To be angry about DH's shoes?

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I kind of feel like I might be.

We aren't poor but we aren't well off either and we have some debts that we're paying off.

DH bought himself a new pair of dress shoes yesterday. They look really nice. I was at work and he bought them by himself. Not unusual as we don't get a lot of time together.

After he left for work I noticed that they were a decent brand and wondered how much they cost so I looked them up online.

He spent £75 on a pair of shoes. We don't usually spend a lot on clothes as it's not really required. If I'd had that amount of money spare I'd have spent it on something nice for both of us which I think is why I'm so annoyed.

On the flip side I know it's his money that he works for and if he wants to buy himself something nice surely he should be allowed to?

I have to disagree with most posters on here. £75 is a lot for a pair of shoes, especially if you can’t really afford it, which the OP said they can’t. DH and I are struggling with very little disposable income and I go nuts if he spends without asking or checking first, maybe that makes me a total freak but that’s the way it is when you have little money and one person is careful and make sacrifices and the other doesn’t

It’s only a pair of shoes - move on

What a twat! Do he's basically gone into debt to buy them!

DO NOT bail him out he needs to feel the consequences of his irresponsible actions.

@Graphista yes he has. I won't bail him out altogether it goes against my instincts you're right he does have to learn. I think in the past I've felt like I've been helping him but I've really just made things worse in the long run.

I think I was the first to say that as they're better quality they'll last longer yes I'm aware that 3x20 is 60, not 75. That's why I said more than 3x. Sigh.

However, now that you've said they aren't for regular use and in fact he doesn't really have any need for them at all, I've changed my mind. He's been a twat.

And that's without the credit card.

I think if you are short of money then it is quite selfish to spend £75 on pair of (basically unnecessary - these aren't work or everyday) shoes.

I have always lived on a fairly tight budget and I have never spent anywhere near £75 on a pair of shoes in my life. And my shoes last just fine.

Anyone saying 'that isn;t expensive for dress shoes' is missing the entire point that 'expensive' is a relative thing. Relative to your total income and your general financial state.