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Absolutely Raging at DSis

619 replies

DroningOn · 23/12/2018 10:45

DSis and her DH were at a wedding yesterday, we had their DD1 and DS3 overnight. We've got a panto today at 1:30 for me, DH and our 2 kids.

DSis knows of our plans and has just text to say that both her and DH had too much to drink last night and can't drive until at least mid afternoon. They're 90 mins away so that's today's plans fucked up. Obvs not an AIBU but I am incandescent with rage at the moment.

AAAARGH! Angry

OP posts:
PattiStanger · 23/12/2018 14:02

Do people really get taxis for journeys of 90 minutes? Surely that's ruinously expensive, how would the OP get her sis to pay for that?

billybagpuss · 23/12/2018 14:03

Have they turned up yet OP. I trust they have discovered their apologetic side yet? CF

Callmedarcy · 23/12/2018 14:08

I think it’s a bit much expecting her to get a taxi ... if she’s 90 minute away ... so a taxi back could a 3 hour round trip in total. That could cost £200.

Sparklesocks · 23/12/2018 14:08

So sorry they have been so selfish OP. We can all get a bit carried away at Xmas but there’s no excuse for this. I hope they understand the weight of their actions.

You should go out with their kids are find the loudest, most irritating toys you can find for them to show mummy and daddy later 🤗

HidingFromMyKids · 23/12/2018 14:10

Chloe84

I heard you don't have to have car seats in a taxi. Could you take them home that way?

Just because you don't HAVE to doesn't make it a good idea.
You would be happy to sit in a taxi with a 1 and 3 year old not safely sat in any kind of car seat for a 90 minute journey 2 days before Christmas?! The roads are chaos, everyone is rushing and you have no idea what kind of driver the taxi driver is. There is so much potential for an accident to happen.
Do you not have children?

I have never understood why people think journeys in a taxi are magically safer than a private car. If its illegal without a car seat in your private car, to protect your children from possible death, then why is a random stranger ok?

Not that it matters as OP would still miss the panto so what's the point? Not to mention the cost.

Cheesycheesytwist · 23/12/2018 14:11

Why did you keep ignoring the taxi suggestion that would've solved it instantly (I actually suspect they just fancy a nice lunch with friends and if you insisted on a taxi one of them would suddenly be able to drive).

Ps your sister and her DH are selfish twats who I would never babysit for again. Why should you miss an event that was planned and they knew about because they only think of themselves.

Cheesycheesytwist · 23/12/2018 14:12

call how's that the ops problem?? Like I said, I bet they magically would be okay to drive if paying for a taxi was the only option

InsomniacAnonymous · 23/12/2018 14:16

Cheesycheesytwist if they decided to drive while still under the influence, just to avoid the cost of a taxi, that is dangerous, not only for them, but for everyone else on the road. That is a "solution" that could cost lives.

SleepySofa · 23/12/2018 14:17

Those people suggesting the OP makes her sister get a taxi... how exactly is she going to MAKE her do it? I mean, how can she physically force her DSis to do it if she refuses to spend £200 on a 90 minute cab journey?

Holidayshopping · 23/12/2018 14:17

Why did you keep ignoring the taxi suggestion that would've solved it instantly

Not if they refused to pay for it.

WinnieFosterTether · 23/12/2018 14:20

I don't think buying panto tickets was an outlandish idea. Presumably the babysitting was organised before they bought the panto tickets.

SleepySofa · 23/12/2018 14:26

Well yes, if the OP’s time machine was working, getting panto tickets would be a great idea! But since the plan was for the toddlers to be picked up by DSis in time for OP and her family to go to the panto on their own, why would she have bought tickets for her niece and nephew at the time she bought her own family’s tickets?

slashlover · 23/12/2018 14:27

I very much doubt that you would find a taxi where I am which is free for 3 hours on the 23rd December, especially with it being a Sunday.

WinnieFosterTether · 23/12/2018 14:28

As a PP said, if the DSIS is always flaky and selfish then OP might have thought something like this was likely to happen.

bouncymonk · 23/12/2018 14:29

Please please please take the suggestion of buying the 3yr old a whistle. Maybe a sprinkle pot of glitter too. But definitely the whistle! Pop it in their bag and say nothing.

TwistedStitch · 23/12/2018 14:29

Nobody in their right mind would want to take someone else's 1 and 3 year olds to a panto, can't imagine anything more stressful than baby and toddler wrangling in a theatre! I'm sure OP bought the tickets looking forward to an afternoon with her own older DC and husband.

Tistheseason17 · 23/12/2018 14:30

I'm livid for you!!!

BlueJava · 23/12/2018 14:31

That is selfishness in the extreme! What a couple of twats they are - can't control what they drink and you and your family end up picking up the pieces with the DC. So sorry on your behalf - I suggest someone waits with the kids the others go to the panto!

BlueJava · 23/12/2018 14:32

Having briefly thought about this ask for replacement tickets from her so you can all go together as a family later in Jan.

InsomniacAnonymous · 23/12/2018 14:34

BlueJava "I suggest someone waits with the kids the others go to the panto!"

That is what the OP said she will be doing.

Kolo · 23/12/2018 14:35

Have you seen the price of panto tickets?? Could have costs hundreds for a family of 4.

CoraPirbright · 23/12/2018 14:37

Selfish fuckers!!! There is NO WAY I would ever be babysitting for them again. Have they turned up yet?

Land0r · 23/12/2018 14:40

What a selfish thing to do. Our panto was fully booked for the whole run (mid November to mid January) by the end of the summer holidays. I booked our school tickets in February for December, so 10 months in advance. Obviously it might be different where the OP lives, but it could well be tricky to get new tickets for a later date.

WhoWants2Know · 23/12/2018 14:41

I'm just waiting for the message to say that they can't pick up the kids today after all.

Heismyopendoor · 23/12/2018 14:45

That's absolutely shocking OP. I hope you got things sorted and are enjoying the panto, wishful thinking maybe :)