Is neighbour being cheeky?

[fortyforty]

I'm constantly constantly taking deliveries for next door. Don't really mind, I'm usually home but have a little baby and does get annoying.

Anyway this morning I've had 3 separate deliveries. Last one really annoyed me as I'm trying to settle baby, wouldn't of answer the door but they say me in the window. It's a big massive desk this time.

Anyway said to the driver I'll take it but mentioned I'm fed up of it and this is the last one I'm taking. Driver pointed over to neighbours door and said there's a note on it saying 'leave any parcels with number 17'

And she's been home since and not bothered to come and collect them, she will wait for my husband to bring them round to her.

I know it's not first world issues but I'm no longer answering the door. I've never minded taking her parcels but to write a note on the door I think is a bit cheeky. Do you agree?

Hi I moved into my house 6 years ago and almost instantly packages started to be delivered to me for next door. I didn’t mind at first being neighbourly. But after 4 years of it I had enough. Final straw was 3 large packages (heavy) arrived I knocked to tell him, with his very miserable face walk back to my front door to wait for him. But 3-4 mins later I thought omg, he wants me to carry them to him haha I was so gob smacked. so took them to him (struggled I might add ) and decided RIGHT that’s it!!! So now when I get a F.B.I style knock I nicely tell them NO I don’t collect for them anymore. 😁 just want to add, most knocks I received his wife was home. Lazy!!!! You see it’s common courtesy to knock and inform your neighbour that a parcel will be delivered and could you PLEASE take it In for me. Maybe the odd Thankyou. So now with great delight I watch him/her taking packages from there car. Aww poor things haha have to go to a click and collect like the rest of the bloody world!!! I don’t feel bad people are just rude. So don’t feel bad tell every driver NO!!!! Then you and your beautiful little one, will have the peace you deserve 😉

She sounds very young and if she hasn’t got kids she probably doesn’t have a clue how annoying this would be. Especially as you’ve always accepted them.

Personally I would either just talk to her and say you aren’t accepting any more parcels or just leave them on your doorstep?

Ask her to come and get her stuff - don't take it and say you're sorry but there's been a few too many so you can't take any more please can she make alternative arrangements.

On another note I took in 3 for my neighbour this morning, she then took in 2 for me this afternoon - we have done "swaps" :)

As someone living where this doesn't happen, exactly where does a person's liability for a package's contents begin and/or end? Can you accept a package and then simply carry it over to the recipient's porch and leave it and be done with it? Or by accepting it do you make yourself liable for the 'safekeeping' of its contents until the recipient deigns to come get it? Can the recipient hold you liable if the contents are broken when they open the box?

I guess if I were to move to the UK, I'd be considered a 'bad neighbour' because honestly I wouldn't be accepting any parcels other than my own for anyone, unless I had a close friendship with them. Close enough to be on an 'emergency key keeper' basis so I could simply put the parcel in their house.

I take packages in for anyone nearby, and have a key for next door so drop them in if they are out or away. No-one has to take any for me as I am rarely out.

However, I also get packages for the house with the same no. in the road parallel to ours, and they get a few of ours. After arranging for an Amazon delivery to be collected and re-delivered in case I was accused of pinching it if I dropped it round, and several trips round to drop things off I looked them up on the local FB group so now send a message when a parcel comes if it is early in the week. If it is near the weekend we drop it round by car but it is a hell of a long walk for me.

So what's happened now?

Wow that is mega CF behaviour! Let her come and get her parcels herself! Your husband is not her personal delivery service!!!!
Take her note down and put up one up on your door saying 'we don't accept parcels for (insert house number here)'!
We had an issue with taking in a delivery for neighbours, no permission asked and a pushy delivery guy and it was a heavy item and not small and it took 4 days for them come and get it and only after I'd contacted the parcel company several times as they were in during the evenings and would have known it was with us and they would have known we were in. They turned up on the door step expecting us to hand the item over but we had to ask them to come and get it with no apology just a muttered 'thanks'.
Since then anything for that house we've refused.
One of the residents I saw going all the way down the road to pick up a parcel the other day so I'm thinking the people opposite who were in are now refusing lol. No one on this side will and the lady the other side of them is normally in during the day. Haha!!!!
OP, just flatly refuse if they do ignore the note. You of course don't need to be a hermit, just a firm NO will do it no matter how pushy they are.

any update on this?
Has she come to claim her parcels?

Oh by the way, accepting parcels for others you are liable for them by law I read. A man got burgled and the parcels taken and he was held liable for them so bear it in mind if you accept other people's parcels for them.

I've had this with my neighbours. They're always having stuff delivered. I just refuse now. Sometimes they'd leave their stuff uncollected at mine for a week. It really pissed me off.

As your parcel has gone missing, I think DSS can now have a rustic desk for Christmas😂😂😂. Tell her it’s not here sorry!!

Massively cheeky. I had this at one of my previous houses. I thought I was taking in more than usual for this one house and then the postman pointed it out and when The wife same over to collect and I pulled her on it she tried to make out her husband thought 32 was someone else. I said funny, he’s known we are 32 when it comes to picking all his parcels up.

To be fair, if they’d asked I would have said yes, bloody rude to do it without asking, especially when they never even used to say thanks. Or Hello if you saw them in the street come to think of it 😒

Our neighbors ordered 18 radiators ....and they tried to get me to take them in ......surely if you place a big order you make Sure your in

Did she take her desk yet? I bet she won’t take it home by herself...

If it was my neighbour I'd take in every single delivery and then not answer the door to her until after Christmas.

Oh you had Christmas presents in the post? And you couldn't pick them up from my house before Christmas Day? What a shame! I must have been busy! Next time it's probably best to take in your own deliveries, yes? Toodles, and no I'm not helping you carry the desk! Hope you struggle! And don't forget to take down the note from your door, okay Hun? Have a nice day, good bye!

But I am a complete bitch.

I'm usually happy to take parcels but then all of my neighbours would be over as soon as possible to collect and would say thank you.

I'd be telling your neighbour to bugger off.

I'd be tempted to lob the desk over her hedge/fence into the garden and leave it there! What a cheeky sod!

Has she been round yet OP? She will no doubt want your DH to carry it for her!

I don’t mind taking parcels if i’m here but to leave a note telling them to go to you without asking is really cheeky and would put me off accepting any. Cheeky cow.

I am our cul de sac parcel taker! I hate it! I answer the door breastfeeding or have to wake sleeping baby on my chest to get to door. Got a HUGE box that filled my whole porch so couldn't get in and out of house, they left it for 5 days and when husband took it to them he said they didn't look like they wanted to take it as didn't know what it was!

@Veganforlife
18 radiators!! 😂

Update op?

Oh I so need to know what’s happened with this!! I take in parcels for neighbour and she takes in mine. But I would never have put a note on my door asking delivery drivers to do so!!

Ok @fortyforty please come tell us what's happened

shamelessly waiting for an update..

So this person doesn't speak to you but your husband trundles her parcels over to her when he comes home. She's taking you for a complete mug, wait for her to come over for whatever has been delivered. I'd break my husband's legs if he went over with parcels.Decide if it's worth a complete refusal , it's great to have a neighbour to take the occasional parcel but she's making a fool of you.