Absolutely Raging at DSis

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DSis and her DH were at a wedding yesterday, we had their DD1 and DS3 overnight. We've got a panto today at 1:30 for me, DH and our 2 kids.

DSis knows of our plans and has just text to say that both her and DH had too much to drink last night and can't drive until at least mid afternoon. They're 90 mins away so that's today's plans fucked up. Obvs not an AIBU but I am incandescent with rage at the moment.

AAAARGH!

OP - any chance your sister is a MN user and will see the collective outrage at their behaviour?

You sound like a lovely sister. Your dsis is a complete idiot and a coward for not turning up. I'd have been there with flowers and champagne (not that I would have done that in the first place).

OP - any chance your sister is a MN user and will see the collective outrage at their behaviour?

She won't care. People like this have rhino hides.

What an absolute joke!!! I would be fuming! Please stick to your guns and never forget this and never have her kids again

I’d be fuming. I’m fuming on your behalf.
I definitely like the idea of wrapping the ticket up up and gifting that to them!

How did he react to the 'earful' OP?

Please make sure every relative learns of this. Give them the heads up for future babysitting requests.

I wouldn't even be that sure that they got that drunk.

Sounds like they realised they had guaranteed free childcare and they thought "fuckit, let's make a weekend of it". Cheeky fuckers. Don't cave and babysit for them for the wedding in June.

What did the DH say?

I hope you enjoy telling them to stuff the wedding in June. They could have made plans at 9pm for alternative arrangements for the children. They were with it enough to book extended check out so they’d have known exactly what they were doing to you.

Did Dsis ever reply to your text or just leave her DH to deal with the fall out?

What a fucker. How selfish!

Bloody selfish twatbadgers the pair of them!

Any response from Dsis to your text, OP?

I can't believe the few posters who have made light of/excused the sister and bil's behaviour. Some have said that the op's children still got to the pantomime so that's ok then??

A theatre trip, all together as a family, a couple of days before Christmas is a much anticipated exciting treat. The cost is usually very high, the type of thing most families do once in a blue moon. No way is it the same for the kids to just go with dad. Two adults together doing something great with their kids is a very different thing to one parent alone. Lets face it, its the family time, together seeing the kids excitement ext which is what the parents looked forward to, not the pantomime itself. And its not exactly great fun, having looked after 4 kids overnight, to stay in alone with someone else's baby and toddler
and missed your own planned for Christmas family treat.

What grates the most is that while all this is happening for the op her sister and bil have calmly booked a late check out and are in the spa!! What!! If you have children being looked after, and you know the volunteer childminders have plans of their own ...unless you can't lift your head from the pillow you get back somehow. They didn't book the late checkout at 10 o'clock that morning because they literally couldn't lift their heads off the pillow...no ...they were well enough to stroll down to the spa ...having booked the room at 9.00 the night before.

It is staggering that a very small minority of posters have made excuses for them. I do hope you take the advice of the majority op and never help them out again.

I wonder how she would take it if you agreed to the Ireland babysitting, had a night away the previous night and sadly found you were too hung over the next day to get back in time for her plans? The type of people who have a supreme disregard for the plans of others usually think their own plans are sacrosanct.

Anyone who would fake contacting social services is a total dick. By any chance has anyone suggesting that had any family members go mysteriously NC...

Who said 'fake' contacting Social Services. In hind sight this is bad thing if you don't get the money off her first for the panto. Then go NC.

What selfish fuckers!

To the posters who’ve said her kids probably won’t mind going without her, OP obviously wanted to be with her own family. Spending time with them. Looking after young kids is hard, even more so when they’re not your own and feel you have to be extra cautious with them.

Your sister and BIL are beyond cheeky and your sister had the gall not to even pick up her kids. I wouldn’t babysit those selfish fucks again!

Part of the fun of these things is seeing your kids enjoying it. Not nice at all. I hope you leave BIL with a complete understanding of how pissed off you are.

RainbowBriteRules I think it's better to stop typing because you are just digging the hole deeper for yourself with your unreasonable posts

Hey, I have not and never would behave like that. Just trying to show the other side. Fine though, this is my last post.

What did he say when he picked them up? Did you get a decent apology?

RainbowBriteRules Genuinly haven’t drank to excess when I need to get my kids. To be honest though, I haven’t drank in years and only did so when someone was looking after my child for the night. I’ve also always planned to drink a lot and if I do it’s ok and if I didn’t it was also fine.

So your sister is en effing coward as well.

And they wasted more of your time by running her home first so she wouldn't have to face you then coming straight to you to pick up their children.

Selfish pair of entitled arseholes.

@RainbowBriteRules isn’t wrong that it is possible to forget your limits and get wasted without intending to.

However booking the late check-out at 9pm the night before looks like pre-planning, not accident. They were sober enough to book the late check out - they were sober enough to decide to stop drinking and switch to soft drinks, so they could get back to pick up their children and avoid ruining the OP’s Panto trip.

They chose to carry on getting pissed - and it looks 100% deliberate to me.

Christ, a blowtorch wouldn’t mark your sister’s neck, would it? What a selfish cow.