Absolutely Raging at DSis

[DroningOn]

DSis and her DH were at a wedding yesterday, we had their DD1 and DS3 overnight. We've got a panto today at 1:30 for me, DH and our 2 kids.

DSis knows of our plans and has just text to say that both her and DH had too much to drink last night and can't drive until at least mid afternoon. They're 90 mins away so that's today's plans fucked up. Obvs not an AIBU but I am incandescent with rage at the moment.

AAAARGH!

The ultimate revenge though op, would be to eventually tell her that you can take her kids for her to go the wedding. Pretend you've forgiven her for what she did.

Then the day that they leave, say you're too ill and cancel. She'd never be able to get childcare in time and would lose out, plus have lost money for the hotel, dress, etc.

I think we've all been there, where we get carried away at a party and have a few to many drinks. I have to say I am impressed with your DS making the sensible judgement to not jump in a car first thing.

When wondering how someone can be such a CF, a post like the above pops up and you realise there are loads of them.

It's Mumsnet, people will twist their own opinions into pretzels just to have the joy of saying "YABU" even when it's obvious the OP is in the right.
I think some people just like disagreeing.

Yes its annoying- but they have made the right call. The nice thing would be for them to get you tickets for another panto, but I dont really know what you want them to do?

The right thing to do would have been to stop drinking at 9 pm when they were sober enough to realise that if they carried on drinking they wouldn't be safe to drive at check-out. The right thing to do would have been to moderate their drinking. The right thing to do would have been to have a discussion with the OP when still fairly sober. Instead, they behaved like ill-disciplined adolescents and gave no consideration to the person looking after their children.

Quite apart from all of that, it has been reported that they carried on drinking until 4 am. There's a very good chance that didn't make the right decision by waiting before they got in the car, it's fairly likely that they were still over the limit.

Disgusting. I hope she reimburses your tickets

Your sister is an irresponsible selfish cow. Tell her to get herself over in a taxi.
And don't ever do her this kind of favour again.

The ultimate revenge though op, would be to eventually tell her that you can take her kids for her to go the wedding. Pretend you've forgiven her for what she did.

Then the day that they leave, say you're too ill and cancel. She'd never be able to get childcare in time and would lose out, plus have lost money for the hotel, dress, etc

Hmm! I think that is a bit over the top..................

What does dd dh and all these letters mean?

@BikeMadMummyOf3 it's standard mumsnet shorthand

DD dear daughter
DH dear husband
DSis dear sister

BikeMadMummyOf3

The 'D' usually means dear/darling

DD - Dear daughter (occasionally dear dad, depends on context)
DH - Dear husband
DW - Dear wife
DS - Dear son
DF - Dear fiance/dear father (context)
DM - Dear mum
BiL - brother in law
Pil - parents in law

& etc

I’d be expecting her to pay for replacement theatre tickets to make up for what you as a family have missed.

Extreme CFery.

Thankyou

Isn't it infuriating when someone does that, my DS did that to me and as much as we love our grandson, I hate anyone taking the piss, and I feel that was taking the piss.

Could you ring and get an extra ticket for 3 year old and 1 year old would not need a ticket. I would be telling dsis in no uncertain terms that there will be no more babysitting. My blood would be boiling about this. Luckily none of my dsis would ever do something like that as they not CF.

I expect all will have been forgiven by the time she wants you to have them again.

It is so GOOD to read a thread where the put-upon family member stands up for herself and simply says with conviction "You will not treat me this way". It didn't degenerate into a brawl or nasty name calling, just stating her position.

Well done, Droning.

tempester28 it would serve her right. Sounds like they did this deliberately despite being told the op was going to a panto. The sister didn't care. Why care about her? Sounds like she's done it a lot to her brother too.

Selfish ass wipes
Hope Boxing Day isn't too awkward

Wonder what the atmosphere Xmas day will be like???

caringcarer Could you read the thread before making banal comments 30 hours after the bloody panto performance? It's a bit unlikely that they'll be able to get a ticket for yesterday's show unless her DH is Marty McFuckingFly.

Equally, did you not think so.eone in the almost 500 comments previously might not have mentioned buying additional tickets, or is your need to have your opinion aired superseding your ability to actually read?

Unknown are you OK?

I think we've all been there, where we get carried away at a party and have a few to many drinks.

Yes absolutely. When I was young, free and single. Since I've been the mother of children that I need to look after and particularly if other people are doing me a favour to enable me to go out - actually not so much. Actually not at all, seeing as how I'm a decent human being.

Needed, I'm absolutely fine. People who don't RTFT and then come on with such a brilliant idea that can't possibly have been mentioned in the days since the situation occurred are arseholes IMO. I'd give 48 it bans for it. Just clogs the threads up unnecessarily.