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Is neighbour being cheeky?

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fortyforty · 17/12/2018 13:13

I'm constantly constantly taking deliveries for next door. Don't really mind, I'm usually home but have a little baby and does get annoying.

Anyway this morning I've had 3 separate deliveries. Last one really annoyed me as I'm trying to settle baby, wouldn't of answer the door but they say me in the window. It's a big massive desk this time.

Anyway said to the driver I'll take it but mentioned I'm fed up of it and this is the last one I'm taking. Driver pointed over to neighbours door and said there's a note on it saying 'leave any parcels with number 17'

And she's been home since and not bothered to come and collect them, she will wait for my husband to bring them round to her.

I know it's not first world issues but I'm no longer answering the door. I've never minded taking her parcels but to write a note on the door I think is a bit cheeky. Do you agree?

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paintinmyhairAgain · 17/12/2018 13:32

talk to her ! just tell her it is not practical for you to take in parcels and she will need to make other arrangements. no need to apologise, she's the c.f. - not even speaking to you cheeky mare.

OoohAyyye · 17/12/2018 13:32

Gosh how rude! Obviously her life is so much more important than yours so obviously you have to be available to collect her parcels and obviously she doesn't have to offer a token of thanks either.

Have a word with her OP!

TinkerSpy · 17/12/2018 13:33

I still say open the ones you've got.

OOPS!

woodhill · 17/12/2018 13:33

I think it is very rude of her. Ask her to check with you first.

I take stuff in for my Neighbours and vice versa but would always ask first and not assume.

cjt110 · 17/12/2018 13:33

Just refuse to take them. Job done.

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fortyforty · 17/12/2018 13:36

Haha thanks everyone....what I will say is she's very young, drives an expensive car, she's 22 and mum and dad bought her house for her. She also has one of those little dogs that she puts in a handbag... I don't think I need to say anymore....

Dh is one of those that will speak to anyone, I'm more reserved but always make the effort to say hello at least. But she tends to look down at me as I've usually got sick in my hair, bags under my eyes and doing the school run in what look like pyjamas but actually are my clothes.....she's obviously very well dressed with perfect make up and not any sort of sick/shit/snot stain in sight....

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PuppyMonkey · 17/12/2018 13:37

I said this in a similar thread the other week, but if it were me, when she comes round I’d just say: “Sorry I have no idea what you’re talking about.” Watch her sweat for as long as you can stretch it out over the next few days before you eventually come clean at your own discretion.

WilburforceRaven · 17/12/2018 13:37

I would not take any more parcels OR bring them round to her. Put a note on your door, NO deliveries except for our address and tape up the door knocker and turn the ringer off. She's a CF.

Holidayshopping · 17/12/2018 13:39

Put a note on your door saying "only accepting parcels for this address"

Do this.

Yet you’re good enough to take in her parcels?!

Please speak to her-that is so fucking cheeky.

TinkerSpy · 17/12/2018 13:39

“Sorry I have no idea what you’re talking about.”

This! She's such a CF. 'Lose' a couple of the parcels you've got for a few days. (not the desk, leave that outside her front door).

Chowmum · 17/12/2018 13:40

I believe the answer to your problem is that popular MN response.

"No" is a complete sentence.

Do not take deliveries for arsey neighbours, and don't take any guff from delivery drivers either.

There is no law requiring you to take in a parcel just because a CF has nominated you.

CheeseCakeSunflowers · 17/12/2018 13:40

It would be such a shame if the next time baby is sick, it goes all over the rustic desk wouldn't it.

Monestasi · 17/12/2018 13:41

For goodness sake just go around there, tell her to take her stuff from your house, and to not redirect another thing to your address.

Do this whilst handing her the note she had pinned on her door.

FuzzyCustard · 17/12/2018 13:41

Have you got a shed you can put her stuff in. It's out of your way then, you can wait until they come to collect it (and if it gets a little damp, well, what a pity).

WilburforceRaven · 17/12/2018 13:41

I'm quite assertive so I'd have no problems knocking on her door. If she doesn't answer it then I'd just tell her, through the door, 'I know you're in there. We're not a delivery service for you. We will NOT take your parcels in and you need to come and get them. Really do not appreciate your designating us as a postal drop without even asking, that's RUDE and we won't be acting as your PA anymore. Bye!'

thetemptationofchocolate · 17/12/2018 13:43

"not any sort of sick/shit/snot stain in sight...."

Wouldn't it be a shame if your baby happened to be sick on one of her parcels while you were struggling to get by it in your hallway?

Giraffey1 · 17/12/2018 13:44

I would put a note through her door saying you will not be accepting any parcels for her in the future and that she will need collect the desk from you at x time ie to suit you. If she does not collect the desk you will leave it outside your door/ end of your drive or whatever as you cannot be responsible for it. Stick a note on your door to say you are not able to accept deliveries addressed to anyone else.

BobLemon · 17/12/2018 13:44

"not any sort of sick/shit/snot stain in sight...."

Wouldn't it be a shame if your baby happened to be sick on one of her parcels while you were struggling to get by it in your hallway?

^^ this!!

Mayrhofen · 17/12/2018 13:47

I would rip the note off her door, stick it on a piece of paper and shove it through her door saying "your desk is waiting to be collected" then stick a big note on your own door saying "parcels only accepted for this address" - then when she comes round she would have to be very stupid not to get the hint.

Rude b*tch

justonemoreminutepls · 17/12/2018 13:48

is there any chance when your husband takes the parcels round she is extremely thankful, and he says its no problem, you're home anyway, happy to help...?!

Myimaginarycathasfleas · 17/12/2018 13:49

Easy, while she’s out change number 17 to number 77.

cjt110 · 17/12/2018 13:49

Is it forecast to rain where you are? It'd be a shame if her parcels were left outside your door as your hands are full with baby and it rained..

LRDtheFeministDragon · 17/12/2018 13:50

Very cheeky!

I accepted a few parcels for the people over the road when we moved in, but after several instances where they were clearly in, but couldn't be arsed to come collect - or, even, were in but didn't answer the door when we went over trying to deliver - I got fed up. Said so to the postie, who sighed and said they'd now gone through all the neighbours in immediate vicinity. Which means the poor bloke ends up traipsing halfway down the village to find someone to leave the parcel with. And I feel bad for him, but really irritated with them!

They also did the 'leave with no. whatever' thing, though as an instruction on delivery, which isn't quite as blatant as a sign on the door!

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fortyforty · 17/12/2018 13:50

@thetemptationofchocolate haha.oh wouldn't it just...he's just done a massive poo...I'll just leave the nappy there on the topnof the desk box until she comes to collect it...along with my jumper that seriously is covered in puke haha.

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diddl · 17/12/2018 13:51

"(not the desk, leave that outside her front door)."

Why-make her fetch the bloody thing!

(and don't help her if she asks!)

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