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Original poster

Absolutely Raging at DSis

619 replies

DroningOn · 23/12/2018 10:45

DSis and her DH were at a wedding yesterday, we had their DD1 and DS3 overnight. We've got a panto today at 1:30 for me, DH and our 2 kids.

DSis knows of our plans and has just text to say that both her and DH had too much to drink last night and can't drive until at least mid afternoon. They're 90 mins away so that's today's plans fucked up. Obvs not an AIBU but I am incandescent with rage at the moment.

AAAARGH! Angry

OP posts:
hamzilla · 23/12/2018 20:34

I cant imagine anyone considering it acceptable to leave a 1 and 3year old for 24 hours during which they would see neither parent, it's bloody cruel!! The poor things are probably wondering if they will ever come back.

Hmm
ResistanceIsNecessary · 23/12/2018 20:35

So in addition to having a neck like a jockey's arse, she's also a coward.

LagunaBubbles · 23/12/2018 20:43

So they planned it and obviously considered their "right" to carry on drinking trumped your family day out. That's actually disgusting behaviour.

MintyChops · 23/12/2018 20:49

Selfish, inconsiderate piss takers. Love the idea of giving them the unused panto ticket as their joint Christmas present, along with a note promising that you will never be babysitting for them again. Idiots.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 23/12/2018 20:55

The 9pm decision is a real “fuck you”.

notapizzaeater · 23/12/2018 21:00

Wow, she's really a cf! I hope she's replied after her dh got home and told her how pissed off she'd made you

happinessischocolate · 23/12/2018 21:04

I wouldn't have told her that I couldn't babysit for her trip to Ireland, I'd more likely have taken great pleasure in waiting for her to ask and agreeing to babysit but when they came to drop the kids off before going I'd unsurprisingly not be at home. 😈

ButteryParsnips · 23/12/2018 21:44

I would also say agree to have the kids for the wedding next year, then be unavoidably detained - but I would be wary that your sister will then leave them with your parents/ someone else 'just till you get back' then you'll be stuck after all. No, better just to enforce consequences and say 'er, no, not after last time'. They can ask some other mug.

ThanosSavedMe · 23/12/2018 21:52

What a complete coward. She. Are you due to see her next?

TeddybearBaby · 23/12/2018 21:56

She / they just don’t care, not at all. Couldn’t give a rats arse that you couldn’t go out today? Honestly I’m so shocked. I’d be so upset if I was you at the complete lack of care for me or my family. I really feel
like she’s done damage that I wouldn’t forgive. I feel like I can’t express it enough. It’s just so so bad. You seem very calm about it all. Maybe I’m more uptight than you 😳

BoneyBackJefferson · 23/12/2018 22:39

ThanosSavedMe

Unless the OP has handed over the presents, I would guess in about two days.

justilou1 · 23/12/2018 22:55

Assuming you're sending them the bill for the extra childcare at double time and a half plus the cost of the ticket wasted then, OP? Utter arseholes. No more favours!!!

DeathyMcDeathStarFace · 23/12/2018 23:05

I was going to say to tell her you were giving her another chance and you'd babysit for the wedding in Ireland, then be out when she comes to drop the children off. She'd soon see what it's like not being able to do the paid for trip she'd been looking forward to, missing out and and losing money.

But some other genius has already suggested it. Smile

tinselduck · 23/12/2018 23:18

Screw that. Selfish behavior

Dogsmellssobadbob · 24/12/2018 07:10

I still don’t understand why you didn’t insist they got a cab to get the kids?

Did you actually want to miss the panto to really make the point?
Shame if you did and your kids had to miss having their mum at their Xmas treat.

PattiStanger · 24/12/2018 07:14

How could anyone insist that someone else does something? There's no way to make that happen.

CuriousMama · 24/12/2018 10:11

I can't believe your latest update! CFers of the year Shock

Yulebealrite · 24/12/2018 11:02

Have you spoken to her yet op?

Original poster
DroningOn · 24/12/2018 11:23

We're all over at DM's for boxing day.

I'll speak to her then, can't be arsed to-ing and fro-ing over WhatsApp.

Her DH was incredibly sheepish when he picked the kids up, very apologetic. I said I'm not going to turn this into a lifelong petty feud but that they can look for other overnight childcare in future

OP posts:
CuriousMama · 24/12/2018 11:26

Good luck for boxing day.

Sexnotgender · 24/12/2018 11:36

Ooh, Boxing Day sounds like it’ll be tense!

Sunflowersforever · 24/12/2018 12:04

@Dogsmellssobadbob

What are you on about? How have you managed to turn this around to blame the OP? Plus hint she's a shit mum and blah blah her poor kids.

Very strange comment

amusedbush · 24/12/2018 12:08

Dogsmellssobadbob

Are you trying to be obtuse? It was a 90 minute taxi journey, how exactly should the OP have forced her sister to pay for that?

GlitterStick · 24/12/2018 12:18

it’s easily done, once you have passed the point of no return you carry on. Especially at a wedding where you may have waiters topping up your drinks. I am not saying I do this but have none of you seriously drunk more than you meant to ever? I really don’t believe nobody has

Yes, more times than I care to remember, it is easily done.
HOWEVER, the massive difference is that if my sis was babysitting my kids and had plans to be at the panto the next day, no WAY would I still be swanning around the hotel the next morning, I'd be getting a taxi or making damn sure I picked my kids up, she is BEYOND cheeky and taking the piss.

I must be a terrible mother but I cannot imagine my kids being that bothered if I couldn’t come to the panto with them as long as they still got to go and my DH went too

What if the mum was really looking forward to going?! Panto tickets cost an absolute fortune, and I love our annual panto trip. To have to stay at home and miss out, I'd be gutted never mind anyone else!
Sister KNEW they had plans to go the next day. She is so out of order, stick to it OP and NEVER babysit for her again.

WhatchaMaCalllit · 24/12/2018 12:23

I've been gripped by this thread. Hope you are able to enjoy your Boxing Day OP. Will you come back and let us know what happens (if anything, at your Mother's on Boxing day) please?