AIBU to think a mother shouldn't be getting pissed with her daughter?

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The daughter is over 18, but both going to a hotel this weekend and happily announces they will be getting pissed

AIBU to think this is inappropriate?

Some of the best nights out are the ones with my parents

YABU

Going out with the express intention of getting pissed is problematic imo. 🤷‍♀️

YABVU

Getting drunk with my parents is one of my favourite things. You will probably share a little more with each other than if totally sober and therefore get to know each other more. I lost my Mum a year and a half ago - I would do anything for a night getting pissed and chatting with her.

My mum died 10 years ago. Some of my favourite memories are of our nights out. She was fabulous company. I wish I'd had longer with her to enjoy more drunken memories.

I have a wonderful relationship with my MIL and we regularly have a drunken afternoon/nights together with my fab SILs.

My best friend's mum is part of our social circle and we socialise together at least once a week. She's the queen of shots.

All of the above are acceptable adult relationships. YABVVVU

Don't forget everyone, if you get drunk (according to Mumsnet) then you're an alcoholic! Think twice before you rise that glass of poison to your lips people!

Of all the AIBU I have read this one has got to be the most ridiculous. Are you for real OP?

Planning on getting pissed isn't problematic at all unless you have issues with alcohol.

I like to get pissed a handful of times a year. It's fun. I don't drink much at all apart from those times. I don't even really think about alcohol during a normal working week.

Don’t go for getting drunk these days but if I did so in my daughter’s company she would be mortified. However, each to his/her/their own. Drink and let drink?

So OP have you never really been out with your parents and in-laws for dinner and had a few drinks or got a bit tipsy over Christmas dinner together.
I don't think they're planning on going out to the local Ritzy and passing out in the street they're just enjoying each others company on a grown up night out.

@BitchQueen90
“Planning on getting pissed isn't problematic at all unless you have issues with alcohol.”

Hands up 😂
I’m a recovering alcoholic, ten years sober. Even before drinking alcoholically I’d have felt uncomfortable about this, maybe because I was always keeping a lid on it.

18 fine, 14 not so much ( I’m looking at you Sil)

I get pissed with my dad regularly. If everyone is an adult what does it matter? I drank in the same pub as him when I was about 19, he liked the fact him or one of his friends would usually be keeping an eye on us from a distance! And now he is one of my favourite people to spend time with.

I am at my DDs house right now. We got a bit pissed last night and had fun chatting and listening to music. She is an adult of 26 why would this be even a tiny bit wrong?

Oh and DD2 is joining us today and it is likely we will go for drinks. She is only 20. I am obviously a terrible mother.

The more I think about this the more it annoys me......apart from the sheer ridiculousness it just seems it's another excuse to judge another mother's behaviour and find it lacking.

I suspect you wouldn't judge a father for doing this? What about the dads that see buying their son their first pint when they turn 18 as a right of passage? I know lots of dads and sons who go to the football and to watch bands together - usually involves alcohol. Do they not deserve your judgement too?

She is not a child though, but an adult, Yabvvvu.

Why is it inappropriate? They’re both adults. If the daughter was under 18 I would be more concerned, but she’s not.

I think going out to specifically get drunk is sad. I can’t see anything wrong with drinking with adult children though. We’ve six friends for supper tonight and one couple are bringing their 22year old daughter as a) we’ve known her all our lives b) she has no better offer and c) we bring our children up as part of a community where age isn’t that relevant. Our children often join us for social events, drinks parties, suppers, dances - as do many other peoples locally.
Then again we’ll happily spend an evening with our ninety something neighbours and a bottle of Bordeaux.

My first thought was that 'getting pissed' is usually just a figure of speech. I'll use it about going out for some drinks, but I'm actually a pretty light drinker and too much of a control freak to get roaring drunk.

Yup. YABU.

Possibly the most irritating aibu I have ever read. Just another form of snobbery. Deeply unappealing.

Bet you are a barrel of laughs OP if you are this uptight and judgemental.

Wish both of my parents were still here to get pissed with. Some of the best nights of my life were having a few drinks with my parents.

Totally depends - a few drinks fine, getting shitfaced and throwing up = not really fine for anyone TBH, family or not!

I love going out with my mum and getting drunk- her and my sister are literally my favourite people to go out with. It's more sad that you feel it's a problem