You are not alone OP- I work in a professional office FULL of women just like you and me.
To whom actively trying for a child is as much a financial commitment as buying a home - 🤔 Just as you need a desposit to get a mortgage- you need to have your financial ducks in a row to try for a baby!
It really makes me roll my eyes and loose faith when women (and we all know these type 😒) who are already 6-7 months pregnant, say things like;
‘😮 did you know how much childcare costs?’
😬 no, if only it was common knowledge that it’s cripplingly expensive 😂 or maybe if there was a world wide data base on which you could have gathered this information prior to creating a life!
‘How am I supposed to go back to work? We can’t afford to loose my wage’
😮 A baby requires FULL TIME care...really? And trained professionals don’t want to work for bellow minimum wage/ in terrible conditions? Well that’s appalling!! 😬😂🤔
The reason it bugs me so much is that women would simply not get away with being so ill prepared or irresponsible in ANY other aspect of life! If Amy wandered into a shop and tried to buy a top without having enough money no one else would jump to her deffence like ‘Well that top is over priced you should give it to her for what she can afford!’ 😂 it’s madness!
And it’s unreasonable to say that the government should subsidise the care of 0-3 year olds more than it already does as in reality - having a baby in 2018 Britain IS a choice- more so than ever before in history. Inflicting the financial implication of that choice onto everyone else completely conflicts with the ‘every lifestyle is ok’ ethos that modern times promotes- why should a married couple who have no intention of having children be forced to contribute financially to the care costs of those who do?
We can’t claim a ‘population epidemic’ would ensue as frankly there are enough ‘financially capable’ couples who would reproduce that the human race wouldn’t suddenly die out. It may dwindle a little but frankly that may be useful to the worlds severe over population and dwindling resources!
But of course that’s not what happens- in reality people who knowingly can’t afford children, have them anyway, and then spend their lives complaining about how they kids live in poverty and how it’s EVERYONE else’s fault but their own.
And the country ends up bent over a barrel with its hands tied because at the end of the day it’s not the children’s fault and they’re the ones who suffer because of irresponsible- selfish parents!
*Complaining about the costs of childcare is the worst, nursery’s arent funded by some magical never ending pot. Do they not need to pay staff at least minimum wage? Pay for sick/maternity cover? Pay for insurance/ facilities/ rent and untikities and all the other stuff that comes with running a good business. At the end of the day it’s a baby, do you really want (cheap) unqualified staff being in charge of a tiny vulnerable life? If your child chocked to death and the nursery said ‘well we couldn’t afford to send the staff on first aid courses this year as parents wouldn’t pay the extra £20 a month’ how happy would you be that you saved money? It’s a lot but you’re capable of factoring this in before trying for a child!