thinking about not doing stockings? dc are 24, 21 and 19,

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i am just so busy working
they are a palavar, and not really wanted.

i know i will though, but aIbu to think about not doing them.

feeling guilty for not buying advent calenders fgs

Ohr i love a stocking and still make DP do me one at 33. I'm not sure if ours are the same as ones i read about on here.

We generally have satsuma. Chocolate and one or two small gifts like a cd and deodarant. I love waking up to my stocking.

Stockings have always been traditional here. For children, the stocking comes from santa, that way the more expensive gifts come from parents, grandparents etc and children learn to thank the person for the gift rather than assume expensive bikes and computers come for free. All the small gifts go in stocking, then they get 1-2 main gifts from parents.

The tradition goes on for adults. From the age of not believing, the stocking is more a place for small token gifts to go. food items, a small book, and items they may like.

We still do stockings for our dcs and now, their partners. Can't see it stopping. Filled with small bits of toiletries, or stationery they use at work, nice choccies and something daft', like racing Santas. When dc2 moved out, I made stockings to take with them and I know they get used, dc1 has already requested that I make stockings for when he moves out (I made the stockings we use at home almost forty years ago) and this year, I have made dgs sticking who h we have filled this year, but in future his mummy and daddy (or Santa) will do in the future.

What about doing a secret santa stocking, so everyone gets one stocking to fill for someone else, or everyone buys a stocking filler for everyone else, including you?

I'm in my 40s and I've never had a stocking

If your DC don't appreciate them, then why bother. If you want them for the tradition then just put chocs, shower gel and socks in.

nedzillawe do the same. 1 present, some chocolate, stationery etc from Santa, other pressies from Santa. DH and I do them for each other and Mil.

Stop!!!

I stopped when my youngest reached 18. Best thing I ever did. Of course there was an outcry for the first year but they soon forget about it and much appreciated the more expensive presents they got instead of the socks, smellies, pens, joke presents, tat they got in a stocking. Also, they used to open these stockings and fall around laughing (in an affectionate awwww Mum nice way) at the stuff I'd got. Sod that for a game of skittles.

For those of you who still do stockings for adults... fine, your choice, but I'd much rather spend time researching a family game we will all play, writing a quiz (takes a long time but I do it every year), planning different and yummy food... than trawling around shops and amazon to buy nonsense stocking presents.

OP, I don't like the waste that goes with stockings.

This year I offered my DC (a bit younger than yours, but not much) a choice of a stocking or cash. They both chose cash!

I think it's possible to avoid both tat and spending too much.

I've picked a few new ideas up for this year from this thread - so thanks OP and pps.

This is my first Christmas without both my parents, (strange to say orphan, as an adult), and so it feels quite poignant and even more important to carry the traditions forward with my DCs.

But will there be a stocking for me? As usual, I'm counting on the big fella in red.

I'm with you @marilynslumroe. I'm not sneering but I am absolutely boggling that so many people do this. I had absolutely no idea that stockings for adults were a thing. And couples stockings done by your mum? Does no one else, apart from me and Marilyn, think that's a bit weird?

Every day's a school day.

I'm 44 and still get a stocking! Me and H do them for each other. I love it. We don't open main presents until after lunch so the stocking gifts first thing seem really exciting.

My mum did me and my sister stockings until we left uni. (Conveniently this lined up with me meeting husband that year!) In the uni years the stocking gifts were toiletries my mum would have bought us anyway to go back to uni in January - toothpaste, shower gel, tampons, etc (plus chocolate coins). But it was a bit of fun to have them delivered by stocking!

I suggested that my 17 year old son might be too old this year, and he was appalled 😂 next year for sure.

Give each of them a tenner and get them to do each other's. That could be fun!

I stopped doing stockings when they were both at high school so 11 and 12

😂😂😂 oh no just stop. My mum stopped when each of us was 18, so it was fairer - so a couple of years my brother got one but I didn't but I had moved out by then was doing my own thing on Xmas anyway, if I was at home on Xmas day my mum would give it to him on Boxing Day when I was working (although I wouldn't have minded)

We do still do small tree presents - one thing each, small (£5-10) "from the tree" although I've no idea where the tree bit came from. It's how mum makes sure she gets a diary every year!

We love "stockings" here - I just don't fill them with tat, and I make it useful stuff that will be used. I think YABU for thinking you are too busy to make time for Xmas stockings whatever age they are!

I still get a stocking and I an 43.

There was a mysterious change in the typical contents which occurred once (now) DH and I were serious enough that we didn't automatically go to my DP's for Christmas. I expect that's because a different elf department is in charge of stockings for the more mature recipient.

I’ve never done stockings for mine. [cruel parent]. They were never a Thing in my childhood and my children (now adults & young adults) have never expressed a desire for them. They do get a mix of small and more significant presents on Christmas morning but they’ve never had them in a stocking.

Same problem here - dcs are 24, 22 and 20. My mum did one for me as an adult and I really liked it. I'm assuming dcs do too! Mine are all male so tend to include things like -

Xmas boxers
Socks
Miniature vodka
Choc Santa
Starbucks card
Something jokey
Something smelly

What's not to like?!

I love it when there are gfs on the scene and I can do one for them - so much easier!

Dh and I swap carrier bags for each other, as the stockings we bought when first married have been passed on to the DC. Our bags contain a few smallish, mainly useful presents, with perhaps a cd, book etc as a treat. DC are now 16 and 19, and we still fill their stockings, but again mostly useful things we would buy anyway. When they were little 'father Christmas' bought character pants and toothbrushes whereas mum and dad only bought standard ones, so practical items still were a treat. The DC will appreciate new tights, the odd bit of makeup, tub of hot chocolate, and for the one going back to university bottles of beer, nicer biscuits and coffee than he would buy himself.

We all still have stockings

We’re going to my parents this year and we’ll all have one. I do my children’s and my Mum, she does the rest

No tat in any of them - my kids have got chocolate, pyjamas, socks, pants, stationery for school, shower gel/shampoo/etc, a couple of books, an umbrella and a bobble hat and scarf

However, in a couple of years' time, when dc are both adults, I can see the appeal of each of us buying a couple of stocking fillers for each other.

We stopped getting stockings when we stopped believing in Father Christmas. I assumed this was standard.

First Xmas I spent with PIL everyone got stockings and I found it really weird.

I’m with Marilyn and Tindog. Just stop! Christmas is only exhausting if we let it become so with ‘traditional’ things that ‘must be done’, usually by us women. Screw that! My 6 year old will get a stocking from Santa but her 22 year old brother graduated to the small group of adults I buy for when he turned 18. If he’d told me he wanted ‘no cheap presents’ he’d be getting nowt, cheeky fucker!