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AIBU to think a mother shouldn't be getting pissed with her daughter?

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drednkva · 01/12/2018 05:20

The daughter is over 18, but both going to a hotel this weekend and happily announces they will be getting pissed

AIBU to think this is inappropriate?

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WizardOfToss · 01/12/2018 07:29

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Miscible · 01/12/2018 07:33

It depends what they mean by getting pissed. Getting gently merry, fine. Getting totally rat-arsed, puking all over the place and passing out, not fine. But that would be the case whatever scenario was planned, not just the mother/daughter scenario.

Kissel · 01/12/2018 07:33

I feel “pissed” as a descriptor is quite subjective. My mum is my friend and we have had many a good night out/ weekend away together!

Undercoverbanana · 01/12/2018 07:35

All adults so it’s up to them.

If that’s all they are going to do, then it’s a bit sad imho but it’s none of my business. Are they doing a sporting event or going to a gig or something? Why not have a few drinks and a laugh afterwards?

HariboLecter · 01/12/2018 07:38

Is it the age difference or the fact it's her daughter that's the issue?

It's not something I'd do, but it's not a big deal is it?

Frustratedandalone · 01/12/2018 07:38

Oh behave. I love sitting with my mum, drinking whatever she’s got in and putting the world to rights!

We never really got on when I was growing up and now we are closer. It’s one of our favourite things to do. We also do theatre days in London where there are many cocktails involved.

I also love having a glass of wine with my MIL. She was very reserved when we met and it was my way to get her to loosen up a bit. We have a drink once a month and a good natter.

So yeah YABU

Immigrantsong · 01/12/2018 07:40

Yanbu.

ChipsAreLife · 01/12/2018 07:41

Having a few drinks with my mum was one of my favourite things to do. I miss it.

What do you think is going to happen after a few drinks?! They are going to get strung out and search for crack on the streets together?!

ToastyFingers · 01/12/2018 07:42

I used to love a good knees up with my mum, most of all I miss drinking whisky with my nan and watching CSI.
If you have a healthy relationship with alcohol, I can't think of anyone better to hit the sauce with. Much better than making small talk with a bunch of acquaintances at the pub.

Monestasi · 01/12/2018 07:43

A couple of times a year I get rat arsed with my mum - on Gin. She is my Gin buddy.

We do get pissed, because we make a good go at denting the bottle.

Absolutely appropriate in my book.

Can’t see it happening with dd though. She seems to not have inherited the lush ways of her mother and grandmother! Grin

ElainaElephant · 01/12/2018 07:45

I have a good friend who is young enough to be my daughter.

She is well over 18, and a mother herself.

Is it OK if we get pissed together? If so, why is it not OK for me and my actual daughter to get pissed together?

eggofmantumbi · 01/12/2018 07:48

Some of my best nights out have been with my parents. They're hilarious!!!

roundaboutthetown · 01/12/2018 07:51

Announcing to the world it is your mission to get pissed for the weekend is pathetic whoever you do it with, imvho. It shouldn't be the whole point of any occasion. Having an enjoyable weekend with your adult child which involves sharing alcohol, though, and possibly drinking enough to get a bit drunk, is something I'm sure many families have enjoyed doing - the UK does not exactly have a reputation for being teetotal!

dustowl · 01/12/2018 07:53

Is it the terminology 'getting pissed' that offends you OP ?
I love having a drink with my DD but don't set out to 'get pissed' as such . But it happens

fibonaccisequins · 01/12/2018 07:54

My mil is my 2nd favourite drinking buddy - she's hilarious!! The only reason I don't drink with mum is because she doesn't really drink that much. Well, except at Christmas Wink
Not talking falling down drunk, but had a few and talking shite? Oh absolutely!! How else would we put the word to rights?? Grin

MessyBun247 · 01/12/2018 07:58

God some people on this thread need to UNCLENCH.

MephistophelesApprentice · 01/12/2018 08:01

Given that a huge number of mammalian species enjoy collective intoxication, often in family groups, not getting pissed with a relative is the unnatural position.

babysharkah · 01/12/2018 08:01

Erm no it's not not inappropriate.

Why do you think it is op?

Caprisunorange · 01/12/2018 08:03

I used to be so envious of friends who could relax and have a laugh with their parents. Especially the parents who would invite all the friends round and make cocktails. It’s so sociable and welcoming

ZenNudist · 01/12/2018 08:04

YABU

FFS

sandalsinthebin · 01/12/2018 08:07

We love going out (or staying in) and having a drink together when they’re around. Most families with older DCs that I know do the same. I’m very happy that my DCs want to (I do try not to be a boring old fart) Smile

Dotte · 01/12/2018 08:07

I also know plenty of fathers and sons who go to the pub and come back pissed, is that inappropriate too?

One of the father’s is nearly 90 and the son late 60’s, they’ve been doing it for years.

maddiemookins16mum · 01/12/2018 08:12

Me and my mum would often get squiffy (very) together. We had some great nights. It’s all part of the ADULT relationship you eventually have with your child.

BlaaBlaaBlaa · 01/12/2018 08:13

Why is it inappropriate?

ChillyAutumnMorning · 01/12/2018 08:15

I also know plenty of fathers and sons who go to the pub and come back pissed, is that inappropriate too?

I suspect it's only inappropriate because the OP is holding 'mothers' to some ridiculous standard.

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