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Is neighbour being cheeky?

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fortyforty · 17/12/2018 13:13

I'm constantly constantly taking deliveries for next door. Don't really mind, I'm usually home but have a little baby and does get annoying.

Anyway this morning I've had 3 separate deliveries. Last one really annoyed me as I'm trying to settle baby, wouldn't of answer the door but they say me in the window. It's a big massive desk this time.

Anyway said to the driver I'll take it but mentioned I'm fed up of it and this is the last one I'm taking. Driver pointed over to neighbours door and said there's a note on it saying 'leave any parcels with number 17'

And she's been home since and not bothered to come and collect them, she will wait for my husband to bring them round to her.

I know it's not first world issues but I'm no longer answering the door. I've never minded taking her parcels but to write a note on the door I think is a bit cheeky. Do you agree?

OP posts:
BumbleyBum · 18/12/2018 20:56

Did she come to collect her post?!

Bettyboopxx · 18/12/2018 20:58

Has she been ?

Tattygran14 · 18/12/2018 21:49

I had this with neighbours, I stopped when I knew the son was in, and he didn't bother to answer the door. His mother later said I was nasty, because the son told her he had heard me refusing to take their parcel.

Rooty2 · 18/12/2018 21:56

DH is home all day as a dog boarder/daycarer so we do get a few parcels but really don't mind as the neighbours are all ok. Nightmare we had was taking one in for the family up the road and realising they'd actually been evicted by the council a few days before, had no idea what to do with it as it was from a catalogue and their website wasn't helpful, days later another neighbour took it saying she knew her, had the feeling she was going to open it and keep it though!

FuckCalmRhageOn · 18/12/2018 22:22

Any update OP?

FairyFlake45 · 18/12/2018 22:53

This literally happens to me every day, I’m sick of it! I get asked to take my neighbour’s parcels 1) when I know they’re in and aren’t answering and 2) when they are actually away abroad for 3 months but still order stuff to be delivered. The CF put instructions to leave with us (without asking) and we sometimes have massive parcels left for days/weeks on end in our hallway. On the odd occasion that I am out and the delivery is actually for me....no fucker takes it for me and I have to go the depot!!!!

MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig · 18/12/2018 22:53

If the courier can go and put a card through her door to tell her where they are then he can leave the parcels on her doorstep. I’ve had umpteen parcels delivered recently and they’ve all just been left in the porch. Mind you I live in a very quiet lane in a very quiet village.

genius1308 · 18/12/2018 22:54

This drives me batty. Our neighbour does the same. I get on with them fine but I think it's so cheeky that they order loads of stuff (I take in at least 3 parcels a week usually and now it's Christmas it's at least one a day) when they both work full time and know they're not going to be in. Most of the stuff comes from Amazon and we have an Amazon locker at our local supermarket which is 5 minutes down the road, why not get it delivered there and pick it up on the way home from work? When I had my first it used to drive me mad, we had 2 big dogs who would go ballistic if anyone knocked on the door, and you could guarantee they'd knock on the door 5 minutes after he'd gone down for a nap! I eventually put a sign on the door, 'Don't knock unless it's an emergency, baby sleeping...if you wake him you take him ;-) '. No one knocked when the sign was up :-)

FairyFlake45 · 18/12/2018 22:54

So...😂YANBU

unicorncow · 18/12/2018 23:07

If he getting your husband to put the desk kit outside your front door with a note on it saying "please take down the note you have on your door as I can't accept any more deliveries" I'm sure when she realises that the parcel is left outside she'll stop getting them sent to your house!

UptownFlunk · 18/12/2018 23:08

I can't believe how many people keep taking in parcels for neighbours who don't even bother to speak to them or pick their parcels up. You don't have to put up with this kind of thing you know. I take in parcels for a select few neighbours who also take in mine but if they started taking the piss then I would stop.

One delivery driver knocked on the door with six massive parcels for a neighbour who I didn't know, even he looked shamefaced asking me to take them. I told the driver that I am not a depot for the parcels of random neighbours so please do not knock with parcels for anyone other than my immediate neighbours. I was never bothered again with parcels for anyone else.

OracleofDelphi · 18/12/2018 23:09

We work from home so always get couriers knocking .... I only take parcels in for people I know .... and people I like .... so the horrible man who lives next door and verbally abused everyone - I refused his .... she is CF but you are making this worse by accepting when you don’t want to .... I just say “ no I don’t know them sorry “ or “ no I dont like them sorry “ and shut the door ....

No way would I have taken 3 in one day for someone who was snotty with me ... oh and if people take the piss I operate a one strike and your out policy

Returnofthesmileybar · 18/12/2018 23:09

There was a thread here ages ago where a neighbour had a parcel delivered, op took it in but her daughter (with additional needs) opened the parcel, it was a pouffe and ops daughter poo'd on it, it was hysterical, the op was so funny.

