To not buy DD a new coat?

[LemonBeachTowel]

More of a WWYD then AIBU. DD is 13 years old and is fairly fashion conscious. Last week she and DH went coat shopping and she came back with a coat that coat a fairly extortionate amount of money.
Anyway DD wore the coat to school last Friday. And now hates it. Despite being the coat of her dreams the day before. Apparently other girls in her class made comments about the coat and now she can’t possibly wear it ever again.
DH has said she can have a new coat and this is were the problems lies. I think she needs to carry on with her expensive almost brand new coat. DH wants to buy her another new coat. I tried to compromise and said she can have a new cheap coat or we could return the old coat and buy a new coat with the refund. However DD wants the coat to wear at weekends and doesn’t want a cheaper coat for school. I’m bored of talking about it with her! WWYD?

Your DD really sounds very brattish, getting such an extortionately priced coat at her age and then refusing to wear it and demanding a new coat, whilst refusing to return the coat as she wants it for weekends

Return it, sell it or give it to charity and buy her a coat from George.

Real fur is not acceptable! Do some research, look into the industries. Maybe start with Angora fur and then say that real fur is acceptable.

If a coat has been worn (even once) you can’t take it back. How would you feel if you have bought a very expensive (Canada Goose) coat and then found out someone had already worn it for a day (and to school)
You will probably find that though to you it looks new still the lining will have creased (particularly on the elbows) and the retails won’t refund it anyway.
Also I would imagine that the fur is removable anyway

Does your DD fully understand the implications of wearing real fur? Is she comfortable with wearing real fur knowing what will have occurred in order for her to wear it? In other words - is she comfortable with her choice to wear fur in the knowledge that it is extremely controversial and that many if not most people these days believe that the only place fur should be is on the animal to which it belongs?

If so, then, as harsh as this may sound, she may as well wear the coat to school and get used to handling the comments because people generally tend not to hold back about fur and she is likely to get called out on it at some point, whether at school or elsewhere. If she is genuinely comfortable with her choice to wear it, knowing all the facts - then she needs to be prepared for what comes with that territory. If not, then she isn't mature enough to fully understand/defend her choice, in which case, return the coat and get a different one.

Bottom line - she needs to understand the consequences of a purchase like that and, if fashion is that important to her then going forward, she needs to be prepared to deal with comments about her choices whether it be this coat or another "fashion" idea.

*retailer

I was going to say they will probably bully her for the next new coat, but after the drip feed I’m inclined to agree with them. At least it sounds like they have a conscience.
It’s a pity your DH & DD didnt research it properly.

Am I reading correctly|? Your DD chose her new and very expensive coat, went to school, some of her friends didnt like it so your DH want to replace with another expensive coat?

Wow, how to raise a brat!

Holy shit I have just looked at the prices of a Canadian goose coat can't believe you spent that amount of money on a coat for a teenager!

So it’s an extortionate Canada Goose, then. Yeah, I would have had a few comments about that too.

A very spoiled, bratty young colleague came to work recently bragging about his new Canada Goose jacket (the latest in a long line of expensive clothes that he has purchased) and was completely dismayed when everyone in the office pulled disgusted faces about the real fur trim. He had expected everyone to be green with envy but instead was told to get some fucking morals.

I had to google to know the prices, but £800 on a fucking coat? You are raising a brat and that is why she is acting like a brat.

The fact it has real fur just makes it even more horrendous.

Sell it or donate it and teach her that some people can barely afford to buy a coat let alone an £800 one

Sorry. I went quiet to try and avoid the (deserved) backlash. I’ve asked her to remove the fur and told her she will wear that coat to school after the holidays.

How much?!!!!

OMG

And yes. Real fur on coats is awful

Fur ? I'm surprised your daughter would have wanted it in the first place. If my kids came home with that (they wouldn't) I would have made them take it back.

If you think you can get a refund , do that, then buy a nice coat without the fur. If you can't get a refund, I'd buy her a decent new one, but I wouldn't allow her to wear real fur anything at weekends (or any other time). It would be straight in the bin. I'd also be telling her never to spend my money on that again.

I would love a Canada goose coat! She's so lucky. Explain that the critiscisers are either hypocritical vegan types or very jealous of her. I can't imagine she's the only one in the school with a Canada goose coat so she should hold her head up high and wear it.

I wouldn’t buy her a new coat.

I’m really surprised there are so many people in here who have different coats for their kids for school and outside school.

Mine have the one coat and it lasts a year. Like it or lump it.

I’m surprised the school allow her to wear a coat that expensive to school.

Christ! She won't wear a Canada Goose coat and just wants to keep it for weekends?! I was about to say 'poor girl, let her have a different one if she's being bullied' but I think she definitely needs to style this one out! My DC's school coats are from Asda

I have no problem as such with a coat being expensive - if people have the money to spend on an expensive coat then that's their business (although you couldn't pay me enough to wear real fur).

I do, however, have a problem with a still-growing teenager being bought an arguably very controversial and extremely expensive coat, seemingly without any consideration for the consequences of wearing such a thing, and then when she faces inevitable comments, she demands another coat!

I'm actually shocked any kid would want to wear real fur in this day and age. I'm not shocked she got called out for it at all now. This isn't a bullying issue, it's an ethics one! Yuck.

PlaydonutAnd I don’t be saying to my kid ignore the ignorant show offs whose parents have more money than sense, style or ethics. But each to their own

That should be “I’d be saying...”

The best thing you can do is teach her resilience, she sounds massively spoilt and I’m unashamed to say you sound like you are actually stealthy boasting.

@mrsgrindah we are basically saying the same thing. Be true to yourself and fuck what other people think is a very good message for teenage girls, whether you are saying it in a pro or anti Canada goose way.

I'd sell it on eBay and then she can spend whatever it sells for on a new one.

I'd get her a new cheap coat. And I wouldn't buy her expensive clothes again in a hurry.