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To think ALL presents shouldn't be from Santa?

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justsparklex · 14/12/2018 13:55

Surely it's not just me who thinks this is odd? I wasn't even aware people did this. So I messaged my friend asking if it was okay to come up Xmas evening with the kids and we can all then exchange presents, my friend replied saying " you can come up Xmas evening but can you drop the presents off before so dc's have all their presents in the morning" because apparently ALL their presents are from Santa. I was like What?? I understand people have certain traditions, but I just can't get my head over this one. I tell my kids that a few presents are from santa(usually less expensive ones) and the rest are from mummy&daddy and family, Santa just stores them and delivers them. I wasn't aware she didn't this until this year as I've usually just dropped them off before anyway.

I just think what's the point in even buying her kids anything if they don't even know it's from me? Why should Santa get all the credit? I just thought, do whatever you like with presents from you and your DH but family and friends?HmmI think their kids deserve to know who bought them. I've bought them both two lovely, thoughtful and quite expensive presents and I'm just sad they won't even know it's from us. AIBU!?

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justsparklex · 14/12/2018 13:56

Just realise my title post should say "should" not "shouldn't" oops..

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justsparklex · 14/12/2018 13:58

Never mind, the title is right😂

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jessstan2 · 14/12/2018 13:59

I never did the Santa thing with mine and they are none the worse for it. Santa was a story, a fun pretend thing, not a real person.

From what I've heard from others, Santa delivers the presents for parents and the stocking but has nowt to do with other gifts.

What a waste of effort though, the kids find out soon enough that they've been lied to. It's perfectly OK to have a bit of pretend as long as everyone knows it's just that.

Birdsgottafly · 14/12/2018 14:00

Yes, that's a stupid way of doing it.

Especially so of you are carrying on the belief as long as some people do.

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justsparklex · 14/12/2018 14:03

As most people do it they way I do ( I think) what about when their dcs friends are telling them at school what their parents & family got them, my friends dcs will be like " my family didn't get me anything, just Santa ".. I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks it's odd. For a second I questioned if I was the one doing it wrong!

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funnylittlefloozie · 14/12/2018 14:04

What an...odd...woman. No way is that fat judgemental bastard getting all the credit in my house!! And presumably she doesnt have to write / help the kids to write thank you letters, either!

DappledThings · 14/12/2018 14:04

Santa delivers stockings only. So just little bits that fit in that. Everything else is from who it's from.

One of those things I had no idea was done any differently till I was an adult. Fortunately DH's family were the same so no conflict between us about how to run it.

Elphie54 · 14/12/2018 14:05

Wait, she wants the gifts from you to be from Santa too?? That makes no sense.

pallisers · 14/12/2018 14:05

I just wouldn't give presents in that case. Say to her "Oh they are probably well sorted for santa. I'll wait and give them a nice surprise in January instead".

Givemeyourbunsandyourbiscuits · 14/12/2018 14:06

Father Christmas leaves the stockings, presents under the tree are from friends and family.

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justsparklex · 14/12/2018 14:06

Yep! She wants her children to believe every gift is from Santa and I've been ordered to bring them before xmas, instead of on the day which is what I intended to do.

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funnylittlefloozie · 14/12/2018 14:06

Is she going to give YOUR kids presents? Are they going to be from her, or from Santa?

lostandconfusedd · 14/12/2018 14:06

My on off boyfriend has always had the belief that santa gave everything.
But his parents would never dream of asking others for their gifts to make out that it's from Santa Hmm

Thesnobbymiddleclassone · 14/12/2018 14:06

Santa just does the stockings in our house. I don't see why some make believe man should get all the credit for other people's generosity!

PermanentlyFrizzyHairBall · 14/12/2018 14:06

I know another family who does this! It's so odd I don't know how they keep it up - also my DC need to write thank you notes to people who sent them presents so no idea how that works. Surely the kids see other people giving each other presents and wonder why no one in their family exchanges gifts.

TisTheSeasonForPigsInBlankets · 14/12/2018 14:07

Santa just brings stockings in my house, this year my son has got a switch, if he went into school saying santa got him a switch and some other little one is there and says oh all I got is a colouring book he'd feel awful!

vodkaanddietcokeplease · 14/12/2018 14:07

All our kids presents from us are from Santa (I don't know why, mine and DH's parents done it that way and we've just continued).

However, we make it clear that any presents from friends and family members are from those people, so the children can appreciate what other people have got them and say thank you.

Bobbiepin · 14/12/2018 14:07

Did she specifically say it was so the presents were from Santa or is it possible she didn't want the Dc's not seeing the presents and beg to open some early? Totally agree with only 1 or 2 presents coming from Santa though. We don't make a big deal out of Santa.

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justsparklex · 14/12/2018 14:08

I'm going to tell my kids that they are from her, she has also asked me to pick up their presents when we drop her kids presents off. She won't want my kids opening them in front her her DCs I assume!

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Sitranced · 14/12/2018 14:08

Do grandparents and family not get a thank you from the kids because they think the presents are from santa?

Cath2907 · 14/12/2018 14:09

In our house Santa fills stockings and then there is a pile of presents - not particularly from Santa or from me... to be honest my 7 year old is aware I buy and wrap presents. She enjoys the fun of "santa" but I doubt she is fooled into thinking he is real.

SassitudeandSparkle · 14/12/2018 14:09

No, all presents should not be from Santa IMO. So the children get no presents from their family at all?

Fairylightfurore · 14/12/2018 14:10

Father Christmas only gets stockings. How does the delivering all the presents work whenthey can read the labels?

loubluee · 14/12/2018 14:10

We done all presents off Santa, but family gifts were off family except exdp’s parents- Santa left presents at their house for them.

However my kids didn’t believe from about 5 anyway! Even now at 14 & 18, we say ‘ask Santa for it’. It’s just fun there’s no harm in it.

But there is no right or wrong way. It’s how you’ve been brought up and the traditions you want to install in your own family. Each to their own!

MamaDane · 14/12/2018 14:11

I personally think one present should be from Santa. But traditions vary from family to family. Do whatever you want in your own.

I do think if you receive presents from others, not the parents, then you need to give them credit for it. Like do what you want with your money but don't expect everyone else to do the same. That's a bit demanding.

YANBU

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