Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

Absolutely Raging at DSis

619 replies

DroningOn · 23/12/2018 10:45

DSis and her DH were at a wedding yesterday, we had their DD1 and DS3 overnight. We've got a panto today at 1:30 for me, DH and our 2 kids.

DSis knows of our plans and has just text to say that both her and DH had too much to drink last night and can't drive until at least mid afternoon. They're 90 mins away so that's today's plans fucked up. Obvs not an AIBU but I am incandescent with rage at the moment.

AAAARGH! Angry

OP posts:
Thadeus · 23/12/2018 11:51

Just buy 2 more panto tickets and take the kids. No drama

OrgyofSausages · 23/12/2018 11:51

Poor you OP - that is outrageous Shock - I hope your Dsis is truly repentant and offers something £££ to compensate.

ThanosSavedMe · 23/12/2018 11:52

Why haven’t they sorted out another way to get the children. There’s no way you should be missing out on your plans. I’d be furious if we’re tou too.

WhatWouldLeslieKnopeDo · 23/12/2018 11:53

Have you suggested the taxi idea?

Kikipost · 23/12/2018 11:53

@Thadeus

Any decent panto will be sold out on 23/12!

WeirdAl17 · 23/12/2018 11:55

Selfish bastards. I wouldn’t be looking after their kids again in a hurry if I were you.

InconsistentlyFestive · 23/12/2018 11:57

Thadeus

Hugely unlikely there will be any seats less or even any seats near the ones Op has already booked.

Sadly, the only option seems to be that you stay home with the nieces and husband takes your own two (or vice versa).

Hopefully your sister and BIL are just too drunk to think much about the impact this has had on your day and once they sober up they will be hugely apologetic.

I really doubt they'll be picking them up before dinner time tonight if they're in such a state. In fact, probably won't be 100% fit to drive until tomorrow morning.

Sadly, they have all the power right now since they have the car seats!

Absolutely awful of them, Op. Sorry your day has been ruined.

Thadeus · 23/12/2018 12:02

@kikipost
Who says they are going to a decent panto???...lol...:)

4point2fleet · 23/12/2018 12:02

They had no intention of coming did they? Unless you live way, way out in the sticks there would have been some combination of public transport/ taxi/ walking they could have used. One could have come and waited withe the children until the other could drive.

It's totally wilful to leave you with them.

GemmeFatale · 23/12/2018 12:07

Dear Sis, don’t worry about collecting the kids. Amazingly social services are open today. Your new social worker is picking the kids up in half an hour and will get in touch regarding contact once your alcohol dependency can be properly assessed in the new year.

Then sort a babysitter and post a happy family photo of you all at the panto

bertielab · 23/12/2018 12:07

I'd put the kids in a taxi and send them to them or even better -tell them to come and get them taxi or not or you will drop the kids off at a local police station.

(Actually I'd try to buy an extra 2 tickets -but I'd say the above).

Sexnotgender · 23/12/2018 12:08

Have you got no one that could look after them until the selfish arseholes arrive?

CottonTailRabbit · 23/12/2018 12:09

Ring their phones constantly until you know that one of them is in a taxi. Constantly. Via the hotel switchboard too.

Go out to the shops and buy those children a drum kit, a recorder, a voice distorting megaphone and a multipack of meringues.

CaptainBrickbeard · 23/12/2018 12:13

Some posters go a bit mad on these sorts of threads and forget that children need looking after - I’m thinking the posters who advise women to go out and leave the toddlers with a still-drunk/severely hungover partner as punishment for him. The very idea of putting your own 1 and 3yo niece/nephews in a taxi for 90 minutes with no car seats is obviously unthinkable - and no taxi driver would take them! I think some people get carried away with righteous indignation. You’re doing the only thing you can, OP, and I’d be absolutely raging with your sister for a good long while but I think people are nuts to suggest that you take it out on the kids.

sackrifice · 23/12/2018 12:15

I'd put the kids in a taxi

You can't put toddlers and send them on a 90 minute journey in a taxi.

chocatoo · 23/12/2018 12:16

Go and buy car seats. Sister will have to foot the bill. I would be beyond furious.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 23/12/2018 12:18

What a pair of selfish dickheads!

I suppose you can't take the little ones in with you, can you? Although that could be more of a nightmare than missing out. I don't know at what point they need tickets though - I mean, you could have a 3yo on your lap, and the 1yo obviously would be. But if you've no car seats for them, you can't get them there anyway.

Well your sister will live to rue the day she took advantage of you like this, won't she. Selfish bint.

TwistedStitch · 23/12/2018 12:19

Dear Sis, don’t worry about collecting the kids. Amazingly social services are open today. Your new social worker is picking the kids up in half an hour and will get in touch regarding contact once your alcohol dependency can be properly assessed in the new year.

I'd send this! What selfish arseholes they are.

HoppingPavlova · 23/12/2018 12:27

I would be livid beyond livid.

I understand they overdid it. We have all been there and got the badge. However with responsibilities you then swing into Plan B. In this case, Uber, Taxi?? That’s what normal people do.

notsohippychick · 23/12/2018 12:29

Dear Sis, don’t worry about collecting the kids. Amazingly social services are open today. Your new social worker is picking the kids up in half an hour and will get in touch regarding contact once your alcohol dependency can be properly assessed in the new year

Absolute gold!!! THIS! LOL

delboysskinandblister · 23/12/2018 12:30

Dear Sis, don’t worry about collecting the kids. Amazingly social services are open today. Your new social worker is picking the kids up in half an hour and will get in touch regarding contact once your alcohol dependency can be properly assessed in the new year.

in a heartbeat. She wouldn't do that to me twice...

InsomniacAnonymous · 23/12/2018 12:33

I don't think I've ever read so many idiotic suggestions on a thread before.

Callmedarcy · 23/12/2018 12:34

I feel like the taxi comments is getting a bit like the cancel the cheque

CrookedMe · 23/12/2018 12:36

Anyone who would fake contacting social services is a total dick. By any chance has anyone suggesting that had any family members go mysteriously NC...

slashlover · 23/12/2018 12:39

I love threads like this where people post all sorts of rubbish that they would absolutely do.

I'd drop them off at a police station!
I'd send a 1yo and a 3yo alone in a taxi!
I'd threaten them with social services!
I'd buy two more panto tickets! (even though they would be for nowhere OPs were and OP has said they don't have car seats).

Nobody in their right mind would do these things.

Swipe left for the next trending thread