Is neighbour being cheeky?

[fortyforty]

I'm constantly constantly taking deliveries for next door. Don't really mind, I'm usually home but have a little baby and does get annoying.

Anyway this morning I've had 3 separate deliveries. Last one really annoyed me as I'm trying to settle baby, wouldn't of answer the door but they say me in the window. It's a big massive desk this time.

Anyway said to the driver I'll take it but mentioned I'm fed up of it and this is the last one I'm taking. Driver pointed over to neighbours door and said there's a note on it saying 'leave any parcels with number 17'

And she's been home since and not bothered to come and collect them, she will wait for my husband to bring them round to her.

I know it's not first world issues but I'm no longer answering the door. I've never minded taking her parcels but to write a note on the door I think is a bit cheeky. Do you agree?

Maybe OP has gotten stuck behind the mountain of CF parcels?

Definitely very cheeky of neighbour. Folk usually try to accomodate and help neighbours by taking the odd parcel now and again. Your neighbour though is using you for her own convenience. Do not take desk to her, she should collect. If it's causing a nuisance to you eg space out a note through letter box telling them when it will be convenient to call to collect. Tell her you don't mind the odd parcel but you are not a click and collect point for her.

This happened to me at my old house. She once had about 4 rolls of carpet delivered to me & he arrived just as I was leaving for the school run. Made me wait for it to be shoved into my hallway and then DP had to carry it all over to her. She had put notes on all her deliveries for them to be left with me! I never said anything because she was actually a really lovely lady just a bit of a CF 🤣

Just stop doing it .The delivery person is desparate to drop the items they are paid very little per parcel.and despite the number of times they attempt a drop off its the same amount they are paid .I think its 75p per large item

This beyond cheeky!

I like the idea of putting a sign up that states you only accept parcels for your own address.

I would also knock on her door, hand her note back and politely ask why she is leaving such notes regarding her parcels when she hasn't asked you if you're happy to do it, then tell her you will be doing it no longer.

Sounds like she's chancing her arm and will probably be apologetic when confronted with her poor behaviour.

If she tells you the hubby agreed to it (oops) tell her that your hubby is not home, you are and if you receive anymore parcels you will leave them outside your front door.

Good luck. Xx

I would ( and have done so) tell the delivery person that I don’t take for neighbors as I never see them.
As your neighbour has written that note, you need to advise her that you will no longer take them. You could add that the deliveries are crowding out your house and disturbing your baby. But you don’t have to give a reason.

Omg, i can’t do anything but agree with the majority here, what a CF !!!

Now I need to know about the desk too though....

I think I’d definitely sharpie a big “NOT” onto her note (as long as you’ve checked DH hasn’t ok’d her doing it).

Christ that's beyond cheeky. So glad you're now refusing to take them and your dh isn't taking the desk round.

There’s no need to have neighbours take in parcels. Most companies have an option to leave instructions for when you’re not in ( although I find some ignore the ‘leave at back door’ and just dump on the neighbours anyway!). But there are lots of places which act as parcel drops now as well, such as local shops and post offices. You can also get things delivered to your work address so you’re not bothering your neighbours, depending on place of work and company policy. So anyone using their neighbours as a parcel service is just taking advantage unnecessarily.

Sounds like my neighbour. She actively hates us but orders stuff from prime knowing we’ll be in as work from home. We occasionally get a parcel delivered there if we have to pop out when it’s unexpected but never plan to have hen arrive when we’re not here.

OP absolutely don’t deliver them, she has to collect. That’s the rules. Currently looking a pile in my hall as neighbour won’t come over. She usually sends kids to get them but it’s Christmas presents now.

I used to take parcels for my neighbour but it got ridiculous st 3-4 a day. They both work ft and still have several deliveries a day- dp often works from home and they take it for granted we will.
Drives me mad as it sends the dog crackers and constantly interrupts my day. I’ve started ignoring the door.

When cf knocks fir her desk, make sure you answer the dirt and not your dh, have baby in your arms and then she will have to struggle getting the desk back to hers.

answer the door

You need a "Ring" doorbell - it rings to your phone with video if needed, and you can then check with the courier who the parcel is addressed to before saying if you are in or out - saves a huge amount of hassle and is also great for if you are on holiday or have those unsolicited calls from charities or JH for example.

I would answer the door but if the parcel isn't for you decline it. Then she'll get the message with a load of delivered parcels just before Xmas.

Would have just have been nice and polite to ask you if it was ok not assume.

Our neighbours were so shite at collecting parcels that our local postmistress won't hold anything for them and sends them back to the depot! No way do I take in their stuff.

Lol it’s your husbands attention she wants not the damn parcels.

I can’t even believe you hand to ask. I would have given her a bollocking a long time ago.

A neighbour who hardly ever spoke to me had told the carriers to deliver to my house because she was out at work all day. Her DH came for them. She came herself one night. 'Parcel?' she asked, not even good evening or please. I dumped it on my path. 'Last one', I replied. 'What?' 'Last time I take them for you. Game over.' She was furious but I just went in and shut my door.

I am a cm. I have a sign I put up for afternoon nap . Babies sleeping . Do not ring the bell. Only taking parcels for my address
. I do accept for most neighbors during the day . I ask what number . One neighbor I rarely do as they always come round when I put my Ds to bed at 8.30 . Too late in my world.
I also might not if I am too tired .

Perhaps when she comes round to collect you'll already have gone away for Christmas....

That would be inconvenient for her wouldn't it....?

OP, I would be worried not about the parcels, but about an attractive 22-year-old who seems to be using parcel deliveries as an excuse to chat to your husband and have your husband do her favours.

Does he mind taking the parcels over to her place or is happy to oblige?

This gets on my nerves, esp when the neighbours take ages to pick up. Yeh I want my hall clogged up with your crap. But then I keep taking them in cos I feel sorry for delivery drivers.

Put an invoice through her door stating "for services rendered, to wit parcel storage and delivery"