To ask how long after childbirth...

[bella1426]

...it took to get 'back in the saddle' so to speak. 7 weeks PP and miss the closeness the physical side of our relationship brings but god knows when well have the energy, privacy or time to DTD again...not to mention the horrific thought of being seen naked like this...wondering what's the norm on this subject (if there is one!)

Our DD is 10 months and we've still not had sex. We have a very close relationship with lots of affection and cuddles but I really haven't felt comfortable enough to have sex yet and I'm knackered most nights too! Totally up to the individuals but I would rather have died than have sex 2 or 3 weeks post partum!

1 year.. to the day. It took me months to be able to sit down comfortably . DC2 was conceived that night too

About a year, then about 6 months, then 3 months (DC3 was c section).

2.5 years on here and still havent...

My birth was wonderful and I was very fortunate not to have any birth injuries beyond a graze.
But breastfeeding dampened my libido to basically nothing. I breastfed for 2 years... libido just about returned, but exDP had separated by 9 months postpartum.

So I imagine it’ll be some years yet before I do “get back in the saddle”, given I have no willing babysitters who would babysit often enough for me to do anything LIKE dating.
And I fear my one night stand days are behind me so.... happy Christmas!

First birth probably a year+. Had difficult birth, difficult recovery, prolapse, incontinence, failed at breast feeding, sick baby & generally felt worthless.

Second baby once I stopped bleeding around 6/7 weeks.

About 3 months i think, didn't start again properly till around 10 months. We had low sex drives before having a baby, ttc was a challenge! and its got lower since having the baby. I'm not bothered, could quite happily only have sex once every other month or so as a max.

First tried to do it maybe 13 months pp... Didn't actually want to do it and felt pressured. Not by DH but by myself. Tried again a few months later, no joy as I still wasn't up for it. Stopped BFing at 19 months pp and the libido came back within a couple of weeks and we were back to normal!

Those who did it within the first few weeks.... Serious question - weren't you still bleeding? I'm no prude but it took me a good few weeks before I could switch from the bumper maternity pads to normal pads, and a number of weeks later before it stopped completely.

DC1- elective CS- 7 weeks post partum, lots of wine beforehand!

DC2- elective CS- baby is now 4 months but cannot really remember when we DTD for the first time afterwards

Think baby was at least 2 months old, maybe just before 3 months?

Just realising how tired I have been for months on end...!

First baby about 3 weeks, second baby 3 days
These days we're down to once a month if he's lucky

7 months. First month or so I was too sore and bleeding. After that we simply had no time because of a colicky baby and DPs working hours 🤷🏼‍♀️

It was about 6 weeks after DC1, just before the six week check. It took longer after the next two because of sheer exhaustion.

Months, at least 4 or 5. I could barely walk two weeks after let alone shag! And after I’d healed I was exhausted with waking up multiple times to feed. And my boobs were ENORMOUS and sensitive and leaky. And I had zero libido.

7 days ds1, 10 days ds2. No stitches with either. dh definitely not sexually aggressive, we both wanted to and took it gently. I didn't find breastfeeding dampened my libido.

It was at least 6 months for us, after the baby was able to be put asleep in a different room. But i didn't feel like it before then. It was uncomfortable (forceps and stitches) so we didn't do it again for a little while after.

I'm almost 9mos pregnant now and we haven't dtd since I found out I was pregnant. I've had a previous miscarriage, and i often bleed after sex, so I've been worried about causing bleeding which would stress me out in case it's more than just the sex. Husband is completely understanding though and doesn't even bring it up as he respects how i feel about it. I think i have a really low sex drive generally though as i can go a couple of months without feeling the urge, even when not pregnant. When we dtd it's always fantastic and when we were ttc we did it most days, which was lovely. But i just tend not to need it much generally. I'm always so surprised to hear how frequently other people dtd and how soon after birth people are saying they did it. Within days! Makes me feel like a freak

Under a week.

7 months after dd1 DH was traumatized..

about 4-6 weeks after 2 3 adn 3

I can't believe sex is on people's minds in the first week after having a baby! Not judging, more just amazed! For the first few weeks PP I feel like life was a sleep deprived, achy, bloody, flabby mess!

About 4 months for us I think, but it wasn't good. Painful and dry and stingy afterwards. And DD was a bad sleeper and woke up crying during. I had absolutely no 'want' for ages as I was breastfeeding so it was a rare occurrence. Stopped BFing a couple of months ago and back to normal now

By the book with the 1st 3 so after 6 week check up.

5 days with the 4th. DH was . No idea what came over me but I was desperate even though service continued up to the day before he was born to try to induce.

Now the older ones are teens and awake later than we are, I have to dust the cobwebs out of there .

5 weeks and very cautiously 😂🙈

Just over 3 months I think, partly due to paranoia about getting pregnant again whilst waiting for a coil!

We tried at 9 weeks but it was agony. Tried again at 4 months and same. Took about 18months (and a fuck tonne of physio) until it was bearable. Still shit though 3 years later though.

6 weeks

9 Months .. seriously you lot, rather of had a sleep

Couple of weeks after c-section; gently with no handling of the udders.

Keep lube on hand - the hormones are not your friend postpartum.

Batteriesallgone it was months before DH saw me naked. I still hate him touching me down there, and absolutely will not let him look at it. Birth really fucked me up. Physically and mentally.