AIBU to think a mother shouldn't be getting pissed with her daughter?

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The daughter is over 18, but both going to a hotel this weekend and happily announces they will be getting pissed

AIBU to think this is inappropriate?

I go out and stay in and have a drink or 2 with my adult dds I think it is nice your "friend" and her daughter are spending time together i hope they have a blast

My DM’s teetotal, but I’ve gone out on girly nights with MIL and SILs and got merry with my dad. Hearing his 30 year old anecdotes for the 100th time is more fun after a few glasses.

Would you feel equally unhappy about a son getting drunk in his father's company?

Nothing wrong with it.

I'd give anything to be able to get pissed with my DM again. The only problem with drinking with her though is that she could drink me under the table!

DD, although over 18, doesn't drink. I do feel like I'm missing out on an important mother/daughter bonding experience 😁

Breathtaking snobbery.

The 'child' in question is over 18 - therefore an adult who can go out and get 'pissed' whenever she wants, with whoever she wants.

Why is it unreasonable that she wants to do so with her mum?

Some of my best nights out have been with my dad, he can go much later into the night then I can!
Also, when I was much much younger and an office junior, I would go out for drinks with the staff who were mostly old enough to be my parents.
I was (still am) very good friends with one lady whose daughter is older than me. We're planning our Christmas night out at the moment.

Is that also inappropriate?

YABVU

I was out drinking with dd last night and no it wasn't inappropriate, what a lot of old bollocks !!!

I've somehow managed to get to 67 without having a drink problem despite several boozy nights out with my dad during my 20s to 40s. Mum as TT so I never had the pleasure of getting tipsy with her.

YABU

I wonder if it is OK for a father to go out and get drunk with his adult son?

I’m going out to get (mostly likely very) drunk with my mum, auntie, cousins, and gran today!
I must be a disgusting “ugly” human being

I once went for a boozy night out with my auntie, my cousin and my cousin’s daughter who was 19 at the time. So they had 3 generations all getting drunk together! My mum was there too but doesn’t drink. We had a great night.

Instinctively I find the idea a bit from, but I suspect that's my hangups, as a result of a not-great relationship with my own parents, speaking. OTOH adult DS and I were playing 'who's got the worst hangover' recently

And actually if my grandmother was more mobile she’d have come for a few g&t’s too!

No. Nor is it any of your business.

What an odd AIBU. Of course it isn’t either ‘innapropriate’ or ‘ugly’. I’ve got a great relationship with my parents & we’ve spent countless evenings/weekends/Christmas’ over the last 30 years having a brilliant time with a few drinks & dancing in the kitchen! No different to doing so with your friends.

Get over yourself!

I'm really hoping for merry evenings with my DC when they are of the relevant age! I don't have that kind of relationship with my parents but I bloody wish I did!

I love a few glasses of wine or GnTs with my DD ...... who is nearly 18 .

She's great company and so are her lovely friends.

My mum doesn't drink, is rather uptight and has never wanted to be friends because she has her own friends and I have mine apparently! Her words. As a result, we don't have much fun, much of a relationship and I rarely confide in her. Not saying you have to go and get pissed together but of the type of relationship I would like with my dds when they are adults I know which I'd go for! Drink or don't drink together, who cares?

I took my DD to a nightclub after she turned 18. We drank cocktails, gin, and ended up doing the bloody macarenna on the dance floor at 2am. Taxi home, and spent the next day on the sofa sniggering at each other whilst dp kept us fed and watered :)

I think there are differences within the getting drunk scenario.
The daughters hen night, maybe posh lunch or just having 1 or two too many at Christmas or something I wouldn’t judge, but I for some reason would judge a bit if they were going for a night out on the town together with the aim of getting pissed. I didn’t think even teenagers went out with the aim of getting pissed anymore.

I’ve had some boozy Sunday lunches with my late mother and some merry evenings with my late ILs but going out and getting pissed with them....no.....

So I'm guessing I shouldn't have gotten pissed with my dad or stoned with my MIL either then, eh?

(If OP has a time machine I can think of more interesting eras to revisit.)

@letsmove why would you judge that scenario? Do you judge people of the same age going out around town for no particular reason other than to have a night out?