To ask how long after childbirth...

[bella1426]

...it took to get 'back in the saddle' so to speak. 7 weeks PP and miss the closeness the physical side of our relationship brings but god knows when well have the energy, privacy or time to DTD again...not to mention the horrific thought of being seen naked like this...wondering what's the norm on this subject (if there is one!)

3 weeks (post c section so no tearing to contend with). I was desperate to by then. Our sex life was less that amazing whilst I was pregnant - hyperemesis, feeling exhausted and then I was huuuge and it was just logistically tricky, so I was really keen to get back into it!

He’s three months now and we’re only really managing about once per week... you have to be a bit creative with a co-sleeping baby to contend with! But I’m glad we try to make the effort.

Months - neither of us felt like it. But I was told absolutely not before six weeks with all three DC, by midwifes and consultant. Suspect the idea that a woman must be up for sex even when bleeding and exhausted after birth is another gift of the porn era.

It is SO important to reconnect as a couple even if you're not totally up to it. Fortunately DH and I connect in lots of ways, including the sheer joy of having a lovely little baby. And he wouldn't want to have sex if I wasn't totally up for it.

Shepherd - thats so awful... you poor poor thing.... What a total fucking arsehole he was...

I think there is no "right" time.... what feels too soon for some, will be the right time for someone else. I think its dependent on what your physical relationship was like pre conception, amount of sex during pregnancy, how you feel post birth, level of trauma and level of lochia / bleeding etc.

I was 6 weeks with my first as I had stitches and 2.5 weeks with my second (no bleeding no stitches). MY DH was not that keen on sex when I was pregnant as he was too worried about the baby. I also had a massive hormonal rush both times after mine were born when I literally wanted sex all the time... Might explain why there is only 15m between my two. Oh and DH is the least sexually aggressive man I have ever met, so there was no pressure from him.

Months later for me. DS is 13 months and breastfed which makes me feel touched out to be honest!

Eight weeks.

About 4 weeks the first time- internal and external stitches. 2 weeks the second time. I couldn’t wait

9 months before I physically was able. 12/13 months before I started to enjoy it again.

Just under two weeks, felt like a right sex pest after giving birth

Even though we took our time and DP was gentle, probably should have waited as after it was very sore for me. I had stitches also.