To think ALL presents shouldn't be from Santa?

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Surely it's not just me who thinks this is odd? I wasn't even aware people did this. So I messaged my friend asking if it was okay to come up Xmas evening with the kids and we can all then exchange presents, my friend replied saying " you can come up Xmas evening but can you drop the presents off before so dc's have all their presents in the morning" because apparently ALL their presents are from Santa. I was like What?? I understand people have certain traditions, but I just can't get my head over this one. I tell my kids that a few presents are from santa(usually less expensive ones) and the rest are from mummy&daddy and family, Santa just stores them and delivers them. I wasn't aware she didn't this until this year as I've usually just dropped them off before anyway.

I just think what's the point in even buying her kids anything if they don't even know it's from me? Why should Santa get all the credit? I just thought, do whatever you like with presents from you and your DH but family and friends?I think their kids deserve to know who bought them. I've bought them both two lovely, thoughtful and quite expensive presents and I'm just sad they won't even know it's from us. AIBU!?

Well in our house not only does Santa have his own wrapping paper but he has his own wrapping paper for each child. I have a big family so this actually makes life easier on Christmas morning.

DS insisted we send some wrapping paper to Santa as it had Paw Patrol on it.

I wouldn’t dream of letting her think that her laptop for Christmas or any of the really coveted or hard to find gifts were from Santa

I have to admit that by the time my kids are old enough to receive a laptop for Christmas, they are too old to believe in Santa

I don't need to be the centre of attention around Christmas, I just want my kids to be happy and I like the magic for as long as it can last.

IamSusan I agree with everything you posted above.

Full disclosure; I haven’t rtft

But,
One of my best friends does this. I only found out 2 Christmas ago that she told her dc that ALL gifts were from santa, even the ones gifted by other people. I did wonder why I hadn’t had a thank you from them in 10 years 🤨
I was so taken aback that I didn’t react but thinking about it really annoys me, bloody cheeky really. Now I don’t buy them gifts, we all go to the panto instead.

I think it's really rude to take other people's gifts and unilaterally declare they're from Santa. Yeah, actually, I would want the credit if I'd gone to the trouble of choosing a nice present for a friend's child - sorry if that makes me a bad person!

I don't have a problem with people saying all presents come from Santa, but this should be clear to anyone giving gifts to those kids. And if I was told that, I don't think I'd bother.

My DCS are getting 1 present left at the end of their beds from Santa, plus Santa will fill their stockings. They are 3 and 1.

Know someone (who has a lot of other issues with their relationship with her DC) who insists that all presents must be from Santa, and he’s almost 10

I have a friend who bulks all the presents together and doesn't really give credit to the people who bought them.

All the presents we buy our dc are from santa, but presents bought by grandparents and friends are from them and the dc know that.

All presents at our house are delivered by Father Christmas. His elves make them to order, and relatives send their orders for DS to the North Pole. DS has a list and we ask F.C. for things off the list. He’s only just turned 4 so seems happy with this! Basically F.C. is a glorified postman.

all presents must be from Santa

As a kid I understood Santa was like the postman (except he used the chimney not the letterbox) inasmuch as he collected each child's presents and delivered them to their house on xmas eve.
Santa never brought any gifts from himself, just like Postie doesn't bring cards and presents from himself, he's "just" the delivery guy.

How do people do this gifts exclusively from santa thing, do they take the gift tags off?

What if they meet the gift-giver who may be a bit miffed they've not had a thank-you and the gift-giver asks the child if they liked the gift, or if it was clothing, did the gift fit?

At the same time, I do roll my eyes a bit at adults complaining about not “getting the credit”. It’s only a few years that kids believe, so if a friend or relative wants to tell their kids Santa brought the gift that I bought, I don’t mind.

x-post(man) SleepySofa

I think when children are small they don't delve into the logic of it that much. With family's small children we usually just say Santa left some presents at our house for them too.

Our presents are all from santa. The adults get presents from santa too (we do a secret santa for adults in our family). I do separate the gifts from PIL and BIL. We get each other something small.

We don't do thank you letters either. Heathens that we are!

What is infuriating is people telling you how you should do it in your own home.

This.

I have recently seen two posts being shared on FB. The first by 'Santa' telling us that he only brings one present and that is what we should be telling our children, but then another post helpfully tells me that this one present can't be anything of significant value as that isn't fair on other children.

I really don't know who these children are discussing presents with, as already mentioned by the time they are old enough to a) have expensive gifts and b) be aware of the value then they are probably of an age where they don't believe anyway. There is going to be almost 2 weeks between Christmas and mine going back to school, I am not sure there will be much discussion - and you can bet your bottom dollar that they would mention the silly pound shop present rather than say the bike.

All of our presents come from FC - family presents are given and received when we see them. All good.

My husband's family did this when he was little. He was always confused why his parents didn't bother getting him presents. There was also an awkward time when he stopped believing but his sister still did and he then just wanted to know who each of the gifts was actually from. He definitely didn't want to continue the tradition.

This comes up every year. People do things differently. No one is 'right' or 'unreasonable'.

How daft. I saw a very good meme on FAcebook recently, I couldn't copy and paste it, but it went something like this: Please do not tell your children that Santa got them that £800 I pad, or the £300 games console, you tell them that you got them. How do you explain to a child that whilst one got expensive presents from Santa, the other got second hand toys or hand me downs, as their parents cannot afford it. The child who got the tube of sweets might think that they have been bad or not behaved very well, as Santa does not like them. Tell them that You got them those expensive presents, not Santa.

Very true.

Santa gets the sweets and cheap stocking fillers, the big presents are from Mum/DAd/Auntie/Uncle whoever.

I just think the whole Santa thing is stupid. Presents from other people most definitely should be labeled from whoever, How do they know who to write thank you letters to?? Children think presents from Santa are free

All our presents were from Santa - which was weird when I was young when the tab said from Aunty Alice etc. I do think that they should get the presents on Christmas morning though.

All our present are from Santa but any gifts from friends and family r from friends and family! Think it's cheeky that u will get no thanks from the children..

Very odd and grabby way to do things I think..

Is your friend my sister in law op????

She used to do this. Drove me mad as I would spend ages getting presents and I wanted the bloody credit!!

She doesn't do it anymore due to other sis in law putting her foot down over it.

Saying that we never get a thank you

Bloody families!

that Facebook meme is completely stupid.

Stop comparing the presents on social media if it makes you feel inferior. Why on earth would it be better for a child to think his parents like him less if he gets less from them?

I wish people could stop judging and trying to impose their right way and only way to do Christmas. Your kids can get presents from Santa, the magic fairy, the 3 kings, or the Argos catalogue, it's all valid. Don't try to tell me how I should celebrate Christmas.

We haven’t quite decided what to say about adult presents as last year DS didn’t really pay much attention to us getting gifts. But I expect Father Christmas will be our delivery man too. I guess for us, the magic bit is that F.C. delivers loads of presents, so they’re magically there on Xmas morning