Get your toddler to shit on the desk op, I guarantee the parcels will stop

canadianbanana · 18/12/2018 23:54

Stop accepting deliveries. Tell the person trying to leave it with you to return it to the store/warehouse, wherever it has come from. If that is refused, tell them to leave it at her door.

TommyJoesMummy · 18/12/2018 23:58

I’d get your DH to go round and bollock her and stuff the note back through her door.
She can’t treat you like shit and pass the time with him, whilst disturbing your baby and using you like an unpaid service.
And then, leave her to come and collect-with no assistance. I’d probably shove the desk out your door and pile everything else on the ground next to her... but get your DH to because she’s being disrespectful to his his DW and child.
And yes, we all take in parcels for one another here, it’s busier at this time of year or a birthday, but we never assume, are polite and thankful

UnknownStuntman · 19/12/2018 00:01

We live in a block and there's no buzzer system so the bloke who's has an outside door keeps getting knocked to take deliveries. We just get ours sent to my work and if I'm off I'll put it in the car as soon as I get back. That way no-one is put out.

Kate0902900908 · 19/12/2018 00:39

YANBU
We moved into a new build apartment 3 years ago... slowly the next door neighbour has been ordering more and more and more things from the internet and then doesn’t answer the door to take them. In any one week we can take in 15+ packages. I don’t mind as we work from home but sometimes it gets silly every morning 7am 8am 9am .....

Three weeks ago 2 bikes arrived !!!! We had them in the hallway for 3 days until she came for them.

My mum and dad are retired and a family moved in next door with 2 babies. They also without asking placed a note on the door to leave it with number 32 ... my mum and dad.

They never pick them up and await there arrival from my mum and dad. A few weeks back I went over and mum was standing there shuffling a massive box seriously heavy to their door, when he answered he said ‘yes bring it in’ I pushed the box into his garden and said sorry it’s heavy you need to lift it in. Absolute joke!

I feel your pain.

Kate0902900908 · 19/12/2018 00:47

Completely forgot to add a series of crazy events that happened to my friend!

A foreign lady moved in next door to her and quickly moved out. A package was delivered to my friends house and sat in the porch for over 3 months until by coincidence the ex neighbour popped into my friends work. My friend told her a package was in her porch and she said she would call for it. 3 months again passed by and one night my friends drunken boyfriend opened the package thinking it was fishing accessories he had ordered.
It was a contract mobile phone and he wrapped it back up and put it on the side.

A week later the lady arrived and asked for the package. On seeing it had been opened ( without allowing my friend to explain) she launched it into another neighbours garden and rang the police saying my friend had opened her post and she wasn’t touching it.

This went on for 3 hours ...police arrived ... women was in the street telling anyone who would listen my friend was a fraudster!!

Honestly the police had to remove her and retrieved the phone form the garden 2 doors down.

Some people are mental!!!

iLoveFoood · 19/12/2018 00:58

😂

Korvalscat · 19/12/2018 01:36

A cf delivery driver asked me to accept a parcel for my next door neighbour, he explained it was a bit heavy. I said okay because the neighbour is lovely. It was a huge box which barely fit in my hall. Within a minute my neighbour arrived to collect it. She had been working in her front garden and watched the driver walk past her twice and he handed her the delivery card on his way back to his van!
It was a solid wood chest of drawers and bloody heavy.It took both of us plus my dd to carry it round to her house and we had to unpack it and remove the drawers so we could carry it upstairs.

Mummylife2018 · 19/12/2018 02:23

@Returnofthesmileybar Ohhhh pleassssse can you try find it and link it? I'd be so grateful! Xx

artemis2 · 19/12/2018 03:18

@fortyforty pleeeease can you tell us what happened? Grabs popcorn

Purplealienpuke · 19/12/2018 06:13

I agree with everyone that's says CF needs telling, by you, that you are not a local Big Yellow Storage facility!! It's very cheeky to tape a note telling delivery drivers YOU will accept her her parcels without asking!
Is there a possibility your DH has told her it's ok on one of his many drop offs? If he has or something like it (that she has taken as a green light?) maybe HE needs to tell her it's not ok? Check with him first?
I took a few parcels for my neighbour directly opposite. I didn't mind to start with. When I took her parcel across the hall one morning to her she was seriously rude, snatched the parcel and shut the door. I know I hadn't woken her, she was standing at her front door having said goodbye to her bloke!
The meat boxes I took in for her really started becoming annoying, I couldn't move them, they were too heavy, so have now decided enough. I don't take her parcels. I don't expect her to take mine either. Infact I instruct any deliveries for me NOT to leave with my neighbours.

CupoBlood · 19/12/2018 06:17

Change the number on the note or just post it back through her door. Defo do not go round.

forumdonkey · 19/12/2018 06:27

OP has CF been round to collect her parcels yet?

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