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Absolutely Raging at DSis

619 replies

DroningOn · 23/12/2018 10:45

DSis and her DH were at a wedding yesterday, we had their DD1 and DS3 overnight. We've got a panto today at 1:30 for me, DH and our 2 kids.

DSis knows of our plans and has just text to say that both her and DH had too much to drink last night and can't drive until at least mid afternoon. They're 90 mins away so that's today's plans fucked up. Obvs not an AIBU but I am incandescent with rage at the moment.

AAAARGH! Angry

OP posts:
Kikipost · 23/12/2018 16:39

@SheWoreBlueVelvet

So your friends would not do this deliberately.

My friends would not do this. Period.

IggyAce · 23/12/2018 16:40

The fact she isn’t coming to get them speaks volumes, they planned this. Sounds like they have form given the update from your chat with your brother. What a shame they won’t be attending the wedding in Ireland.
I wouldn’t mention about their gifts, I would say if asked where their gift is, state that the forced additional babysitting was their gift.

PollyFlinderz · 23/12/2018 16:42

Think it says a lot about the posters here that everyone assumes they have done that deliberately. I know my friends and family wouldn't.

Everyone? I think you’re exaggerating.

Butchyrestingface · 23/12/2018 16:42

I take it you're too nice a person for your sister to believe you that you would do a Kevin McAllister on her little darlings should someone fail to come and collect, OP*?

Pity.

*(believe, not actually do).

amusedbush · 23/12/2018 16:43

I appreciate you're pissed off, but I think keeping their Christmas presents is a bit petty.

Seriously? After the sister, at best, seized the opportunity to take advantage of the OP’s good nature or, at worst, planned to do this all along and deprived OP of a lovely day with her children? The fact that they had swimwear in order to enjoy the facilities reeks of pre-planning.

If my brother did that to me he’d be lucky if I didn’t bloody lamp him with the present.

StoorieHoose · 23/12/2018 16:43

She is getting dropped off at her house then sending her DH to yours to collect the kids? Bugger texting phone her back right now and tell her that she can collect her kids ASAP no taking her home first then coming to get them

Time4change2018 · 23/12/2018 16:44

I'm raging at the cheek on your behalf ... speaks volumes that she wont face you. Well done on calling her on it, now you just need to stand firm .... as I know too well, these cf's have a way of wiggling back in to favour

HippoLatte · 23/12/2018 16:44

ChristmasFlary Nope, I've always been busy/sick etc since. I doubt it has even registered with her as to why though.

OrgyofSausages · 23/12/2018 16:46

Or just say " the cost of my ruined theatre trip is your gift. Be thankful I'm not invoicing you". CFs of the worst kind.

aaaaargghhhhelpme · 23/12/2018 16:48

Shewore - maybe the kids would be having a better time if they were enjoying it all as a family. Plus we only have op’s dh saying that. My dh would be trying to make me feel better by saying the dc are ok as he knows how shit I’d be feeling.

MumW · 23/12/2018 16:50

I'd be making sure the DC were ready to go so you can hand them over at the front door and DBil doesn't get to come in for a cuppa or the loo.

SassitudeandSparkle · 23/12/2018 16:50

Why aren't you screaming down the phone at her? Or her DH when he turns up? Send him home with the unused panto ticket and tell him you expect the money!

VickyEadie · 23/12/2018 16:51

The fact that they had swimwear in order to enjoy the facilities reeks of pre-planning.

Yep.

CatnissEverdene · 23/12/2018 16:51

I can't believe she's sending her DH. That's beyond cowardly.

You're very lovely OP that you didn't dump the kids off at a Police station or ring SS as some suggested on here.

What a lesson to learn though. It's really horrid to be taken advantage of and makes you feel crap. I hope you're ok Flowers

Kikipost · 23/12/2018 16:52

Why aren't you screaming down the phone at her?

I’d never want my children to see me behaving like that.

It’s incredibly thoughtfulness and rude. But that kind of response just takes it to Jeremy Kyle

BoneyBackJefferson · 23/12/2018 16:57

SheWoreBlueVelvet
Think it says a lot about the posters here that everyone assumes they have done that deliberately.

Yes it says that we have been through the same as the OP and want others to know that its shit and that you don't have the stand for it.

I know my friends and family wouldn't.

And that is why you are the one that they will choose.

OopsThereGoMyTrousers · 23/12/2018 16:58

If I was staying overnight in a Spa hotel, I would take my swimwear even if I was planning on staying sober and leaving at 11am.
Having a cossie does not mean it was preplanned to stay until mid afternoon.

Put the pitchforks down people!

BoneyBackJefferson · 23/12/2018 16:58

Well she can fuck right off and good luck finding someone else to take a baby and toddler for a run of nights while she enjoys herself, took a bit of pleasure in telling her that

Please make sure that you stick to that.

HeadsDownThumbsUpEveryone · 23/12/2018 16:59

I’d never want my children to see me behaving like that.

Well given the Op's kids are not at home and are out at the Panto with their father I think screaming would be perfectly justified.

I would have thought the 2 small children she's currently caring for would have been scared more by seeing neither parent for a full 24 hours!

It’s incredibly thoughtfulness and rude.

Surely her sisters actions were far more thoughtless and rude?

ChristmasFlary · 23/12/2018 17:01

@HippoLatte - good for you! Really can't bear CF.

QuackPorridgeBacon · 23/12/2018 17:01

RainbowBriteRules How do you accidentally drink too much? If you know you have kids to pick up why not stop after so many?

DragonMamma · 23/12/2018 17:01

I am actually aghast she hadn’t had the common decency to come and get her children and apologise face to face.

Of course it was pre-planned - how would you have your swimming costume with you otherwise?!

Fluffycloudland77 · 23/12/2018 17:02

I think this was pre planned, who packs swimwear for an 11am checkout?. Someone who paid for a 2pm checkout, that’s who.

I bet your brothers tapped for babysitting next.

PollyFlinderz · 23/12/2018 17:04

Of course it was pre-planned - how would you have your swimming costume with you otherwise?!

perhaps they also used the facilities yesterday after planning to do so.

Kikipost · 23/12/2018 17:04

@HeadsDownThumbsUpEveryone

I meant that the sister’s actions were incredible inconsiderate and rude! Reread my post.