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To not buy DD a new coat?

262 replies

LemonBeachTowel · 20/12/2018 18:46

More of a WWYD then AIBU. DD is 13 years old and is fairly fashion conscious. Last week she and DH went coat shopping and she came back with a coat that coat a fairly extortionate amount of money.
Anyway DD wore the coat to school last Friday. And now hates it. Despite being the coat of her dreams the day before. Apparently other girls in her class made comments about the coat and now she can’t possibly wear it ever again.
DH has said she can have a new coat and this is were the problems lies. I think she needs to carry on with her expensive almost brand new coat. DH wants to buy her another new coat. I tried to compromise and said she can have a new cheap coat or we could return the old coat and buy a new coat with the refund. However DD wants the coat to wear at weekends and doesn’t want a cheaper coat for school. I’m bored of talking about it with her! WWYD?

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Avrannakern · 22/12/2018 19:23

Why do so many people on mumsnet say loose when they mean lose. Loose is something which isn't tight. Lose means to misplace or not win something.

Bluelady · 22/12/2018 19:28

What part of she's worn the coat are people not understanding here? It can't be returned.

DashingThroughTheWoke · 22/12/2018 19:34

Really Avrannakern that's your contribution, to post to correct people? Well I hope you feel nice and superior.

PS if your user name is what I think it is, it's Avrana Kern - with one n.

Ahem.

AloneInMyHead · 22/12/2018 19:35

Why do so many people on mumsnet say loose when they mean lose

They are obviously not as amazingly clever as you are. Many, many thanks for the lesson. I'm sure the poster who got it wrong is incredibly grateful. 😂 Please feel free to check my SPaG as I'm not going to check it before posting.

Drogosnextwife · 22/12/2018 19:36

Oh but it can some shops will take things back knowing they have been worn with no tags or anything, just the receipt. Expensive shops are sometimes a bit more strict.

Personally I wpuld buy a new coat and let her keep that one if I had the money. She obviously still loves it and it's a shame it was ruined for her, but.... I can see why the kids said something about it being real for and I'm pretty shocked anyone still buys real fur let alone buy a it for a child to wear.

DashingThroughTheWoke · 22/12/2018 19:37

Alone it's fucking annoying. I've not even read back to check if it was me but it might be as I forget my SPAG due to a brain issue. It's so nice to be corrected though, it makes me feel so good Hmm

Avrannakern · 22/12/2018 19:38

@DashingThroughTheWoke

I've posted on the thread previously. And that username wasn't accepted when I tried to use it, so altered the name slightly (commonly done).

It's not a spelling error. It's a completely different word and people do it on here all the time. It's a different word!

Bluelady · 22/12/2018 19:38

No shop will take a worn £800 coat back. Get real.

DashingThroughTheWoke · 22/12/2018 19:41

And it effects you how exactly? It's clear what they mean - or don't you understand even with the context?

Like I said I have a brain issue and medication that makes me forgot words and how to spell words I used to know (and punctuation!). How do you think people like me feel when someone posts like you to point out errors? You just do it as you think it makes you look clever but more people think it's twattish then clever. HTH

AloneInMyHead · 22/12/2018 19:43

DashingThroughTheWoke

Don't let it bother you. There's a few SPaG police on here. Like you say they don't contribute an opinion to the thread and are obviously trying to feel superior. As long as you can make sense of a post, who cares if there's a word spelt wrong. They obviously have nothing better to do. Arseholes

Drogosnextwife · 22/12/2018 19:45

Ok didn't read that it was £800. This thread didn't interest me enough to read the full thing. No need for the "get real" I did say that the more expensive shops were stricter with this type of thing.

I can't believe you bought your daughter an £800 pound coat!

Avrannakern · 22/12/2018 19:45

Check all my other posts; I've never corrected spelling or grammar. But it's a different word! You don't really see that mistake all over Facebook, and I certainly don't see it on any other forums I'm on. But on mumsnet it seems to have become a thing. So many people say loose when that's not what they're trying to say. So I bring it up because I only see that error repeatedly on this site. It's like it's spreading.

AloneInMyHead · 22/12/2018 19:47

And that username wasn't accepted when I tried to use it, so altered the name slightly (commonly done)

Just tried it with one n and it accepted it. I think you've made a spelling error. 😂

Avrannakern · 22/12/2018 19:48

@AloneInMyHead

I contributed on page 7. But OP has had s telling off from the majority of posters and hasn't been back for a whole. She probably isn't coming back, so there's not much point in offering any more opinions on the subject of the coat.

DashingThroughTheWoke · 22/12/2018 19:49

Right. We get it, you're cleverer and more superior than the rest of us inferior mortals, who make these errrors.

Doesn't it bother you at all that you're correcting people like me who might have issues causing these errors? Did you read my previous posts?

masterandmargarita · 22/12/2018 19:51

But isn't correcting someone's user name because they corrected some spelling or grammar just as petty? Two correcting wrongs doesn't make a right.

DashingThroughTheWoke · 22/12/2018 19:52

I was trying to make a point! That people who correct others should check themselves first. I didn't just suddenly post it for no reason Hmm

AvrannaKern · 22/12/2018 19:53

It's not an incorrect spelling. It's a different word with a completely different meaning. And I find it very hard to believe that every person on here doing it has some issues.

I'm dyslexic. I still do my very best to spell things correctly, and I want to be told if I've made a glaringly obvious error. But this isn't spelling; it's a different sodding word with an entirely different meaning. And it's all over mumsnet!

DashingThroughTheWoke · 22/12/2018 19:54

Oh fuck it. I know MN used to be "strict" on SPaG and abbreviations etc but it was more light hearted. I've seen loads of these posts/threads recently about "correcting" people and it's really starting to fuck me off and put me
Off posting these days. There is just no need for it.

SushiMonster · 22/12/2018 19:54

£800????? Who the actual fuck buys a teenager an £800 coat.

Whatever OP, get her a new one if her daddy thinks it fiiiiiiiine.

AloneInMyHead · 22/12/2018 19:54

She probably isn't coming back, so there's not much point in offering any more opinions on the subject of the coat

Then find another thread to contribute to instead of making others feel shit. DashingThroughTheWoke has said she has a health issue, there will be many others with other health problems or dyslexia. Or God forbid, maybe others that are just not great at spelling for whatever reason. Think about how you make others feel.

DashingThroughTheWoke · 22/12/2018 19:56

Well personally I don't want to be told,
Thanks . I'm on MN not sitting an exam. Do you make a Habit of giving out unsolicited advise and corrections in RL?

You are being rude and hurtful posting like that. Please stop doing it.

Avranakern · 22/12/2018 19:57

@AloneInMyHead

She may have health issues but my post wasn't directed at her. I wasn't correcting her. She didn't like what I wrote, so she argued with me. That's fine, but my post had nothing to do with her or her health issues.

Well, if they learn the difference between loose and lose then they can apply that information next time.

APositiveMind · 22/12/2018 19:57

Kids can be cruel I can see why she wouldn't want to wear it after comments. She pro ably feels very self conscious.
Could you ask her to sell the coat on social media/eBay and whatever she gets for it she can buy a new coat with the money she has made, then the cost isn't wasted and you don't have to fork out. X

DashingThroughTheWoke · 22/12/2018 19:58

How do you know whoever you corrected doesn't have issues? Genuine question?

And why do you feel it's your place to correct people who aren't addressing you?

People are telling you you are being rude and upsetting people. Is your need to correct errors more important?