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Absolutely Raging at DSis

619 replies

DroningOn · 23/12/2018 10:45

DSis and her DH were at a wedding yesterday, we had their DD1 and DS3 overnight. We've got a panto today at 1:30 for me, DH and our 2 kids.

DSis knows of our plans and has just text to say that both her and DH had too much to drink last night and can't drive until at least mid afternoon. They're 90 mins away so that's today's plans fucked up. Obvs not an AIBU but I am incandescent with rage at the moment.

AAAARGH! Angry

OP posts:
Yulebealrite · 23/12/2018 12:39

Did you suggest the taxi idea? It's too late now but that's what I would have insisted on.
At the very least get them to refund your lost panto ticket.

Knittedfairies · 23/12/2018 12:43

OP, I think you’re doing the only thing possible in the situation. I’d be stomping mad too... I hope you have the right words for your sister when she finally shows up!

Ali1cedowntherabbithole · 23/12/2018 12:44

At this point your plan is the wisest OP.

But yes, I’d be beyond furious. Your Sis and her DH owe you big time.

Lifeofsmiley · 23/12/2018 12:45

Agree with insomniac !
Putting toddlers in a taxi, just buy car seats, just buy two extra panto tickets etc.

GiveMeAllTheGin8 · 23/12/2018 12:49

I would be so annoyed op, I'm raging for you.
Fill the tots full of sugar so they will bounce off the walls when your sister collects them. Maybe give them both a nice long nap Xmas Grin

Rafflesway · 23/12/2018 12:50

OP, I think you deserve a big bunch of Flowers for offering to miss the panto due to your very selfish Dsis and bil.

Please ensure, at the very least, they refund the cost of your ticket. 😡

GoatYoga · 23/12/2018 12:51

You are not at all unreasonable op and have come up with a sensible plan, but there are some absolutely outrageous suggestions on here - what happened to sensible advice?

CrimpBrunette · 23/12/2018 12:52

Yep I'd be bloody fuming too! (Although I have to say I'd be more fuming if they'd turned up for the kids having drunk drove)

FlamingJuno · 23/12/2018 12:54

What's depressing about the OP's situation is that the DSiS is going to get away with it. OP is going to have a lovely family occasion ruined that they've probably been looking forward to for ages, and because she's clearly a nice, reasonable human being, she's not going to go NC with her sis over this, leaving just a shit day at Xmas to remember.

InSightMars · 23/12/2018 12:54

OP, I'm sorry you're going to miss out on the panto with your family because of your cf sis. I'd be furious too.
On the bright side, you're going to own her forever, or for at least the next, oh, 20 years or so. Remind her of this every time you want something from her, be relentless about the nose-rubbing - relentless and unyielding.

IggyAce · 23/12/2018 12:54

Well your cf of a sister and her dh won’t be going out again ever since they have pulled a stunt like this. Stick to your guns and never babysit the kids again.

Also when they arrive I wouldn’t speak to either of them just hand the kids over to them on the doorstep. If you let them in they will be hoping you will feed them and look after their kids further so they can recover from the hangover.

WilburforceRaven · 23/12/2018 12:55

I don't think I've ever read so many idiotic suggestions on a thread before.

I agree! All these bollocks suggestions that at the least would cost loads of money the OP might not have or don't exist, like magicking up a babysitter.

The only one that might work is the sister coming over in a taxi but she's a selfish twat so she won't.

I would NEVER babysit for her again.

But honestly, I'd not have done it for her in the first place if I knew she was going to a wedding and I had plans the next day. Still, she's a complete and utter biatch for doing this.

thefinn · 23/12/2018 12:57

Oh so sorry for you. That's not on no matter how often they can get drunk or not. cheekyfuckery. You are being very nice about it for which i admire you.

WizardOfToss · 23/12/2018 12:58

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eggsandwich · 23/12/2018 12:58

Oh I would be really cross, this is what happens when you do people a favour, so you’ve lost money on your ticket if you don’t go? I would be asking to for reimbursement for the cost of your ticket.

Urbanbeetler · 23/12/2018 13:00

I know it stinks and they have been utter bastards to you, but if it were me amidst the pure rage I’d be feeling, I’d also be glad the children were with me and not in the car with still drunk parents.

Urbanbeetler · 23/12/2018 13:00

But I would never, ever forget their shitfuckery.

mysteryfairy · 23/12/2018 13:02

Agree there are a ton of ridiculous suggestions on the thread and OP has the most sensible if disappointing plan already. A small refinement from me though is that I’d send the 3 year old to the panto if I could borrow a booster and just keep the one year old at home. The three year old will probably love it and will reduce the entertaining workload for the parent left babysitting.

OddBoots · 23/12/2018 13:02

Your plan is the most sensible, any threat of social care might get them driving over still drunk and turn an already bad situation into an absolutely terrible one.

WilburforceRaven · 23/12/2018 13:08

A small refinement from me though is that I’d send the 3 year old to the panto if I could borrow a booster and just keep the one year old at home.

This kid has no ticket! Most of these things are sold out now and how to just 'borrow a booster seat' at short notice if you don't know anyone with toddlers?

Ali1cedowntherabbithole · 23/12/2018 13:09

Mystery Fairy - you are very wise

TidyDancer · 23/12/2018 13:16

@WilburforceRaven there is a spare ticket if OP doesn't go isn't there?

There would be blood spilled if this happened in my family. I'd bloody kill my sister if she pulled shit like this. Not that she would though, because she's not an arsehole cheeky fucker twat like the OP's sister.

I am raging on your behalf OP, this is so wrong.

Molakai · 23/12/2018 13:16

This kid has no ticket
The OP has ticket she can't use

BoneyBackJefferson · 23/12/2018 13:21

mysteryfairy
Agree there are a ton of ridiculous suggestions on the thread and OP has the most sensible if disappointing plan already.

And those ridiculous suggestions are those that the OP needs to hear (posters as angry as her) and put some sense in to the situation.

FairyBunnyAgain · 23/12/2018 13:21

I'm not sure I would be looking after of entertaining the children that had been dumped on me and I would be making it ABSOLUTELY CLEAR to my sister that I was NOT there for her convenience and if she wanted HER children looking after then she would get her arse in gear and get to my house within the next hour as her children were NOT BEING LOOKED AFTER as SHE HAD MADE ME MISS a VERY IMPORTANT outing with my children. I would be demanding back the cost of the ticket and if I had brought any presents for their family they would not be going to them.

I am most willing to help out friends and siblings with their children but if anyone tried to take advantage then this would stop immediately. However I don't know anyone as entitled as your sister.

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