Absolutely Raging at DSis

[DroningOn]

DSis and her DH were at a wedding yesterday, we had their DD1 and DS3 overnight. We've got a panto today at 1:30 for me, DH and our 2 kids.

DSis knows of our plans and has just text to say that both her and DH had too much to drink last night and can't drive until at least mid afternoon. They're 90 mins away so that's today's plans fucked up. Obvs not an AIBU but I am incandescent with rage at the moment.

AAAARGH!

Droningon - does your mum know what happened? Just wondered what she’d say

Placemarking for the Boxing Day update

Yeah DM knows, she's the eternal peacekeeper though so whilst she agrees it's bang out of order and will gently tell DSis it was unfair it wont be anything resembling a full on bollocking.

DBro won't hold back though, think he's had a bit of her CF behaviour in the past too.

Well it's not really up to your mum to give her a bollocking is it, you & your sis are adults & can sort it out yourselves.

As long as she at least says she disagrees with it rather than making excuses.

Yeah I just wondered if dsis was the golden child and got away with such shit. I’m not sure how someone can get to their age and pull such a stunt without some enabling. Thank god for your brother.

Placemarking for Boxing Day update

Joking aside, OP you are a saint. And your sister...who even does that???!

How awful for you OP and yes, some of the suggestions are ridiculous.

I'd be expecting your sis to be having your kids in the NY so you and DH can go for a nice weekend away and of course you'll be drinking a butt ton and taking your time to get back.

What a pair of bastards, no thought for your family and how their selfishness affects your kids.

The main thing is that you don't babysit her kids overnight again any time soon. As in, for years. If it was a normal weekend no problem but I would have been so angry and upset to miss a Christmas treat with my own family. It takes a special sort of cheeky fuckery to make you miss your own Christmas event and in my experience people like your sister only learn through natural consequences. Only when it hurts her will she learn to be more mindful of the feelings of others.

I think we've all been there, where we get carried away at a party and have a few to many drinks. I have to say I am impressed with your DS making the sensible judgement to not jump in a car first thing.

Far to many people get behind the wheel the following morning, because the 'have to' and there is no way they should be driving.

Yes its annoying- but they have made the right call. The nice thing would be for them to get you tickets for another panto, but I dont really know what you want them to do?

"I think we've all been there, where we get carried away at a party and have a few to many drinks. "

Nope.

Me & my husband would have decided who wasn't drinking & stuck to it.

Agree with Diddl.

Parents aren't infallible humans by any means but these kids are a toddler and even younger. To get sloshed was really irresponsible, especially both of them. Why couldn't one be a designated driver? They chose to have kids and sorry, but social lives have to suffer for a little while.

They don't get bonus points for not driving in the morning. They drove in the afternoon and if they were that pissed, would have probably still failed a breath test.

SarahSissions um, that's not what happened... they made the decision to 'not jump in the car first thing' when they booked a late check out at 9pm the previous evening. They planned to take advantage of the OP.

SarahSissions There is no justification for what was done. Anyone that over drinks to the point they cannot get their own kids, especially when the person minding them has plans, is an arsehole. Plain and simple. A selfish arsehole. I have never over drank if I need to get my kids and anyone that has is clearly selfish and doesn’t think ahead. Also, if they couldn’t drive they should have found another solution. It’s funny that you missed out the part where they planned to stay longer the night before, and then had a lovely lay about using the spa treatments, those are the traits of arseholes.

SarahSissions Yup. Could have called at nine the night before to make a contingency plan, while they extended their check out. But nope. Good old sis will just have to suck it up, miss a treat with her own family and be impressed they didn't drive super drunk.

Our local panto is always good. I'd go without my kids.

I would simply have replied to say "We will be going off to the panto at X o'clock. What are you going to do with your children after that.?

Christ ryfy folks.

This was pre planned at 9pm the night before.
Ops kids didnt miss the panto she did.
Her sis is a selfish cow for putting herself before her sisters plans with her family, as is her bil.
When you arrange to pick.your kids up before a certain time you dont get too plastered then decide to have a spa day and fuck.the person waiting to spend time with thier family.
How on earth is any of this ops fault?

Pair of cheeky bastards!

So they DID do it completely deliberately, knowing that they would fuck over your plans for the day, because you'd TOLD them you had plans to be at the panto at 1:30pm. That is so callous and selfish, no wonder your bloody sister daren't show her face at your door!!

Well I really really hope that you stick to your guns over the Ireland wedding next year - and I suggest that if anyone else in your family is mug enough to agree, that you call them and pre-warn them that their flight is likely to be changed at the last minute "delayed", leaving the mug with the kids for longer.

I'm so cross for you - selfish fuckers!! Good on you for giving your BIL a flea in his ear, and for deciding to keep the presents you'd bought them.

Every time I think I've read the height of CFery on MN, something like this pops up and takes it to new heights. I genuinely can't believe how selfish some people are! I hope you make Boxing Day very very uncomfortable for your sister OP!

I think we've all been there, where we get carried away at a party and have a few to many drinks. I have to say I am impressed with your DS making the sensible judgement to not jump in a car first thing.

Nope, we haven't. When they're little like that, you can't just let it rip unless you really know you're in a situation where someone is looking after your kids the whole weekend, no plans you'll be disrupting and it's all been agreed beforehand. Otherwise, you don't drink if you know you have no off switch.

My youngest is 13 now, but with 3 of them in 5.5 years there were a lot of years there where we just had to reign it in. That's just being an adult.

I hope in the future, OP, you stick to your guns. No overnights, and definitely don't do Ireland for them, they'll manufacture some excuse why they can't come pick up their kids until it suits them.

Such selfish behaviour. I know how precious family time like that is and she's taken it from you. I'm glad you have them an earful.

I think we've all been there, where we get carried away at a party and have a few to many drinks.

People who can't control their drinking to the point that they abandon their children with people who did not agree to look after them while they sleep off their drinking are called "alcoholics" and "shit parents".

I can count on one hand the number of overnighters we got when they were little. DH's father is long dead and his mother has had ill health for a number of years and mine live 300 miles away. Them's the breaks.

Well she really has fucked things up for herself. She really wasn't thinking too far ahead. I hope she doesn't manage to find some eejit to take her kids for that weekend in Ireland.