMess · 23/12/2018 15:46

"Using the facilities" if I had drank so much I was over the limit still I would be horizontal in bed and not capable of more.

I know this due to over indulging last week!!!

BifsWif · 23/12/2018 15:47

Apologies mean fuck all. I’d be bubbling with rage.

This was preplanned, they’ve had a lovely relaxing day in the spa at the cost of your family day out.

Letshopeitsallok · 23/12/2018 15:47

Unless her apology includes a spa weekend for you and DH while she babysits, and a theatre trip for the whole family I'd say her text apologies are worthless.

QueenofallIsee · 23/12/2018 15:50

OP, I would be absolutely raging 😤 The self centred, spoilt cow! I have to say I would hard pushed to ever considering an overnight stay again and I’d be telling in no uncertain terms that I am annoyed enough to be completely reconsidering our relationship- on the basis that she has no respect for you.

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