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Absolutely Raging at DSis

619 replies

DroningOn · 23/12/2018 10:45

DSis and her DH were at a wedding yesterday, we had their DD1 and DS3 overnight. We've got a panto today at 1:30 for me, DH and our 2 kids.

DSis knows of our plans and has just text to say that both her and DH had too much to drink last night and can't drive until at least mid afternoon. They're 90 mins away so that's today's plans fucked up. Obvs not an AIBU but I am incandescent with rage at the moment.

AAAARGH! Angry

OP posts:
Craft1905 · 23/12/2018 17:23

Send the two kids to the panto and go to bed with hubby. Pantos are rubbish!!

Oh no they're not!

SleepingStandingUp · 23/12/2018 17:23

t’s easily done, once you have passed the point of no return you carry on
Then you phone up and apologise, ask if they'll dro othem to you / can wait for you to get a taxi / say you'll call round and see if someone can take them. You don't pop into the bikini you accidentally packed and lounge around the jacuzzi.

It is absolutely relentless having a baby and toddler.
As they aren't twins, they chose to have two kids. Vyou don't get to just not collect them whenever suits because aww you have to work hard to parent them. Especially at the cost of your sisters parenting experiences with her own kids

simplyhaving · 23/12/2018 17:29

I’d be agreeing to take her kids for the Ireland trip and bail on her at last minute.

RCohle · 23/12/2018 17:29

I would be irate. But take comfort from the fact that she's going to have huge difficulty arranging childcare for her kids in the future when she's repeatedly taking the piss like this with you and your brother. Drinking for a few more hours at this wedding now means she may not be able to go to one in the future at all.

Cagliostro · 23/12/2018 17:29

So did the H offer to, or did you tell him to, reimburse you for the wasted ticket?

Please, PLEASE wrap the unused ticket beautifully, all fancy ribbons and such, and give them that for Christmas.

WilburforceRaven · 23/12/2018 17:33

So they decided this in advance. Wow, what a pair of twats. And he didn't offer to pay for your ticket, did he? Don't back down, but never babysit for them. She didn't even have the nerve to face you. I'd be fucking livid because they planned this in advance.

It is absolutely relentless having a baby and toddler.

Tough shit! Then don't have them so close together. Having kids is a choice. When people chose to have them close together they have to suck it up.

itswinetime · 23/12/2018 17:38

So they decided at 9pm when you still had a chance to make arrangements so you could attend you plans if the told you but they didn't utter arseholes. I would make sure anyone who you know who might babysit is aware at least no more plans get spolied that way!

GemmeFatale · 23/12/2018 17:42

I’d absolutely agree to take the kids for the wedding in June.

Then they’d be standing on my doorstep with their bags all pack and flights booked and I’d be out, away on my own mini break with my family.

Handprints2018 · 23/12/2018 17:44

So they decided in advance, decided it was fine to waste your money and take your time and time away from your family time. Cheeky fuckers both of them.

Then she cowardly decided not to admit it, at least her dh faced you. I bloody hope he apologised a hell of a lot.

Do you have to see them over christmas and did you give them gifts?

Sunflowersforever · 23/12/2018 17:46

What will be interesting now is how they properly apologise and try to make amends.

Total CF if they don't.

fluffymrray · 23/12/2018 17:47

I'd do the same as Gemme Grin

Andro · 23/12/2018 17:47

They were apparently drinking until 4am and went to reception to ask for a late checkout at 9pm last night!

So, not only did they elect to disregard you, they were almost certainly still over the limit when they did (eventually) leave. Selfish, idiotic and definitely CF's!

7yo7yo · 23/12/2018 17:47

What nasty people.
You, your family and your plans mean fuck all to these people op. Disgusting.

ohfourfoxache · 23/12/2018 17:49

What a pair of selfish cunts Angry

SoftlyCatchyMonkey1 · 23/12/2018 17:50

OP did he understand why what they did was so out of order?

Elfinablender · 23/12/2018 17:50

It is absolutely relentless having a baby and toddler.

Yes, it is. All the more reason not to burn your bridges the the people around you who are prepared to take them overnight.

Piewife · 23/12/2018 17:51

I can't believe this! I think they're lucky to have someone to take their young children overnight to start with, it's a massive favour to do that. Disgusting behaviour to ruin your panto trip for you like that and unfair on their young children too.

If you can, I'd return whatever gifts you've got them for Christmas and use the money for a family day out. Really they should offer to at least cover the cost of your wasted ticket though.

No way I'd ever be babysitting for them again either! Op, I hope your sister at least has the guts to admit they were out of order and apologise!

PipGoesPop · 23/12/2018 17:52

Are you seeing your sister over Christmas? Would LOVE to know what she says to you face to face.

Holidayshopping · 23/12/2018 17:53

What did they actually say about you missing the panto because of them?!

mummmy2017 · 23/12/2018 18:00

I could never do that to someone.
DSis did it too me once... Found her at 2 I. The morning and handed her child over...

LIZS · 23/12/2018 18:01

Hope they are reimbursing your panto ticket

8misskitty8 · 23/12/2018 18:04

What a couple of cheeky b’s they are.
They did it deliberately since they asked for the late check out at 9pm the night before. They had no intention of picking up their children at the time they should have.
So they chose to ruin your planned family day.

I would be asking for the cost of your ticket from them at the very least.

WizardOfToss · 23/12/2018 18:05

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ReflectentMonatomism · 23/12/2018 18:05

OP's mother starts making excuses for golden child feckless drunkard daughter, and how sensible accommodating scapegoat OP doesn't understand how hard it all is in 3...2...1...

This sort of entitled fuckery doesn't spring from nowhere.

DragonMamma · 23/12/2018 18:19

Eurgh. Your update doesn’t post them in any better light. 9pm?! And they didn’t think to perhaps drop you a text or call and ask you whether this would be ok, at that time?

Absolute piss-taking wankers. Like you OP, it wouldn’t be the missed panto but the bare faced cheek that they just assumed you would pick up their slack.

I’d be telling them right now to not even bothering asking about the Ireland wedding as it’s a resounding No for that and any other babysitting requests for the foreseeable future.