Aibu to hate the girls can't be gamers stereotype

[coolmum223]

So I personally am a gamer. I'm not talking candy crush on my phone I'm talking uncharted, tomb raider and assassins creed on my PS4. But I've gotten a lot of hate on this at work saying girls shouldn't be playing games and what example am i setting to my daughter. The scary thing is this is women saying this.
Now I personally feel I'm setting a pretty decent example to my Daughter by showing her that men aren't the only ones who can play video games and that women can be just as good at them or better (because I always dominate at battlefield I'm not kidding)
so Aibu to think there's nothing wrong with women gaming and that women should feel free to do it if they want to/can

YANBU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I, and many women I know are great gamers. In fact, it's quite laughable that anyone would suggest girls can't/shouldn't play video games...........

I’ve never understood this view either.

I grew up with two older brothers though. We all played video games (as they were once called). I joined in and used to lose most of the time

Ignore her.

@WinterfellWench I had to put up with a sexist group of weirdos at work the other day talking about it. Thankfully the majority of the people at work don't think like that and a few of us play together online on a regular basis

YANBU. Do these women think you should be teaching your daughters knitting instead? Are they worried they'll never catch a good husband if you fill their heads up with nonsense and don't focus on getting their cookery on point?

I had to put up with a sexist group of weirdos at work the other day talking about it.

Ridiculous! How old are these guys? (I assume guys yeah?)

I know as many women as men who are gamers, and who are good at it too. The guys they know are pretty cool with it, and not arsey about women being good at it. (They are all 17/18 to 35-38ish...) Are the sexist ones you know a bit older?

Why would any parent want to model being a gamer to their child? It's not like you're modelling volunteering in a food bank is not?
You play pointless violent games, so what? Why is that good for girls? I'd understand if you were an astro physicist as that is an area where girls need more examples if successful women. But Call of Duty to promote the feminist cause, not convinced.

YANBU - prolific gamer here!! A love of gaming is what brought me and my husband together (18 odd years ago) and we still love having lots of discussions (and sometimes rows lol) about video games. Although I have not really come across this attitude specifically towards female gamers - I have noticed a sneery attitude towards gamers in general - obviously from non-gamers who still think video games are for children and who have no idea how sophisticated games have become - loving gaming is no different to loving films or books etc. really.

ourkidmolly proving my point 😂 clearly not a gamer!

ourkidmolly

Because it's a good idea to show girls that what they get to enjoy doesn't have to be restricted by what society deems to be proper feminine activities? That was the narrative pushed on me thirty years ago and I was utterly miserable. You bet your arse I care about modelling being female and feeling allowed to do the things you actually like.

And there are considerably more games than Call Of Duty out there. I've never played it, never thought about playing it and I am someone who built my own damn gaming rig.

I also love gaming but it's my age not my gender that makes me crap. I don't care, I enjoy it and it's infinitely more interesting than watching tv. I suggest having an online game with the sexist idiots and showing them your skills!

I'm 49 and female and I love gaming. I play all kinds. I've been playing WoW for 10 + years. My dd is 23. She loves gaming.

Anyone can play. Those who judge are very shallow individuals.

I have many other interests too.

Ourkidmolly clearly has no grasp of how huge the gaming industry is and the fact that there are massive opportunities for women here.

I've grown up with video games (Commodore 64 when I was about 5/6 right up to owning all current consoles) I have never once as a woman been told I shouldn't be playing computer games. What a strange concept... and a weird bunch you work with.

I love gaming always have done, though lots of my peers don't feel the same I've never been challenged on it. Seems a weird outdated attitude...

OP

YANBU!

I accidentally started a replay of Dragon Age: Origins last week and now I can't let it go. And my husband at one point banned any further rambling on How The Witcher 3 Is Amazing, Let Me Tell You All The Ways At Length.

I've never seen or heard that be an issue to be honest.

However, I have seen some girls claim they're gamers thinking it would impress the opposite sex.

Game of Fortnite anyone? 😁

I've spent tonight playing Pokémon Quest, which is definitely on the light side of gaming - but it was still ace. I don't get the stereotypes and dislike of gaming, any hobby becomes detrimental if it's all you do!

I met my DP through an online game six years ago and we are expecting our first baby. She wouldn't exist without gaming

We both still play a lot together, a mix of PC and console. We each have our own PS4 now too

Oh and anyone who says girls can't/shouldn't game gets a from me. I'm in a top 100 guild in World of Warcraft with 19 blokes and I hold my own just fine.

YANBU, unless it needs a penis to operate it it isn't only for men. It's a pathetic stereotype that girls don't game, I've enjoyed playing computer games from childhood and still play PS4 as an adult. I love RPG games and find them a good way to unwind, I'm currently obsessed with Oddessey, DP and I have very different playing styles which is interesting. DP and I go and play arcade games as a date night occasionally, I absolutely slaughter him at arcade shooting games, my first ever time playing I got on the leaderboard

@ourkidmolly

PMSL!

So do you think iccle wimmin should be in the kitchen cooking for da menz and being their wee handmaidens?

Do bore off luv.

I played WoW for years but I've not dared resubmit as I can't afford the time sink. I'm mostly playing easy to pick up and put down stuff atm.

It's a hobby for anyone who wants to play. Yes it can be addictive but it's no different imo to watching hours on end of tv. Just moderate yourself like a grown up.

In fact I'd say it exercises your brain far more than consuming endless hours of reality tv shite.

I love Assassins Creed, and Tomb Raider (may have inspired DDs name choice!) I'd probably love Uncharted too but we're a xbox one house!

I keep meaning to continue with Origins (so I can finish and justify getting Odyssey) however come baby bedtime most days I'm knackered

Gosh I miss wow, currently play overwatch most evenings for an hour.

I find it's generational more than gender based.

People over 40-45 tend to not really "get" gaming as a subculture because they missed the boat in terms of riding that particular tech wave.

Most men and women under 35 should be able to accept and respect that women play games just as much as men do, and obviously anyone who plays a game can be any skill level at it.

Do what makes you happy and to hell with anyone else.

@WinterfellWench

Eh? My post clearly didn't imply anything like that? Not sure how you read it like that. No one else did.

I do accept having read the other posts that there are opportunities for girls and women in the world of gaming that I'd not thought about. As someone else said, my tone towards gaming was a bit sneery. Sick of arguing with my son about his screen time and not seeing any benefits to gaming here as yet tbh.