What would you think of your dd age 11 went on a sleepover, and three kids were all in the birthday child’s room and your child slept on the landing alone ?

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Strangely I remember something similar, but it was not a birthday. My daughter had been invited for a sleepover and I was furious. She had been left downstairs by herself while her daughter went to her bed upstairs. She was sharing a room with her older sister. Needless to say it never happened again.

When my girls have sleepovers I make a big bed on the living room floor for everyone to solve this issue. Sometimes a child doesn’t feel too comfortable and elects to go and sleep in one of the beds but that’s their choice. YADNBU poor DD.

And OP did answer rightvat the start that she very much doubts her DD volunteered as she was upset

My daughter spent the night at a friend's house when she was about 9 I think, and she was put in a bunk bed, and in the middle of the night the step-dad came in and slept in the other bunk-bed. The daughter slept in the mum's double bed with mum.

Sorry, not step dad. He was the ex-husband.

Sleepovers are awful, usually ends in some fall out or bitching (parent or child). A lot of hassle so that you can tick the box.
I do think if they are going to do this sleepover thing then the minimum age should be when they are at secondary school.
As your tutor puts it op , they are truly horrible little bitches and your daughter is better off out of it.
Why do parents want their children to grow up so fast? Such a shame.

snap , i have a tiny home too, let my bubs friends stay in the sitting room which is massive , this was horrendous reading that poor wee girl left out on her own , i would have gone full on ferral at that mum !!

Definitely not ‘Girl Code’ sounds like the birthday girl learnt all her ‘skills’ from her mother - what a cow! There’s no justification at all.

I had this a few times when I was a kid. It's exclusion bullying and it could very well be happening in other ways too OP. I'd have a chat with your DD about it so she knows the problem is theirs and not hers. She needs to distance herself from this lot so she can find some real friends (easier said than done I know, but possible with support).

She so s she very much doubts she volunteered. Why on earth not just ask her?

I would ask her if anything happened. I stopped my daughter sleeping at a friends after I found out her mum let up to 3 other children stay over at the time my daughter did. My daughter was forced on a bedroom floor with no pillow or blanket! My advise to you would be stop her staying there 😕

Hi! Is it just me or would this annoy the heck out of you? My husband left for work very early this morning, I organised our 3 kids and dropped them at school and daycare. I also sorted lunch for his family who were staying last night. I bought fresh fish for dinner. I tried to start cooking and there is no Gas (he promised to fill it up). I called him 3 times, in 2 hours. It’s now 7pm at night. No response. Because our oven and stove don’t work due to no gas, I’ve had to serve the kids up toasted Sammie’s on the bbq.. He finally responds and sounds annoyed that I’m grumpy. Wtf!! I am super fukked off! Would you be? How would you respond? TIA xx

Did they keep the door open so she was at least part of the group? If there were two on tue girls and n the landing that would have been better. I’m not sure I’d say it was bullying straight away.

Looks like bad planning. Should have only allowed sleepovers for the number which could be accommodated.

I feel for your dd. Similar thing happened to my dd2 when she was roughly the same age. Summer birthday sleepover in birthday girl's garden in two tents. Girls decided to drag sleeping bags into one tent but there was, "no room" for my dd who spent the night the second tent, alone except for the family cat. In the morning they'd all "gone for a walk". Birthday girl's mum found her quietly crying into the cat's fur and phoned me to bring her home as she, "didn't want breakfast spoiled by unpleasantness"!

Claudia - you need to start your own thread for responses, most on here are responding to the original poster.
Nevertheless - I would assume my husband was busy at work and thus couldn't respond. It wouldn't be a major drama to have a cold tea. So, no, I wouldn't be remotely fucked off. (Im assuming here as well there's a reason you can't fill up the gas).

Horrible ! I am so furious even reading about it ! If there was less space, the bday girl (host) should have slept on the landing, or only invite what you can accommodate.

I loathed sleepovers as a child and would have loved a parent who wouldn't let me go

I that's awful behaviour! My daughter also has a small room so when she was younger, herself and friends would take the living room instead. Sleeping bags, cushions, lots of pillows and duvets ect made it comfortable and everyone was included! I could never leave a child to sleep by herself and neither would my dd